The Garden Fence - proper Old Style support and chat!

Hard_Up_Hester

Sending love and hugs to MMF and VJ's.
CHS and I have both lost both our parents so unload here all you want, we are all here to listen and support you both.

silvasava

Seconding HuH's post. Huge hugs to both of you and please continue to vent all you like on here. This is something many of us have gone through and many of us will have to face.

VJsmum

Went to bed early and slept ok. Woke up with a determination to 'get on with it' - every day, in my head, when i sink into self pity, my mum tells me that i have to get on with it. More so today, 8 years to the day since she died I miss her every day but it still makes me smile that she's still telling me off .

I don't plan to go down today - i live 150 miles away - so i am catching up with washing and trying to do the christmas shopping so that I can tick that off my list. Will have a nice lunch with DD whilst shopping - she's been a bit abandoned of late.

One day / hour / minute at a time... I don't think this is The End, I do think it's the Beginning of The End

Thinking of MMF

So, I need to sort out the s0dding dishwasher now - the pump's gone. I would leave it, but it will start to smell.

mardatha

Sending love. light & strength to all who need it xxx

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And many, many hugs xxx

MMF007

Oh chaos! Mum has a chest infection and with her other long term illnesses there is no way I was chancing not taking her to docs. Also, the weather froecast is abysmal tomorrow and friday, so it was go now or wait til Monday!

So we visited dad - he looks weaker but is till talking and I managed to feed him some porridge and mum gave me a small amount of weak tea. I told his nurse what we had to do and just asked if he was likely to be still with us in about 4 hrs time, when we could get back. She said she was pretty certain, yes. He still has a good colour and his feet are warm.
We then had to dash 75 miles to get to mum's doc (no point getting her seen anywhere else, unless they are familiar with her medical hist she gets dismissed easily). We had to ring doc to say we were running 10 mins late, due to a temp bridge closure so an ambulance could get through single-line roadworks!.

Doc gave mum necessary prescription, we raced to home to try and secure everything in readiness for gales, put the kettle on for a quick brew before doing the 75 miles back and ......the phone rang. Hospital to say they are moving dad to nearer home (cottage hospital type place, only 20 miles away). Thank goodness we had vacated the hotel and booked another one on a cancellable basis this morning. So we had our clothes etc with us and don't have go back to inverness again just now.
Hospital say the transfer will take place this afto and we can, of course, visit once he's settled in.

His best friend was already on the way to visit, so it's good that dad will see him (timings should work out, otherwise we could all be chasing up and down the road after each other!). Mobile phones are great but not if you driving!

I have cancelled the hotel, had a brew and drawn breath.

Our journeys were half the distance you have to do, VJsMum. Please drive safely and take a break when you need to xx

VJsmum

Thanks MMF - I generally don't drive, but go on the train. Take care - I am thinking of you.

Dad has been told. medics said that they might take a sample of prostate to test but there were many other indicators and now I have had time to take it in i can see that things add up. he took the news fairly well apparently, just is anxious to go home. i wasn't there. yesterday he was so confused that I didn't think they would tell him today, so gambled and came home. I am the only one who lives away. It is a bit strange as he is actually my stepfather but he married my mum when i was 5 and treated me like his own, i think we both forget that he isn't my biological father, but it means that legally i have little influence.

My sister and two younger brothers are his biological children and they were with him. Doctors have not put a timescale on it but said the prognosis was 'not good'. I'm no medic, but i think i could work that out for myself...

So a strange and uncertain period starts here. My mum had COPD and, whilst she was diagnosed as terminal, it was a slightly different scenario as it progresses so slowly... December 6th is not a good day in our family, bizarrely it was also the day i was supposed to have arrived in the world - but i waited till the 18th, maybe I knew...:p

mardatha

MMF007 are you up north now? The forecast is dire, my pal in Skye says Caroline has already hit there. Hope you are not on the road too much tonight and tomorrow x

VJsmum

On the other hand i spoke to my line manager today and told him that, whilst i should be fine for marking, this had happened.

He then told me his, i am guessing, 30 something year old daughter was diagnosed with leukemia last week, she was pregnant and has lost the baby that really is shocking...

Islandmaid

VJsmum wrote: »

On the other hand i spoke to my line manager today and told him that, whilst i should be fine for marking, this had happened.

He then told me his, i am guessing, 30 something year old daughter was diagnosed with leukemia last week, she was pregnant and has lost the baby that really is shocking...

How sad - life is so cruel sometimes