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I do have an electric heatpad and it really helps, but it's too warm to use it just atm! I've an appointment with the Pain Management Clinic in a couple of weeks so I'm hopeful they'll get me sorted.
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update on the heart, lights are a bit more flashy than I thought, but it looks good .
it keeps making me giggle as all I can think of is my dad saying " it's like Blackpool illuminations out here "£223/ £250 GC7 -
Burtha, I remember my Dad saying that, usually when we had committed the unforgivable sin of leaving an unnecessary light on and adding to the electricity bill.
I bet the heart looks lovely.
Can't stop here chatting this morning as I'm being picked up at 9.30 to go and retrieve a parcel that the postman couldn't/wouldn't deliver. I was sitting about 8ft from the front door when he pushed a card through saying that he needed a signature. He could have knocked the door, rung the bell or even coughed loudly.
Never mind, in the great scheme of things it's only a petty annoyance.
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Want to escalate an argument? Smile.I believe that friends are quiet angels
Who lift us to our feet when our wings
Have trouble remembering how to fly.10 -
Burtha - I used to look back at my house when I went to the bottom of our very long garden - to shut away the ducks and chickens and say those words. We also say it when we look at the vicarage!
Another hot one here. Lovely weather to block and spray the black shawl.
Offered the completed crochet baby poncho as an alternative to a knitted cardigan.
Have another shawl nearly finished - will make a scarf next as it looks like the craft fair will be in September now.
I was too tired to read in bed last night - Mr F said that I was asleep before him - a rare event.Decluttering Achieved - 2023 - 10,364 Decluttering - 2024 - 8,365 August - 0/45
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Love today's thought monna. A neighbour who lived on one side of me had an affair with the man who lived on the other side of me. She left her husband, was moved into Council housing and within a few weeks, moved in with the man on the other side (lots of divorce confrontations happened shouting across my yard and on the pavement outside my bedroom late one evening).
DS2 came in from playing (my boys and the boys from the end house), to complain that the woman was watching them through a gap in the curtains and glaring at them - were they allowed to make rude signs at her. No that would not be acceptable but I suggested that if they all smiled at her and waved, that would really annoy her.
A sometime friend of mine (our paths only coincided for a couple of years) said that his wife could make him feel about 3" tall, just by saying "Yes, dear."My mission in life is not only to survive,but to thrive and to do so with some Passion, some Compassion, some Humour and some Style.NST SEP No 1 No Debt No mortgage9 -
My mum used to say it's like Blackpool Illuminations burtha. She had a strange fear of electricity in the 50s. We had gas and electric meters and she was always checking them. She seemed to believe electricity could leak out, we did have electricity in the shiny new prefab I was born in but after my brother died we moved to a victorian terrace.All the light switches were bakelite, there were a row of them in the hallway and one worked but the inside was exposed. I remember one of my sisters daring me to lick an exposed brass screw inside and one day I did , not something I'd recommendOver the past year as I've tried to work out exactly what happened between the ambulance taking my brother to hospital for the last time and me sitting at a street party probably for the Queens Corination outside a terraced house I've manged to fill in some gaps.The Dr mentioning asbestos. Those postwar prefabs were emergency housing after the wartime blitz and full of asbestos. They were council housing. I'd always assumed the terrace house was landlord owned but now realise it was council.My mum and dad exchanged that house for a five year old council semi in 1959 which had big gardens and was in a lovely area.The woman who'd lived in that house couldn't adapt to what she thought was the back of beyond, missed her mum and begged my mum to exchange. She was happy and my mum had her beloved gardens again.It's taken a pandemic but I seem to have finally filled in the gaps.I've been one for years of shouting it's like Blackpool lights in here. I've had many an argumant over the years for switching off a socket and unplugging gadgets, hairdryers etc. when the owner is miles away. A lot of it was installing updates/ doing a security check etc. Dd2 used to yank plugs out of sockets by the lead not even switching off the socket then complain it was broken.I hope you're feeling less pain ivyleaf. The newish health and wellbeing centre here is wonderful. The other one still exists but the " My pain is worse than yours" self help group remains there and that suits us fine as they were always negative never positive. Recently focus is more on management than wallowing in misery instead of learning what will help.Youngest has found all the notes and exercises the physio gave her and those from the pain psych really helpul since February last year.pollyxIt is better to light a single candle than to curse the darkness.
There but for fortune go you and I.8 -
Thanks Polly - I've been much better today and haven't needed even paracetamol8
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I remember my grandma had to plug the iron into the lightbulb socket, but the switch on the wall always gave me a tickle and I was frightened of it. Grandma would let me iron teatowels but Mam was scared I would hurt myself, so when I got married I had no idea how to iron DH's shirts and he had to show me!2025 Fashion on the ration
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MrsCD said:I remember my grandma had to plug the iron into the lightbulb socket, but the switch on the wall always gave me a tickle and I was frightened of it. Grandma would let me iron teatowels but Mam was scared I would hurt myself, so when I got married I had no idea how to iron DH's shirts and he had to show me!My mum and her sisters used to have a thick blanket on the table and the iron in the light socket. When we first moved into the terrace there was lovely big range with a bread oven, rail near the top for airing things and mum often cooked stews and things on it although she had a gas cooker. We would make toast with the toasting fork and gaze into the flames..It had a fender around the hearth with a little seat either end. I used to sit there and dream.She asked to have that removed and was allowed to if she bore the cost.One of my uncles was a buider and removed it and fitted a fireplace.Something I never forgot is when he pulled the range and mirrored overmantel out the wall was behind was full of cockroaches. I'd never seen one before but suddenly they were running everywhere. The pest control man came in but poor dad would get home from work and have to do a cockroach hunt all over the house before my sisters and I would go to bed.I used to be in bed shaking the covers, peeping around my book to see if anything was lurking and turning the light off and on to see if anything moved.I think my mum must have been very relieved to move to that modern house. She bought a gas wash boiler with an attached wringer an electric iron and a ewbank carpet sweeper. No fridge for a few years. There was a big cold slab in the larder and she was very happy with her lot.So was I as we had a mangle in the back yard of the old house and I had to turn the handle as she fed the washing through.We moved to the modern house in 1959. I was about to start Grammer School and it seemed like a very different world.When my first husband and I moved into a large pretty grotty flat in 1970 silverfish used to run across the hearth of the coal fire and I used to worry about my books - they eat the glue!Luckily the first very good GP my doctor had us in a 2 bed newish council ground floor flat a year after our son was born and then a 3 bed council house a few doors away from my mum when Dd1 was born.My husband had been in a hit and run accident and was on crutches. Son was a year and a week old and dd1 a newborn.Luckily the house was a five minute walk from the 2 bed flat. I have never been so grateful for family as I was then.I still get angry Florence at the Iron Lady. I remember begging friends , family and any one who'd listen not to be fooled by the "ordinary housewife with her shopping basket"many women were taken in because she was a women and they thought she'd fight their corner.My two youngest are Thatcher's Children. The selling off of everything that wasn't nailed down and promoting buy now pay later caused a lot of damage. When I moved here in 1975 we were all young with young children. Things were ok for a few years then people fell for you need a second car, foreign holidays, extensions, conservatories etc.The bank loans., 2nd mortgages and credit cards arrived and in time many here had homes repossesed or had to sell for less than their worth.Lives were ruined, a lot of the pupils in o ur lovely little school had to leave their friends and we adults saw our lovely little community change..My mum had a horror of debt and told us .if you haven't got the money in your purse you can't afford it. Well I couldn't buy a new build cash but I could pay a mortgage. She was very against it but I'd noticed obvious drug pushing on the corner opposite my mums house and was tired of being called a snob and stuck up because my 4 and 5 year old played in the back garden rather on the very busy road at the front although their friends liked playing in our garden .My mum wouldn't move here but within a year moved in with one of my sisters after waking during the night to a man demanding her purse she moved out that night andnever went back.From time to time we would go to the shops in Liverpool. I have very clear memories of being in the shops and you could hear a pin drop everywhere was quiet. On the way home I put the car radio on and the news from Hillborough was coming through.The news of the Iron Lady came on the radio on the way back from another shopping trip and I had to pull over and breathe.I thought of all those damaging years and the ruined lives and had no sorrow or pity.I find it unacceptable that in the 2020s it's still common for cockroaches and other vermin to share living space with many. For children to go hungry and the New Jerusalem of the Welfare State to be diminished day by day.pollyxIt is better to light a single candle than to curse the darkness.
There but for fortune go you and I.10 -
Not a lot has changed since the Hungy Thirties in some places Polly has it. Disgrace.
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