The Garden Fence - proper Old Style support and chat!

VJsmum

March of the mods anyone?   Heel toe, Heel toe, Heel toe, Heel toe  jump forwards jump back, here we go again

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xPkKgrmgFTw&list=RDxPkKgrmgFTw&start_radio=1

Nargleblast

Will someone please control that heffalump, he has two feet too many to do the March of the Mods.

And which very inventive OS-er bought up a job lot of reduced price squirty cream and is now at the end of the Fence flogging it for a quid a can? Hang on, let me look at the date on it.....best before October 2014...oh that's ok, it's the Use By date that's important.....how odd! They've all been scratched off the cans.

Helebore

You're all too young for march of the mods whatever that was! Supertramp live in Paris '79 is on Sky Arts!

Nargleblast

Tell the DJ, he might play it for you.
What do you mean, he hasn't got any Supertramp? Ok, I'll ask her...

Helebore, no Supertramp but he does have Max Bygraves and Mrs Mills Piano Party, will they do?

alfsmum

I have a few boxes of biscuits left from Christmas to go with a nice cup of tea

Helebore

Nargle I tried to reply but it said at top of post that 'body is/has one character short' whatever that means! Weird! Anyway.

Helebore

Alfsmum: Chocolate please! 

pollyanna_26

VJsmum said:

Thanks so much for your responses and sharing your sources.  Polly I have looked up DBT and am wondering if that might be good for him.  THe counsellor says he is 'outcomes based' i.e. finding techniques and tools to help but I think some acceptance of himself will be required.  I will keep a close eye on it all and J knows that I am going to do that.  He scared himself as well as us, which is probably good..
Poor boy - sobbing in my arms... breaks my heart.

But we are onwards and upwards now

Before I talk parties. DBT was probably the only thing that would change my dds life. It's different strokes for different folks but umpteen CBT attempts didn't offer the deeper help she needed. We found a lot of counsellors especially those in our NHS mental health team worked on the basis of pull yourself together and make an effort which made things much worse.

She had some counselling with a local mental health charity and at the end the counseller threw in a bit of DBT and dd could connect with that but it wasn't funded by the charity so was under the radar. At the last session the lovely lady revealed she'd walked a similar path herself and DBT was what helped her.

We mentioned it to Superdoc and when Borderlne Personality Disorder was finally confirmed he brought in the counsellor who changed dds life. Along with the main diagnosis dd was diagnosed with PTSD, Agoraphobia and Overwhelming Anxiety which were fallout from all the years under the wrong diagnosos. So lots of damage to undo.

It's very different from CBT as both Counsellor and Patient are equally involved . Dd had a choice of weekly or 2 weekly appts and opted for the latter due to her uncertain physical health. She was given the counsellors phone no to contact if she was ill and told no pressure , I initailly made the calls due to dds phone phobia but after a while she would send a text herself.

At the first appt she came back into the waiting room smiling with an A4 file under her arm. Homework she said. At each session they'd open a box in her head of memories and damage and discuss different ways of working through each issue .

Homework would be going through the notes of that days discussion which her counsellor had printed off . She began to stop blaming herself and judging herself hopeless.

She had 2 weekly appts over 14 months until she felt she could cope. She is free to go back if needed but apart from an occassional wobble she's ok. She has the tool box of all the things she learned and her meds from Superdoc.

It's not what everyone would need but was the only thing that would turn her life around.

Sorry this is so long.

You're welcome to pm me if you have any questions VJs.I'm sure with your previous experience this doesn't need saying but anyone with family or friends who are struggling. Stay strong , hold them up when they need it and let them know you love and care for them and will never let them down. Just like physical illness they need that strong support.

pollyx

pollyanna_26

What the heck does Body is required mean? It's above the reply box as I'm typing this. I'm willing to go the extra mile for OS but I aint donating my poor ,old, worn out body.

Everyone seems to have forgotten Softstuff. We can't have a party without her and her amazing food. From memory Lyn and I were on mint tea as the non drinkers.

I've still been working my way through the whole thread. There are 1125 pages so far so a long way to go. Some sad posts. I reread burthas first post about 3mw but knowing he was history and she and her family have a spruced up Frog and happy home now meant I read it with a happy outcome after all her hard work.

That's just reminded me she and I were going to dance to I will survive and The Time Walk on a table. She's kept on running but I may need a set of steps and possibly a physio in attendance.

Please can the Heffalump comments cease? I can't go through all that yet again. As for jelly babies you don't stand a chance!

Going back from the start of the thread I have laughed a lot. Does anyone remember Monna calling Mar Herod? Then there was Hesters knitted Willy.

That's proper OS fun. We need to get back to that but no Heffalumps allowed.

pollyx

Eta No mods or scooters for me but proper British built motor bikes. My poor mother lit candles and prayed for my soul but I was Born to Run..

camelot1001

I'm just home, am I too late?