The Garden Fence - proper Old Style support and chat!

jamanda

Pollyanna - you are so right. Big tough me cried when I heard. You don't realise how much things are on top of you until they disperse.


She is still a bit shell shocked at the moment. I know she didn't believe there could be light at the end of the tunnel. The kids are the only reason she kept going. The kids seem so different now, too. They have somewhere to go.


My house only has 2 bedrooms and my elderly mother occupies one of them, so there was no room here unless I laid them in a row on the floor and chucked a quilt on them.

pollyanna_26

jamanda wrote: »

Burtha,


I can't believe the parallels between your situation and my daughter's.


I mentioned before about nasty divorce etc, the kids don't want anything to do with nasty ex (who has threatened them in various ways since, whilst trying to get them to like him!!) Their house has now eventually sold and she and 3 kids were to be homeless.


With the first stroke of luck she has seen, she has managed to get a council house and is currently in the process of packing/painting/moving etc. etc.


There appear (reading between the lines) to be admirers in the distance too.


Every time I read your posts your situation reminds me so much of hers.


I am so glad you are beginning to live again, and hope your kids are settling to a proper life. Two of the grandchildren are poorly, one with Chronic Fatigue and one with Chronic something or other which causes violent and prolonged pain in the stomach. Can't be diagnosed, apparently.


I believe both of these were brought on by stress. Now the stress is being removed, and they have a home to go to, I'm hoping they will improve dramatically.


Very best wishes


J

Sorry for quoting the earlier post in full jamanda but I still have no idea how to quote part of a post .


Reading back after your most recent post I've picked up on the reference to threats . Not knowing the background of your dds situation are those threats in the past or happening now? If they are ongoing there is a law against that . It's many years ago but I had wonderful support from my local police in an abusive marriage . 3 arrests and nights in the cells and court 3 times sorted it . The first time I was granted an injunction with power of arrest if he came near us or made any contact . He twice broke the injunction by kicking the front door down in the middle of the night .The third court appearance resulted in an enduring injunction and the clear message that he would spend a long time in prison if he was arrested again and the bully was suddenly the frightened one ,game over .


Hopefully he's leaving them in peace but if not things are dealt with much better nowadays . I was just lucky with my local police but the laws are strong and effective when needed The thing with bullies is they can dish it out but they are craven cowards under the skin .
pollyx


Edited to add it doesn't only apply to physical violence . Texts , phone calls , face to face interaction etc are covered too as they are classed as mental abuse .

jamanda

Thank you Polyanna. He was just spouting hot air (I think). He is in Northern Ireland (where his mum lives). I know it isn't far away these days, but I think we are Ok for now.


Daughter and grandson had a restraining order on him for 18 months which has now lapsed, and he hasn't turned up. They could, and would, get another if he starts up again. He is going to be devastated when the house sale funds are distributed since he will have the lesser amount. Everything was his - his house, his sofa, his food etc., and he kindly let them make use.


He still believes that everything is his and it is being stolen from him, so we will see. Daughter (via myself) now has a German Shepherd which doesn't like strangers. This gives us all a lot of comfort because if he found out where they are going and tried to get in, he would possibly be eaten

silvasava

tonny001 wrote: »

Amazing to see how long these threads have been running! I need more information about carpet cleaning and handmade rugs online store like rugler.

Don't think this is the right thread for you Tonny - take a look at something like the Flylady thread.

elona

silva

Every one of his posts mention a certain company so I doubt he actually reads any reply.

burtha

I am so pleased things are improving for you all (obviously not the 3mw)

silvasava

Thanks Elona - it's obviously a ploy to get people to look at various websites then. I notice the post has been removed
Not been posting much lately but still reading along. Do hope everyone is OK but virtual hugs to any poorlies or anyone feeling down x

mardatha

Bit meh this time of year SS, not a lot to post about lol just sitting tight waiting for Spring.

VJsmum

It's coming, Mar, it's coming

I am doing our last Hedgelaying of the season tomorrow, can't do any after this cos the sap is rising...:T

Beautiful blue sky and sunny here

ivyleaf

I discovered yesterday that I'd been logged out of MSE, and it wouldn't let me back in. I requested a new password, and was emailed one, but couldn't get in with that one either!

Then I had an email warning me that another person had just been trying to access my forum account.....no they hadn't, it was me each time!

I gave up, and asked for a new password again today, then it let me in and allowed me to change the new password, but it wouldn't accept my usual one as it was "Not strong enough". So I added an unusual word, and then it was happy and I'm back in, for now.....Not counting my chickens! (Hello Sheila if you're around )

candygirl

ivyleaf wrote: »

I discovered yesterday that I'd been logged out of MSE, and it wouldn't let me back in. I requested a new password, and was emailed one, but couldn't get in with that one either!

Then I had an email warning me that another person had just been trying to access my forum account.....no they hadn't, it was me each time!

I gave up, and asked for a new password again today, then it let me in and allowed me to change the new password, but it wouldn't accept my usual one as it was "Not strong enough". So I added an unusual word, and then it was happy and I'm back in, for now.....Not counting my chickens! (Hello Sheila if you're around )

That happened to me a while ago, n when I got back in I had to endure the horrid new blue layout:mad: Back to green now thank God