The Nice People Thread, No.16: A Universe of Niceness.

Pyxis

Will you talk to the Rescue people about the incident?

LydiaJ

Jazee wrote: »

If I have to eat a ready meal, then it's the coop's sausage and mash.

DD likes those too.

Pyxis wrote: »

:A

I remember seeing a period drama on TV once.......can't remember what the programme was, but I think it was set in the 1900s or maybe the 1910s/20s.
Might have been Dr. Finlay's Casebook.
Anyway, there was a woman who for years hadn't dared set foot outside the house because of what she considered to be a curse.

Long story short, the 'curse' she had endured for years and years was a urinary fistula, a hole in the bladder which caused urine to leak into the vagina. Because of this, urine would escape constantly via the vagina, causing incontinence over which she had no control. Hence she was housebound, due to the shame of being constantly wet and smelly, and needing to wash all the time.

It was a drama, but it is an actual condition which can occur, but which now is put right straight away by surgery. Imagine having had to endure that for years, and never go out.
And all because she had no money for doctors.

It still happens in countries without proper healthcare systems. It's usually a childbirth injury as a result of an obstructed labour in circumstances where C-section is unavailable. Addis Ababa has a whole hospital just to deal with such fistulae that was set up by a couple of Australian obstetricians in 1974. The husband of the couple has since died, but I believe the wife is still there, although she's 94 and there are now lots of Ethiopian doctors and midwives widening the reach of the work, and a training programme turning out more of them.
https://hamlinfistula.org/

silvercar

LydiaJ wrote: »

Heartbroken.
Took New Dog to see my friend this afternoon. We went for a walk with her dog. We had two balls, but both dogs kept chasing the same ball as each other. There were a few growly arguments about it, and then suddenly there was a fight. New Dog had poor Friend Dog pinned to the ground with her jaws round her neck, and was resisting all our efforts to get the two dogs apart. Mercifully, it seems she got her teeth into Friend Dog's collar rather than her flesh, and the collar was old and worn, and it broke, enabling Friend Dog to wriggle free. We each got hold of our own dog and pulled them away from each other.
Friend Dog was shaken and scared, but no blood was drawn. New Dog, having calmed down, forgot all about it within half a minute, and was behaving in a friendly manner to Friend Dog and not understanding why she was cowering in fear. My friend is a friend in a million, and once we were both assured that her dog was OK, was everything I could have asked for, supporting me through my shock and upset.
DD and I have discussed it, and we don't see how we can keep her. Because of my working hours, any dog we have will have to go to doggy daycare, or get walked by a dog walker - and they won't accept her if she attacks other dogs. It wouldn't be fair to expect DD to be responsible for taking her to the park if she might have to deal with an incident like that, and I can't do all the walking myself. The whole thing is unmanageable.
DD and I are both devastated, and DS, although much less of a "dog person" than we are, is sad that we are so upset. New Dog is so delightful to humans - friendly and enthusiastic but also gentle, and altogether lovely, as well as graceful and beautiful and a superb runner. But we can't see how we can make it work if she can't be trusted with other dogs.

So sorry to read this. It sounds like new dog has history, you should have been warned. It seems the rescue centre made an effort to see if you were suitable for the dog but not vice versa.

LydiaJ

Pyxis wrote: »

Will you talk to the Rescue people about the incident?

Yes. I'm sure the problem is fixable with the right support. She didn't, after all, draw any blood. But I can't put her in daycare, or have her walked by a dogwalker with other dogs, and I can't send DD to the park with her without going too. She needs a home where she can have an adult responsible for her on every walk, preferably with a private field or large garden where she can have her off lead exercise where there are no other dogs. We can't provide that for her.

Pyxis

LydiaJ wrote: »

Yes. I'm sure the problem is fixable with the right support. She didn't, after all, draw any blood. But I can't put her in daycare, or have her walked by a dogwalker with other dogs, and I can't send DD to the park with her without going too. She needs a home where she can have an adult responsible for her on every walk, preferably with a private field or large garden where she can have her off lead exercise where there are no other dogs. We can't provide that for her.

You're right.

Poor Friend dog, but thank goodness there was no injury, and thank goodness, too, that this trait was discovered early on.

Out of interest, is Friend dog a lot smaller? If so, the whippet side of her may have taken over. Just a thought.

LydiaJ

silvercar wrote: »

So sorry to read this. It sounds like new dog has history, you should have been warned. It seems the rescue centre made an effort to see if you were suitable for the dog but not vice versa.

Indeed. It's a small independent centre. They gave us what information they had - that she had been brought in as a stray and had been getting on OK with the other dog she was sharing a cage with. Next time, we'll go to one of the big centres - Dogs Trust, RSPCA etc where they assess them in much more detail and are able to tell you a lot more about the dog even if it did arrive as a stray.

LydiaJ

Pyxis wrote: »

You're right.

Poor Friend dog, but thank goodness there was no injury, and thank goodness, too, that this trait was discovered early on.

Out of interest, is Friend dog a lot smaller? If so, the whippet side of her may have taken over. Just a thought.

Friend Dog is a Welsh Springer. New Dog had no trouble with Friend Dog as such. It was Friend Dog having the ball that New Dog had been chasing that caused the trouble.

silvercar

A friend had to give a rescue dog back because their toddler accidentally woke the sleeping dog and the dog jumped up and bit her! The toddler needed a GA for a repair to her ear, luckily her hearing wasn't effected. When they returned the dog, the rescue centre admitted there had been a similar incident before but had hoped it was a one off!

LydiaJ

silvercar wrote: »

A friend had to give a rescue dog back because their toddler accidentally woke the sleeping dog and the dog jumped up and bit her! The toddler needed a GA for a repair to her ear, luckily her hearing wasn't effected. When they returned the dog, the rescue centre admitted there had been a similar incident before but had hoped it was a one off!

That's appalling. :eek:
It's one thing to want to give a dog a second chance, but it's another thing to put a toddler at risk. At the very least, that dog should have been clearly labelled "not good with children" and "for adult only home".

zagubov

I knew somebody who got a dog from Battersea Dog Home and had to jump through so many hoops that the admittedly inappropriate metaphor of "tails wagging dogs" crossed my mind more than once.