The Nice People Thread, No.16: A Universe of Niceness.

Pyxis

Sue!

My goodness!

Dear oh dear!



Your neighbour sounds like a right Pita.


However..........if they can move you to a bungalow, would that be :j or for you?

To start with, it would get you away from your neighbour.

I'm feeling that it might be :j

SingleSue

It would be as they would only rehouse me and not the boys.

I saw a move to a bungalow in the future, a fair way in the future to be honest. For all it's faults, this has been my home for 20 years and I still need to provide somewhere for the boys to come home to when they are not at university. However, because they are over 18, there is no duty to rehouse them. Goodness knows where they expect them to go, Josh can't live independently (hence why he is back in supported living at university).

The other issue is that there just isn't any bungalows (or even ground floor flats) available, they are like gold dust here so I could be sat waiting for a good couple of years to get one whilst also not being able to access wash facilities, having toileting issues, being trapped either upstairs or downstairs or just inside whilst doing so.

To give an indication on waiting times, a friend was in an accident last year and had to have his leg amputated. He is still waiting to be rehoused into a suitable property and is having to split his time between being at the hospital and living in a care home sort of setting until they find him somewhere.

ivyleaf

Oh, Sue I'm so sorry. Perhaps you could speak to the OT about the ideas you'd had but were unable to tell the surveyor and contractor about when they were there?

GDB2222

SingleSue

I keep meaning to but I admit my concentration levels have been a bit skewiff since and when that happens, I lose the power of speech. Plus I need to trust myself to do it and not burst into tears.

One bit of good news though, my PIP was up for review, sent the form back in mid June and heard absolutely nothing. Rang early July and they had received the short form and warned I would probably be called for a face to face. I sent some more evidence towards the end of July and today I have received the letter informing me I have been awarded enhanced on both again without needing a face to face assessment.

I can now order my new car, or at least start looking at cars as I extended my lease by 6 months to give more time for some of the advance payments to come down/have a perfectly suitable car for a longer time.

PasturesNew

I'm rubbish at shopping.

Had a short "housey stuff" list and went out..... returned home 3 hours later, having driven 10 miles to one place/parked in their car park, clutching just one 2.5m of net that I knew "wouldn't actually quite fit, but it'll have to do". Window recess is 129cm drop, net was sold in 122cm drop... using expanding poles, so I can put them anywhere... but it was getting that mix right top and bottom over where the gap should be.

But, while out, I think I've spotted the correct doormat. Criteria was: cheap, large, will fit into the space without too much spare around it ... and palatable enough visually for the area... found one at £30... so that'll be on the back burner for a long time while I mull it over. £15 I'd have bought one on the spot .... but £30's really really really pushing it for "a big door mat".

GDB2222

Bursting into tears is okay, actually. You are in a Catch 22 situation.

PasturesNew

SingleSue wrote: »

.... having to split his time between being at the hospital and living in a care home sort of setting until they find him somewhere.

This is where joined up thinking is needed, but all Depts work to their own little mini worlds.

Financially, he should've leapt to the front of the queue - it's not as if his condition is in any way choice-based, e.g. such as being super-obese, or because he did something to make himself homeless or legless. That'd have then reduced the NHS/care bills.

But they don't do joined up thinking.

Having said that, maybe there are 4-5 other amputees ahead of him even in the "lost a leg" queue!

Pyxis

GDB2222 wrote: »

Those make all other lampshades pail into insignificance.

LydiaJ

Pyxis wrote: »

Or a satellite?
You wouldn't get out much, though.

You'd have to be a long way out - much further than the ISS. They get "days" and "nights" of 45 min each.

SingleSue wrote: »

My retched house strikes again.

Had the surveyor and contractor out for a visit for the proposed adaptations and it didn't go to plan.

Oh Sue. It sounds so depressing. Sending thoughts and hugs and prayers.

SingleSue wrote: »

One bit of good news though, my PIP was up for review, sent the form back in mid June and heard absolutely nothing. Rang early July and they had received the short form and warned I would probably be called for a face to face. I sent some more evidence towards the end of July and today I have received the letter informing me I have been awarded enhanced on both again without needing a face to face assessment.

I can now order my new car, or at least start looking at cars as I extended my lease by 6 months to give more time for some of the advance payments to come down/have a perfectly suitable car for a longer time.

Glad there's some good news amongst the gloom.

SingleSue wrote: »

It would be as they would only rehouse me and not the boys...

The other issue is that there just isn't any bungalows (or even ground floor flats) available, they are like gold dust here so I could be sat waiting for a good couple of years to get one whilst also not being able to access wash facilities, having toileting issues, being trapped either upstairs or downstairs or just inside whilst doing so.

Does your tenancy allow you to do a swap? Might you be able to find a wheelchair accessible home with space for your boys on a social housing swapping website like this one?

GDB2222 wrote: »

Thinking of getting some of those for your place, GDB?
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