The Nice People Thread, No.16: A Universe of Niceness.

michaels

Spot the cheapskate. Dinner tonight was a free subway from the app plus free fries from the kfc app.

LydiaJ

I like my electric screwdriver. I know exactly where it is.
Sadly, I have no idea where its charger is, so I can't use it until I either find the charger or make the effort to work out what sort of charger it needs and see if I have something compatible.

I have overdone things with my dad's move. My own home is in chaos - DS and DD have done more tidying than I hoped for, but I am still desperately behind with washing etc. I need to get Helpful Builder in to sort out some problems, but need to get the chaos under control first. And I am back to feeling blank and numb and too mentally tired to take any interest in anything, as I was in the depths of my burnout. I am trying to take things easy and hope I can recover the progress I'd previously been making.

Pyxis

I would say, Lydia, that priority no. 1 is a good rest, otherwise you'll be no good to man or beast.

Have a couple of days off from everything.

If there aren't many clean clothes, it won't hurt for once, and everything else can just wait.

GDB2222

LydiaJ wrote: »

I like my electric screwdriver. I know exactly where it is.
Sadly, I have no idea where its charger is, so I can't use it until I either find the charger or make the effort to work out what sort of charger it needs and see if I have something compatible.

I have overdone things with my dad's move. My own home is in chaos - DS and DD have done more tidying than I hoped for, but I am still desperately behind with washing etc. I need to get Helpful Builder in to sort out some problems, but need to get the chaos under control first. And I am back to feeling blank and numb and too mentally tired to take any interest in anything, as I was in the depths of my burnout. I am trying to take things easy and hope I can recover the progress I'd previously been making.

I would pop round and bring you breakfast in bed, but I suspect that would be too much of a surprise. As Pyxis says, a bit of rest and recuperation is more important than getting all the chores done.

PasturesNew

LydiaJ wrote: »

... overdone things ...

There was a lot of hidden emotional overtime when you're doing what you were doing - and that hits you physically but silently. You can account for a banged elbow or a graze on your leg, but inner emotional bruises, seeing old memories sorted and resorted and saying "goodbye" to spaces/memories can knock the stuffing out of you.

There's no rush to sort your own house out ... just don't let anybody round/in for a few weeks

phillw

CKhalvashi wrote: »

https://www.currys.co.uk/gbuk/computing-accessories/data-storage/external-hard-drives/wd-elements-portable-hard-drive-1-tb-black-21458700-pdt.html

I'd go for something like this. Once Pastures has it it remains free year after year.

I have a Synology NAS and it's great, however it's not money saving. Hard drives don't last for ever, I would expect more money needs to be spend after five years.

They would also be destroyed in a fire, so if you have things that you want to survive no matter what, then it's cheaper and safer to upload them to the internet.

Pyxis

PasturesNew wrote: »

There was a lot of hidden emotional overtime when you're doing what you were doing - and that hits you physically but silently. You can account for a banged elbow or a graze on your leg, but inner emotional bruises, seeing old memories sorted and resorted and saying "goodbye" to spaces/memories can knock the stuffing out of you.

There's no rush to sort your own house out ... just don't let anybody round/in for a few weeks

That was brilliantly put, Pastures.

Plus, I expect Lydia's been on overdrive keeping the Aged P's emotions from bubbling over, too, plus dealing with slow decision-making, decision-changing, etc., however understandable.


It's like when you're walking with someone whose natural gait is a lot slower than yours. The distance walked is the same, but it's much more tiring going at a slower pace.

GDB2222 wrote: »

I would pop round and bring you breakfast in bed, but I suspect that would be too much of a surprise.

Breakfast in bed!
Ah, the stuff of distant dreams!

Are you for hire, GDB? :rotfl:

By the way, are G, D and B your initials, or does it stand for something cryptic? (No need to say if it would compromise your privacy, natch!)

GDB2222

It was my login on a particular computer system many, many years ago.

ivyleaf

(((HUGS))) Lydia - I think helping your DF with such a big move would be physically and emotionally exhausting without having to go to work into the bargain. I echo what others have said, you need to be your own top priority for a little while.
It's great that the children have been tidying, and I know they'll be busy with homework etc, but could they perhaps do an occasional load of their own washing? (I realise they may do that already.)

GDB2222

How does this firm manage to sell a brand new windows PC with an i3 processor, 4GB RAM, 500GB hard disk etc for only £140?

https://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/BRAND-NEW-CORE-i3-3220-3-3GHz-TOWER-PC-COMPUTER-500GB-HD-4GB-DDR3-RAM-WINDOWS-10/152686851045