Money Moral Dilemma: Is it mean to question my share of the bill?

PasturesNew

Only selfish and greedy people do this ... splitting a bill is always suggested by the wealthiest/greediest people, who LOVE splashing out once they feel everybody else is paying for them.

You need to be nippier with the bill. Keep a mental note throughout the night (not hard if you're sober) and you'll know what you spent.... take out the right notes/coins to be able to toss your spends into the bowl the minute the bill arrives.

"I've had £20 of food and £6 of drinks, so there's my £30" ... always make sure you've got enough notes to make up any form/variation of amounts you'll wish to chuck in. Chuck in enough small denominations and you might find others take your lead and start putting theirs in and removing yours as "change", leaving the expensive people to stump up the cost of their "cheap night out". Fr33l04der5!

realityleak

If you are getting a bit peeved then suggest rotating the designated driver because you are getting tired of doing it month in month out (even if you're not). See if the designated driver next month is as accommodating as you have been.

Other than that - speak up. If they are true friends, they'll understand.

Pixie5740

PasturesNew wrote: »

Only selfish and greedy people do this ... splitting a bill is always suggested by the wealthiest/greediest people, who LOVE splashing out once they feel everybody else is paying for them.

You need to be nippier with the bill. Keep a mental note throughout the night (not hard if you're sober) and you'll know what you spent.... take out the right notes/coins to be able to toss your spends into the bowl the minute the bill arrives.

"I've had £20 of food and £6 of drinks, so there's my £30" ... always make sure you've got enough notes to make up any form/variation of amounts you'll wish to chuck in. Chuck in enough small denominations and you might find others take your lead and start putting theirs in and removing yours as "change", leaving the expensive people to stump up the cost of their "cheap night out". Fr33l04der5!

You must be fun to go out with. Why assume that the wealthiest people are the greediest? I've been out for dinner on a number of occasions with people who earn considerably less than myself and they don't hold back on what they order despite not having enough to cover an equal share of the bill never mind the cost of what they actually ordered. In fact I can still distinctly remember the time I was out with a friend who claimed not to be able to afford to split the bill down the middle (1 main course each, she had wine, I had tap water) and the really embarrassing thing was that I could see an extra £5 note sticking out her purse. When she realised I could see it she put her napkin on top of her purse. :rotfl: I've never been out to dinner with her since.

System

If it was a one off i wouldnt mention it but if it was a regular thing i'd tell them you would be paying for your own food and drink seperate from theirs.

Fujiko

I don't agree that your being a teetotaler should automatically make you the designated driver. I'm sure you are happy to do your share, but in my experience the usual procedure is for everyone to agree in advance who will be on the wagon on any evening so that everyone takes it in turn. The driver does not, of course, pay for his non-alcoholic drinks.

pollypenny

My vegetarian meal is usually the cheapest of those chose, especially J's usual steak.

Do I ask for a discount? No way; friendships has swing and roundabouts.

boliston

I guess the beauty of not being a car owner is that there is no risk of being suckered into being an unpaid taxi driver!

Mojisola

pollypenny wrote: »

Do I ask for a discount? No way; friendships has swing and roundabouts.

That depends on your social group. There's often one or two people in a group who never seem to reciprocate the good turns done by others.

svain

PasturesNew wrote: »

Only selfish and greedy people do this ... splitting a bill is always suggested by the wealthiest/greediest people, who LOVE splashing out once they feel everybody else is paying for them.

You need to be nippier with the bill. Keep a mental note throughout the night (not hard if you're sober) and you'll know what you spent.... take out the right notes/coins to be able to toss your spends into the bowl the minute the bill arrives.

"I've had £20 of food and £6 of drinks, so there's my £30" ... always make sure you've got enough notes to make up any form/variation of amounts you'll wish to chuck in. Chuck in enough small denominations and you might find others take your lead and start putting theirs in and removing yours as "change", leaving the expensive people to stump up the cost of their "cheap night out". Fr33l04der5!

You sound like a right blast :rotfl::rotfl: ... Still, im sure saving that few quid must feel very satisfying for you ..... I bet there is a few rolled eyes around your table

Seakay

boliston wrote: »

They are probably also a much better salary than people who have to check their bill.

checking the bill is a sign of good sense, not poverty.