feel so stupid

NeilCr

prosaver wrote: »

id just tell them ..what are they going too do sack you.?. plenty of easy volunteering's jobs around .. red cross shops and all that. and you can have a nose what people bring in... come to think of it I might do it after I sort my own house out.. haha

You know what

Volunteering isn't about "easy". It's about doing something to help others - and getting something back. Now, I fully agree that you have to be careful you're not being taken advantage of (although there are very few charities who have volunteers that do that - in my area, anyway) but I don't think it's a great idea to be comparing yourself with others in the organisation. Just think about how you are helping - and being helped

sam_m

I mean i know i am getting better but i still get very upset because volunteering will not make me any money. And i need money to replace the things i broke, i actually went all the way and scratched all of my DVD collection so i have nothing, i felt so worthless and stupid but now i am thinking why the Hell did i do that.

I mean i don't even know how i could replace the collection i once had, what if i meet someone nice and they want to watch a movie, what would i say to them?

I am feeling happier and i know things will improve in the future and that somebody will hire me and love me for being me

IAmWales

sam_m wrote: »

I mean i know i am getting better but i still get very upset because volunteering will not make me any money. And i need money to replace the things i broke, i actually went all the way and scratched all of my DVD collection so i have nothing, i felt so worthless and stupid but now i am thinking why the Hell did i do that.

I mean i don't even know how i could replace the collection i once had, what if i meet someone nice and they want to watch a movie, what would i say to them?

I am feeling happier and i know things will improve in the future and that somebody will hire me and love me for being me

On your last thread people told you, no woman expects you to have a dvd collection. Very few people even watch them now, you just find a stream for whatever you want to watch.

sam_m

Oh yeah i know that but its still more comfortable sitting on a sofa watching a DVD rather then watching on the internet. How would you be able to watch sometime on a stream in comfort.

Anyway I was just saying i feel a bit better now and i know that things will improve

marliepanda

sam_m wrote: »

Oh yeah i know that but its still more comfortable sitting on a sofa watching a DVD rather then watching on the internet. How would you be able to watch sometime on a stream in comfort.

Anyway I was just saying i feel a bit better now and i know that things will improve

Netflix.

You can hook it up to your tv using various things, Amazon fire stick, Apple TV.

Not free, but cheaper than a DVD collection, takes up less space, and constantly changing library.

sam_m

Yeah i know that, I suppose it basically me starting my life over again from scratch, not gambling, making money, saving money, meeting new people and friends. Its not easy but i can do it because i feel confident, im not going to worry about my stepbrother or stepsister.

The worse thing i have ever said is that if i ever have kids then their kids will be better then mine and that is how i knew i really needed to change, i mean i am a idiot saying that, if i ever found anyone and had kids i would be the happiest person alive and i won't care what they look like.

I will find a job, find a partner, have a family because the majority of people do but i am just a late bloomer.

sam_m

Ok, can i have some advice please, i really want to find a partner/girlfriend. Where on earth can i meet the perfect girl of my dreams. I am getting fed up with being lonely. I just found out my stepbrother has been to the gym today while i have been to church and then just had chocolate.

Its making me even more determined to get somewhere in my life. I really don't want next xmas to come and still me without someone who loves me. What can i do and where do i start?

ohreally

sam_m wrote: »

Ok, can i have some advice please, i really want to find a partner/girlfriend. Where on earth can i meet the perfect girl of my dreams. I am getting fed up with being lonely. I just found out my stepbrother has been to the gym today while i have been to church and then just had chocolate.

Its making me even more determined to get somewhere in my life. I really don't want next xmas to come and still me without someone who loves me. What can i do and where do i start?

No-ones perfect so start with developing friendships and see what develops.

A big tip, keep your anger in check before getting involved with anyone.

kelpie35

San Have you tried local meet-up groups in your area?

That is a way of meeting people who like the same kind of things.

Please try to be patient and not force yourself upon people because that can put people off wanting to be friends with you

sam_m

Oh, i am keeping my anger in check. If i had found that out before i would have screamed into my pillow and felt even more worthless. but now i am even more determined to get better in my life.

How do i develop friendship though, i really want this xmas to come and me having found a really good female friend or even a partner/girlfriend.

How do i start though