Banks that offer gender neutral titles

xylophone

Sounds like he was brain washed by the Daily Mail & Co.

Wondering if he was the same old bloke

Do you understand the words "courtesy" and "respect"?

tenchy

Oh, I see! It's 'bi-gender' and not 'big-ender' (I looked it up on Wikipedia) :j

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xylophone wrote: »

Do you understand the words "courtesy" and "respect"?

I think calling someone a snowflake or whatever for believing in something that you don't is disrespectful too.

Respect is earned, not automatic due to age.

System

I tend to use Ms for females and Mr for males.
If they have/want another title, i'll use it e.g. Dr

I'd guess that most transgender people won't mind a (polite) mistake.

veryintrigued

Deleted_User wrote: »

Respect is earned, not automatic due to age.

Ironically that's disrespectable in itself.

Respect should be automatic unless someone proves you wrong and its lost.

Mojisola

Deleted_User wrote: »

Respect is earned, not automatic due to age.

Never understood this saying - does it mean you treat everyone with disrespect until they show respect to you - and why would they if you aren't being respectful to them?

pafpcg

John-K wrote: »

I’ve had a gender neutral title with my bank for years (Dr.)

Yes, but I rapidly dropped the "Dr" when I started to work for the NHS (as a highly technical but non-medical specialist). It surprised me just how my non-medical colleagues regarded me when they thought I was "one of them" and how medically-qualified colleagues addressed me when they thought I was "one of us". And status is jealously guarded within the medical profession itself - surgeons, who consider themselves a cut above their physician colleagues, insist upon being addressed as "Mr"!

But to get back to how financial institutions handle titles: the system that handles the login process for the Yorkshire Building Society has for years had a delightful foible in that it addresses me as "Ms Pafpcg" and my partner as "Ms XXXMaidenname". We think that it stems from when we opened our first account at YBS - a joint account as "Ms XXXMaidenname and Mr Pafpcg" - the algorithm they use has assigned me with the first title in the name string, perhaps because it couldn't identify a second title, weird but it always makes me smile.

Silvertabby

I once received a letter from my bank addressed to Mr (I'm Mrs) S (not my initial) X (my initial) Surname

When I rang them it turned out that they had assumed that as my details were showing as Mrs X Surname, that fact that I was a Sergeant meant that I must be male, hence the assumption that the 's' from Mrs must have been my first initial.

I had quite a job assuring the call handler that yes, I was female and yes, I was a Sergeant.

Robisere

I grew up in Nottinghamshire and usually address all women as 'miduck' or simply 'duck'. As in " 'eyup miduck, ar yer allreight?"

Translation: I am greeting a girl or woman in terms I grew up to accept as terms of endearment, and asking after her wellbeing.

There are people posting on this Thread who would probably like to have me shot.

The other side of the coin, is that I grew up learning to treat all women as ladies. It's only since the PC Brigade took over this country, that I discovered that there are not so many real ladies in the UK.

What a truly silly Thread.

silverwhistle

Lith wrote: »

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I appreciate your little diagram was there for amusement, and no offence taken on my part but not only is it inaccurate but it could be construed as offensive. Only two genders and "Mental Disorder", I think (know) not. Being gay was once classed as a mental disorder too!

At one of the more interesting parties I've attended in my life there was a woman who had been trying to get treatment for gender issues at the national centre at Charing Cross. Under-resourced as they were (are) progress was slow and she was seeing the usual slew of pyschs to confirm her mental status et al. before interminable delays for surgery.

There was then a medical crisis and it was discovered that she was a hermaphrodite, at which CX washed their hands of her and shoved her onto some other department's budget for the required surgery. This story was told to me with great relish and much laughter all round.

So no, I have no issues with how people wish to define themselves as they usually have a far better idea of themselves, and as for titles - meh - they serve little purpose these days.