Should I pay my cheating ex?

[Deleted User]

Hi,

you say you owe him £6k. so was the car 50/50, and cost £12k?

itsanne

If you both agreed that you owe him the money, then you owe him the money and there's no excuse not to pay it. His behaviour, disgusting as it is, has nothing to do with it.

If you mess around to make it awkward for him you're just prolonging your involvement with him - once paid, that will be you shot of him.

itsanne

Just one other thought - if you each paid half of the car's price and the £6000 is his half, you didn't end up with a brand new car when you split. The car lost value as soon as you left the showroom. There might be a case for saying you owe him half the cost of the reduced value of the car ..... (but I'd suggest getting proper advice on that)

Barny1979

Can you clarify why you owe him £6k?

krlyr

You've had an interest free loan for the last year, and you've got a car you love. If the £6k was calculated fairly (e.g. accounting for any use he had from the car, no other monies owed in the relationship etc. - did he keep furniture you'd both paid for, for example?) then I would pay up and be glad to be rid of all ties with him.

His cheating was a horrible thing to do, but has no impact on the financial side of things legally. Be the bigger person, sort out finances fairly, and if you really can't afford the car debt, sell it on and buy something you can afford.

FBaby

When you say you bought it together, what do you mean? Do you both paid it cash? Did he take out the full loan and is now still paying it? Is it that, but you put down the deposit?

Could you have got that car without him in the first place, ie, you both put 50/50 because it suited you, but ultimately you could have paid for the car/got the loan without him?

parking_question_chap

Not enough information to answer.

helcat26

All though it is a significant amount of money 6K is probably worth it for a clean break.
However- you bought the car on a finance agreement presumably because you could not afford to pay for it in a lump sum?
So why does he expect to get his 6k in a lump sum?
If you do not have this money to give him, do not get in debt.
Agree a payment schedule that you can afford. Do it by direct debit so you have evidence of payment.

tensandunits_2

IgglePiggle1 wrote: »

During this time he was cheating, we bought a car. This is the only thing left that we now need to sort out. We worked out the costs fairly soon after we split and worked out that I owe him £6k which he said I could pay back when I had the money and that there was no rush. That was a year ago and now he's asking for the money.

Could you clarify? Did he pay for the car in full, or did you both take on a debt in order to get this nice new car for you?

*Robin*

helcat26 wrote: »

All though it is a significant amount of money 6K is probably worth it for a clean break.
However- you bought the car on a finance agreement presumably because you could not afford to pay for it in a lump sum?
So why does he expect to get his 6k in a lump sum?
If you do not have this money to give him, do not get in debt.
Agree a payment schedule that you can afford. Do it by direct debit so you have evidence of payment.

^^ This, except it's a standing order you need to set up. Then there's proof of how much you've repaid and when, he's getting his money back so there's no need for further contact between you.
You end up with the car you enjoy, and can leave karma to repay his cheating..