Should I pay my cheating ex?

prowla

My opinion is that you have the car and you agreed to pay the £6k.

If you want to get back at him, then you could use it against him, but it seems like you're above that.

comeandgo

You are still raw after the breakup and looking at some sort of revenge. If you kept the money how would you feel in a few years time.

[Deleted User]

Hi,

you could just give him the car and buy a run around for £1000 or so.

chesky

The OP may possess the car, but who is the registered owner?

[Deleted User]

It sounds as though you do owe the money.

You could pay him by cheque. You could always write something very rude and disparaging on the top of it to embarrass him.

IgglePiggle1

Thanks again for the replies, it's appreciated. We were travelling for a long time before we lived with his parents, and if I wasn't at his I'd have been at my family's so cheap rent either way.

I'm the registered owner and wouldn't give him the car or sell it, I love it, and it's the one good thing I ended up with from the relationship!

I see the logic that it's just a financial investment that didn't pay off, and I think that's what I'm going to have to keep telling myself. I think I'm just frustrated because I'd just finished paying off all my debt and we took that on the car debt as a couple, so I thought, and now I'm back to square one while he got away with everything. But like I say, I'm keeping the car so I'll just pay it off as quick as I can. Debt happens!

I'm not after revenge; there is plenty I could have done, but that's not my style. I just wondered if there was any logic in what my friends and family are telling me to do, or if they're only thinking that because they're biased towards me and how hurt I was and don't want to see me hand over a wedge of money!

dancing_star

I was in a sort of similar situation once. I paid up.
Had to borrow the money from my mum, who detested the ex, but even she agreed it was right that I should pay.

paddy's_mum

Perhaps you would not feel quite so sore if you change your way of thinking.

If paying out fees of £6k to the See-Into-Your-Mind fairy would have prevented all the tears, upset and heartbreak that you have endured, would you have thought it a worthwhile use of money? Would it have been worth it to avoid any anxiety about your sexual health? Would it have avoided any possible feelings of humiliation?

If your answer is yes, then look upon the money as a good investment in getting rid of a bloodsucking millstone round your neck.

Ultimately, he has thrown away his reputation and his life raft - fool!

-taff

What do you owe this 6K for? was it a deposit on the car?

davidwood123

Pay him and ignore your bitter friends