I saw some messages between my BF and his ex

Pollycat

Are they in physical contact with each other or is it just by text/email?

I don't agree with issuing an ultimatum, I'm not sure if this is one or if you were just asking a question:

trey101 wrote: »

Okay.. I asked him if he would consider cutting contact with her.

UKTigerlily

I agree with not issuing an ultimatum, it'd be awful for him to have to choose. He is with you, because he *wants* to be . . . I see it as he just has feelings because they parted on good terms & remained friends & there must've been something he saw in her (as in she must be someone he likes *as a friend*) to want to even be with her, but once it's over then it is

I have an ex that I just fell out of love with, and him me (I also have mh issues), and we remained friends & cared

I also have a best friend who is in a relationship (a male friend) & I tell him what he means all the time, as he literally has saved my life & is everything to me, but his gf knows about me & we don't message on messenger (we do email/text if needed & see each other through business) but it's nothing at all sexual/no interest on either side

Maybe you could explain how you feel, as i'd be horrified if my friend said his gf was upset by things, and he should be concerned that you feel that way, and come to some compromise?

Maybe he can have one night to catch up with her but by phone, when you're in the same room or something, or just get to know her (can't remember if you know her/met her) so you may see she's no threat.

He actually sounds a really caring guy & even my friend would help his own ex if she needed it, he sounds lovely & he's where he wants to be. Has he changed his password? If he hasn't, and is still messaging as he was, then it's clear he has nothing to hide x

Bryando

So soon into a relationship and the trust has gone. Walk mate. Doomed as you are already going in circles doubting his intention and then saying you will just need to trust him.

1hellosunshine1

Hello,

I've only read the first post and a few follow up comments. Just wanted to say - my ex and I broke up last year. We were together for six years. No way would I ever get back with him, it wasn't right for us, but I do care very much for him. I only want the best for him and truly want him to be happy.

I'm in a new relationship now and I'm very happy - however I still talk to my ex (my boyfriend knows this and is fine with it - happy to let him check my phone too, in fact he has all my passwords!). We don't talk loads but we often check in with each other and occasionally we do talk about how much we mean to each other. I often say to him he's a very good friend, that I want him to be happy and can't stand to think of him being sad or hurt. There are no romantic feelings at all.

Just wanted to chime in to say it's easy to expect the worse when you read messages like this - but sometimes they can be very innocent.