Dig money?

Pollycat

svain wrote: »

If my parents had tried screwing me for money the minute I got a job I would of moved out. They didn't, they were fair and gave me opportunity to enjoy couple years limited responsibility before life got serious. I did same for my kids. I call it being supportive.

It's a long, long time ago but when I first started work, my Mother took my wage packet from me, gave me 'spending money' and kept the rest.

It made me determined to get out as soon as I could.
I left home when I was 19 and it was the best thing I ever did.

Jackieboy

Pollycat wrote: »

It's a long, long time ago but when I first started work, my Mother took my wage packet from me, gave me 'spending money' and kept the rest.

It made me determined to get out as soon as I could.
I left home when I was 19 and it was the best thing I ever did.

TBF, if your family was anything like mine, your father did the same thing with his wage packet.

Jack1991

IMO £400 is way too much, like others have said I think around 200-250 is fair and I would be saving half of that for him secretly. Personally I will never charge my kids rent however once they are working things like Mobile phone, car etc is down to them.
I dont care what age your child is its your responsibility to look out for them. but thats my opinion

greyfox

r2015 wrote: »

He is actually working for the council, they know how much he earns.

The part of the Council he works for does, but that doesn't mean that the department which deals with his parents' HB/Council Tax help does. Very much a case of right hand/left hand, I'm afraid. The parents need to tell the HB people how much (little) their son's earning. If they don't, the maximum non-dependant deduction will be taken.

Pollycat

Jackieboy wrote: »

TBF, if your family was anything like mine, your father did the same thing with his wage packet.

TBH, I've no idea what the financial arrangements were between my parents, in 'those days' (46+ years ago) things like that weren't really discussed, at least not in our family.

To put things into perspective, my Mother was probably taking at least £3.50 per week from me, maybe as much as £4. I was earning £7 8 shillings & fourpence PW.
Which makes the £100 per month that the OP's grandson wants to pay seem pretty cheap.

toniq

My son at 19 pays us £160 a month which is £40 a week.

He earns £1200 a month, he gets cheap rent on the condition he saves a minimum £400 a month for his future.

He is doing well as he has over £5000 saved.

We have a very modern house with all the mod cons he could ever need and he realises he wouldn't find that in this town for less that £90 a week renting a room privately.

I do cook all meals and buy his packed lunch stuff and do all the stuff mums do like his washing etc if he doesn't get time. We also pay his mobile contract of £35 a month out of what he pays.

He needs to learn he has to pay his way in life now he is working ft, he also has to buy his own presents for siblings, grandparents etc as he is earning now.

Jackieboy

Pollycat wrote: »

TBH, I've no idea what the financial arrangements were between my parents, in 'those days' (46+ years ago) things like that weren't really discussed, at least not in our family.

To put things into perspective, my Mother was probably taking at least £3.50 per week from me, maybe as much as £4. I was earning £7 8 shillings & fourpence PW.
Which makes the £100 per month that the OP's grandson wants to pay seem pretty cheap.

I don't know your family background but that's the way most working class families of our generation did things.

When you said you only got your pocket money back, I thought you meant pennies - paying half your wage for your keep with the rest for yourself doesn't seem unreasonable.

annandale

Water isn't free in Scotland. But if someone is on benefits they'll pay the water and sewerage charge (and get council tax reduction), it's around 20 pounds a month, maybe slightly more.

Unless someone is using hot water they won't pay any more than that charge detailed above no matter how much water they use.

I was responding to someone who made a point about young people and water use.

The 100 pounds that the grandson wants to pay is too little but I'm sure he's not the only young person who doesn't have a clue how much a home costs to run

Ames

If the parents are on means tested benefits then saving his contribution could lead to deductions in a relatively short space of time, especially if they already have some savings.

Pollycat

Jackieboy wrote: »

When you said you only got your pocket money back, I thought you meant pennies - paying half your wage for your keep with the rest for yourself doesn't seem unreasonable.

Out of my 'half' I had to pay for my own bus fares and my own lunches as well as buy my own clothes and pay for going out.