What puts you off?

Maz

So many traits that I'd find unacceptable, I don't know where to begin! Maybe I set my standards so high is the reason I don't have a partner. Having said that, I wouldn't compromise on so many things and refuse to lower my standards just to have 'someone'!

It doesn't take much to put me off someone tbh - bad table manners for instance!

lulu_92

Drug use and blaming me for it, as well as banging my friends.

Hermia

Having bigoted views. I could not be with someone who is racist/homophobic etc.

Someone who thinks couples should be constantly together. I need my own space and my own interests and feel suffocated with people like that. It kills any love I have for them.

NeilCr

annie_d wrote: »

I am surprised at the phone thing…the other things not so much so.

It was a bit tongue in cheek re another thread

But it does show a lack of trust that I wouldn't like. I wouldn't dream of doing it to someone else. My partner often leaves her phone when she goes to the bar, loo etc but I've never even thought of looking at it

toffee'n'tom

I had a partner who turned into a business partner but when you get to be with or know someone over a period of time ............ aggressiveness, never wrong or total inability to say sorry, bad table manners, no sense of humour .......

Mrs_Ryan

His alcoholism and being a little bit too fond of using his fists on me when he had had a few. I guess I had a narrow escape as I discovered that he was actually given a suspended prison sentence eight years ago for beating up his girlfriend so badly she was hospitalised. He wouldn't have dared try that on me- he was too frightened of my dad and my brother but it didn't stop him trying to have a go.

Dird

Hermia wrote: »

Having bigoted views. I could not be with someone who is racist/homophobic etc

Very bigoted of you

sparkychris

Money!

I spent many years in lots of short relationships (I get bored / boring easily!) and one thing that was a quick turn off is a woman not paying her way. I would never ask a woman to contribute but I notice when they don't.

I always was happy to be expected to pay for the first date but can't see why I should continue to do so forever more so if after date number 3 or 4, if she continues to look around awkwardly when the bill comes and I have already smashed her, she'll get let go.

Pollycat

NeilCr wrote: »

Looking at my phone behind my back

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

That would do it for me as well, not that I'm in a relationship.

Me too.

If you can't trust your partner, there is no relationship.

Checking his/her phone, checking browsing history, looking through her handbag or his pockets are all really nasty traits that would finish a relationship for me.

I couldn't have a relationship with a smoker. My partner gave up over 30 years ago.

System

Drug use, more time spent with the lads than with me. Don't think I could live with another smoker. I've had 50+ years of passive smoking. Someone who spends his life in the pub.

Not fussy am I?