Inheritance

gettingtheresometime

I've told my mum to enjoy spending my inheritance and have told my son that I plan to enjoy spending his.

SuzieSue

gettingtheresometime wrote: »

and have told my son that I plan to enjoy spending his.

So you'd do that even if he was struggling financially through no fault of his own? Nice mother.

SuzieSue

Person_one wrote: »

If you won £50,000 on the lottery, how much do you think your mum would be entitled to?

All of it, but if a mother can't bear to share her good fortune with her children then she isn't much of a mother.

SuzieSue

gettingtheresometime wrote: »

and have told my son that I plan to enjoy spending his.

Since when has it become acceptable to be so selfish and actually boast about it? I am always giving money to my step children if they need it and they aren't even my own flesh and blood.

Person_one

SuzieSue wrote: »

All of it, but if a mother can't bear to share her good fortune with her children then she isn't much of a mother.

An inheritance is not always considered to be 'good fortune', you have to suffer a significant loss to get it, after all.

SuzieSue

Person_one wrote: »

An inheritance is not always considered to be 'good fortune', you have to suffer a significant loss to get it, after all.

Not always. If the person dying is anything like the people on here who are selfishly boasting about spending their kids' inheritances just because they can then it won't be much of a loss to their children.

fairy_lights

SuzieSue wrote: »

Not always. If the person dying is anything like the people on here who are selfishly boasting about spending their kids' inheritances just because they can then it won't be much of a loss to their children.

What's selfish about someone spending their own money?

gettingtheresometime

fairy_lights wrote: »

What's selfish about someone spending their own money?

Exactly!!

Where did I say that I wouldn't help my son if he needed my help? That's right I didn't.

I've seen too many people scrimp & save for a rainy day only never to know when to put up the umbrella or die before they could enjoy life so I make no apologies for deciding that I'm going to enjoy life whilst I can ....and whilst hoping my mum does exactly the same,

thorsoak

SuzieSue wrote: »

Not always. If the person dying is anything like the people on here who are selfishly boasting about spending their kids' inheritances just because they can then it won't be much of a loss to their children.

I am 73, widowed, with four adult children. We (my late OH and I) helped all four of them (and their partners) with deposits for their first homes by remortgaging our family home. Now I am on my own.

None of them are struggling now - so why should I be considered selfish if I enjoy spending my own, hard-earned money having the holidays that we (OH and I) could not afford when we were paying higher mortgages to help them?

FBaby

All of it, but if a mother can't bear to share her good fortune with her children then she isn't much of a mother.

We, parents, are all different. Some will go without to give all to their kids. Some will give in situations they deem worthy, some will not give a penny. Children will also react differently to the above.

I personally have seen to many kids spoilt by their parents who throw all the money they have at them. Kids who have become adults with no sense of responsibility or resilience, who think that everyone owe them their living.

My parents have installed in me the notion of being self-reliant and I am so pleased they did. They could have helped me with my first car, first house, or when times were a bit difficult. They didn't and I had to learn to find my ways myself. However, I always had the security that they would never leave me starving on the streets.

I think that in the vast majority of cases, spoiling your kids does more harm than good.