Weddings bring out the worst in people

GlasweJen

Mojisola wrote: »

Having recognised this, reduce her involvement.

Exactly what I want to do but apparently the family deal with her impossible attitude by showing her all the options for anything she is involved in so that she can choose. Of course it won't turn out how she imagined it despite it all being her choice and she will still pull faces and say "oh I'm just disappointed" and then they get into an endless loop saying "well that's the one you chose" and she will then sigh and say none of the choices were right and round and round they go.

Emailing the favours man to get a quote for a 3rd favour idea that I know she will hate and it will probably be more expensive but I am adamant I want my favours from this vendor as I know he is excellent and will produce something much better than we can buy online. She's had her say over invitations, centre pieces, flowers, cars... the list goes on and she's not winning this one.

Auntie-Dolly

Just tell her she's had her wedding - this one is yours!

7roland8

GlasweJen wrote: »

Emailing the favours man to get a quote for a 3rd favour idea that I know she will hate and it will probably be more expensive but I am adamant I want my favours from this vendor as I know he is excellent and will produce something much better than we can buy online. She's had her say over invitations, centre pieces, flowers, cars... the list goes on and she's not winning this one.

Oh dear - from where I stand it looks like she already has by the very fact you are consulting her and giving her more options on the favours.

GlasweJen

7roland8 wrote: »

Oh dear - from where I stand it looks like she already has by the very fact you are consulting her and giving her more options on the favours.

I told OH tonight that it will be the original favours and if she has anything to say about it she can go talk to a wall. I've literally had enough, the woman is a nightmare

Mojisola

GlasweJen wrote: »

I told OH tonight that it will be the original favours and if she has anything to say about it she can go talk to a wall. I've literally had enough, the woman is a nightmare

Might as well start standing your ground now - if you don't, she'll be controlling the rest of your life and telling you how to decorate your house, what clothes to wear, what to eat, where to go on holiday, etc.

GlasweJen

Mojisola wrote: »

Might as well start standing your ground now - if you don't, she'll be controlling the rest of your life and telling you how to decorate your house, what clothes to wear, what to eat, where to go on holiday, etc.

funny you should say that, she doesn't approve of our honeymoon and thinks it must cost too much (she has no idea how much it is).

Mojisola

GlasweJen wrote: »

funny you should say that, she doesn't approve of our honeymoon and thinks it must cost too much (she has no idea how much it is).

Fairly typical of the type. :rotfl:

One of our relatives came back from honeymoon to find that MIL had redecorated the downstairs of their house because 'she had much better taste than our relative"!

In this case, the OH wouldn't stand up to his mother and the marriage didn't last.

fairy_lights

Mojisola wrote: »

One of our relatives came back from honeymoon to find that MIL had redecorated the downstairs of their house because 'she had much better taste than our relative"!

In this case, the OH wouldn't stand up to his mother and the marriage didn't last.

Oh My god, that's insane! I can't begin to imagine how I would react to that. Was the new d!cor even any good? :rotfl:

pebbles88

Aw Glaswejen,

I feel for you, would your oh say to her to butt out as this is starting to upset you so much?

It's obvious how much you love him, but if she continues the way she is, is there a chance you wouldn't go through with the wedding?


Or that she is going to ruin not just yours, but her sons wedding too?

Mojisola

fairy_lights wrote: »

Oh My god, that's insane! I can't begin to imagine how I would react to that. Was the new d!cor even any good? :rotfl:

Well, it was to his mother's taste.