Frump to Fab 2017 - A Whole New World

lessonlearned

Good morning lovely ladies.

Well what a difference a good nights sleep makes. I feel much better today. I have done some yoga and managed to give myself a leg massage with lavender oil to ease the muscle pain. I have bought myself one of those massage stick thingies so will use that later.

I think you wise ladies are right.....I do need to "grieve" the loss of my relationship with my sister. I just need to be patient and I will feel better by and by.

SFT. Wise words indeed, yes family should be supportive and it gives me such pleasure to be able to help my son - whilst helping myself too. A real win-win scenario.

I have set the ball rolling with the solicitor, spoke to her this morning. I am having a bit of a paperwork day today, getting on top of everything.

I have ordered some canvas shoes online......I tend to stock up with them every so often. I wear them instead of slippers round the house, plus I find them ideal for walking around on deck when I go on cruises. Other than that no clothing purchases recently.

I had a little mooch round the charity shops one day last week but nothing took my fancy. I'm pretty well stocked up for the moment.

I have to say I am so grateful for all your support this week. Crummy is the word.:rotfl:

But I think I'm over the worst now.

Onwards and upwards.......

savingfortomorrow

i had a rather pleasant day, went to tk max bought a pair of shoes. At least they fit! The sizes with their clothes is insane, it is like they randomly toss numbers on clothes. 16. 8 12 or even 24, it is a game of bingo. Well no clothes fit or could be seen in public. An unspeakable disaster, but still the shoes fit and were on offer, a small positive.

I made food and well if i had a dog, it would have gotten the remainder as totally off food, not that it shows.

I had a small contract with a company and i discovered they were expanding a different contract. I was really miffed as well, it would have been polite to alert me to tender, having done some already. It was handled poorly and truthfully, I wanted out but miffed at their lack of insight. With open communication, everyone could be happier. As it stands a bit of good will has been lost from me towards them.
So I feel slighted, however in reality it was a blessing in disguise.

I really made up my mind to put myself, my family and friends first, actively choose to live by that. I realized that the politics of work, is removing me from what is truly important. So having come to that conclusion, I may not like how things were handled but i have to look at the bigger picture and look at what is best overall.

maggiem

LaineyT wrote: »

I concur with Chanie Ellsbel that the best thing would be to talk it over with your manager, you shouldn't be made to feel uncomfortable at work? btw your outfit for the coffee date sounded tres chic
LL might sound daft but think you should allow yourself time to 'grieve' for the relationship with your sister, it's bound to hit you hard irrespective of the fact you know it's for the best, please take care of you.
Hmm, some of the sights have seen over the last few days of hot weather, less said the better :eek:
Personally I find that dresses are the best way to go to keep cool, on the knee for me as don't like to show too much leg, in a jersey cotton. I have made the most of the summer sales that have started and ordered three more, two plain and smarter patterned one which I have in mind for when we go horse racing next month.

The jersey cotton dresses sound lovely and exactly what I am looking for too. Lainey can I ask where you got them from? I am currently carrying too much weight and some reasonably priced cool dresses sound perfect!

I'm a long time lurker and love to read everyone's news and thoughts about clothes, make up and life generally. Lesson learned, really sorry to read of your sister's shenanigans- upsetting at so many levels. Although I do believe in karma - some time, some place!

sugarbaby125

Hello Ladies,

Thank goodness the heatwave is over. It is still sunny here in London, but now it is temperatures that are comfortable and there is a fresh breeze. Lots of opportunities to wear my sunglasses.:T

I am going to be off work for the next couple of weeks and then the summer holidays will be here.The 6th Form College where I work will be closed for 8 weeks and they are non working weeks.

On Monday I had a call from a Doctor at my surgery. She informed me that the ECG had shown I had an enlarged heart.:eek: The ECG also needs to be repeated as they suspect that there may also be another issue with my heart. She went on to give me some facts about my blood test results, but I was reeling so I did not really take in what she said. She also informed me that the referral to the Rapid Response Chest Pain Clinic had not actually been done, so she took all of my details and did the referral immediately. I got the letter from the Rapid Response Chest Pain Clinic yesterday, so I now have an appointment on the morning of Tuesday 4th July.

I am taking it easy at home, getting lots of sleep and naps. I am pampering myself and doing my best to take care of myself until all of the tests are completed and I have the results. My employers are no longer giving me grief, as now they finally believe that I am experiencing all of the symptoms I said I was.

I have now got serious about eating healthily and losing enough weight to lower my blood pressure until I no longer have hypertension and to eventually not be obese in any way. It will not be easy, as I can not be as active as I would like to be or I will get chest pains and breathlessness.

I am taking advantage of the free tickets that I am offered to various shows, plays and events. That is my silver lining. I now have the time to go to different events as I am not currently fit to work. I went to the Garrick Theatre last night for the 1st time to see Tape Face and had a really good laugh. I had a really good seat in the Dress Circle. It would have cost me £49 but was free, so very MSE for me.

I am going to my great niece's Christening on Sunday in Stoke On Trent with my 25 year old daughter and my 16 year old son. We are all looking forward to it, as there has been too many dark days for our family and it is lovely to be getting together with the wider family for a positive family gathering rather than another family funeral.

lessonlearned

Oh my goodness Sugarbaby. I am sorry to hear that.

However on the positive side at least you now know what you are up against and will get the treatment you need. And.....as you say your employers will take you seriously now.

I think your self help plan is definitely the way to go. If you lose weight, and avoid stress then your blood pressure should start to come down. And of course get all the rest and sleep you need.

Enjoy the family gathering on Sunday.

Well the good news for me is that I've lost 3.3 lbs in 6 days. I have been much stricter with avoiding carbs and it seems to be paying off.
The really good news is that my BP is also coming down too.

Fab Friday today. I won't be going out, still resting my knee. But I will do some yoga and have a nice pamper session. I might do a bit more chair paintiing. Trouble is I can only really manage doing one coat of paint on one chair per session because of the standing that's involved, so six chairs are going to take quite a while. Never mind, there's no real hurry.

Thankfully cooler here too, much more comfortable, especially at night.

lessonlearned

Hello Maggiem. Welcome to the thread. Yes I believe in karma too, not that I wish my sister any harm. But yes the "laws of the universe" will see that justice is done, some day, some way.

Thanks for your kind words. Each day I feel a little calmer and a little stronger. I'm getting there.

LaineyT

Oh crikey Sugarbaby that's not good, however pleased to hear that you are so resolved re weight loss etc and your employers are finally understanding. Your outings sound great and very MSE.
Welcome MaggieM, I have accumulated most of my dresses over a number of years as believe in buying quality rather than quantity but don't like to pay full price so watch for decent pieces in the sales, the three latest dresses have come from the Boden sale?
Fab Friday here and it's nice to be cool again now the heatwave has finished, I have an tangerine and cream striped t-shirt on with a tangerine cardigan, casual with my girlfriend looser cut distressed jeans. Not sure if I will be going out at all but if I do will wear my tan, tasseled flat sandals, not wearing much makeup at all as my freckles are out and give my face some colour, just BB cream with mascara and a neutral lip gloss.

Ellsbel

Thank you, SFT, for those wise words:)
Welcome Maggiem
Sugarbaby sorry to hear of your health issues. Take care, and have a nice time with your family.
Work today. I wore a pink linen dress. I don't really wear dresses usually but this is a shirt type dress and I think doesn't look too bad.
Wasn't a great morning - just one of those where there are lots of niggling issues to sort out, work wise. Home now and I have to confess that I'm about to take a quick nap - I've had very little sleep these past few days and I feel exhausted! It's still fabbing 'cos it's beauty sleep:D

maddiemay

Not wishing to be an enabler, but LaineyT mentioned Boden clothing and sale purchases recently, Boden have a 50% off sale, I don't know what is included as I have decided not to look at it on this occasion, particularly as I seem to be between sizes ATM, I will wait until next Spring, when hopefully I have gained a little weight.

indiepanda

Hello all

Sorry been out of touch, life is continuing in its usual hectic way.

Ellsbel, hope things work out ok with the change of role, sorry to hear about your colleagues giving you a hard time.

LL, when I hear you talk about your sister I really am reminded of the fact you can only choose your friends not your family. People expect us to put up with all sorts from family that we'd never put up with from friends and it's so hard to make the decision on when it's too much to tolerate - though your sister's behaviour has more than crossed that line. But it does end up like a grieving process - one can find other friends, but not new family.

Sugarbaby sorry to hear about your news, but glad to hear you have a diagnosis and not too long to wait until the appointment at the Rapid Response Chest Pain Clinic.

I've been super busy as usual - something of a whirl of dates, dancing, time with friends, interesting talks and visit to my family. Only home till this weekend and then off hiking in Scotland for a week so got to start planning tonight as I am out Mon-Thurs nights and don't want to be starting from scratch with planning on Friday night and then not packed till late at night when I have an early flight.

Went to see my mum and dad on Saturday. Was a really odd trip, my mum's mental health is getting even more erratic. For some of the visit she seemed almost like any normal sane person, for a fair bit of it she was her more normal negative self, but then she spends some time talking to herself in this really odd childlike sing song voice which was downright peculiar. I hadn't heard her do this before but Dad tells me it's been going on for months now but they haven't had an appointment to see her psychiatrist in that time (they are waiting for one). I don't know if this is a continuation of the mental health problems or if it's the start of dementia. Really feel for Dad though, he has been a near full time carer for over 5 years now and no prospect of that changing. She can be left for short periods if he prepares her meals first (cold only, she can't be left with anything to heat up) but even getting up to London to see me is proving hard.

I've been avoiding the scales for a while as I know I've been drinking again (not in an alcoholic way, but I mean just not sticking to soda water on nights out) and having a few sweet treats and carbs. Anyway, forced myself onto the scales on Saturday, nervous to find out how much weight I had gained... answer... absolutely none. Something of a relief and proves it won't take much change to tip me back into losing. I don't want to lose too fast now anyway, have replaced all my summer wardrobe and don't want to have to do so again, just can't afford it this year. So plan is to just lose more gradually for the rest of the summer and have another push in October when I get back from my overseas holidays and finish celebrating my birthday ready to buy my winter wardrobe.

Still been seeing A, generally going well but a bit nervous about some comments he was making on Saturday morning about liking his freedom and independence. This was in the context of meeting his brother that day - he is married with kids and A said when he was visiting them his brother asked his wife's permission before going to the pub and he couldn't imagine ever doing that. Now it's not that I want him to ask my permission to do things, but after the issues I had with the real tennis player never making much time for me, (putting sport first) and combined with the fact I only see A once or at most twice a week, I am just wondering how much space he wants to make for a girlfriend in his life. On the one hand, he spent 4 years internet dating looking for someone which suggests he is keen to have a relationship, but on the other hand he talks about being happy single too, and he's never really had a relationship. He mainly puts this down to being extremely shy with the opposite sex when he was younger and somewhat clueless, but maybe there is a bit more to it. Am not running for the hills or anything, but am not quite sure how to proceed. I think I made a mistake with the tennis player being a bit too keen and too flexible to fit into his life, so with A I think I am going to sit back a bit and let him chase me. I don't want to get too emotionally involved with someone who isn't yet committed to me. That's not to say I think he's off chasing other women, just I think he might be a bit like the tennis player, wants to be able to carry on doing everything else exactly like he did before we met and just fit me into the odd space between plans with friends, where I want to come a bit further up the pecking order than that. Having said that, all our dates have been lovely and there's a limit to how much time I want to spend with one person too - the last guy I went out with was far too keen and gave me no space at all, so being with someone who rates their independence isn't all bad.

Have a fab week all x