Friend no more?

pollyanna_26

Dekaspace I posted on your Clearing the cupboards thread on this subject and you ignored my warning and said he owed you favours .
You've created a fair number of threads around your move but never seem to take note of peoples advice .
I do understand your anxiety issues but since early November you have spent time posting which could have been been used more practically sorting rubbish etc .
People have tried to advise you but you pick out the negatives and respond to them , if you truly want things sorted and calm please consider the helpful posters who do have solutions which can help you .
Do you have some form of support with your anxiety and overthinking ? I know you have a diagnosed mh condition but maybe some coping strategies could calm things down a little .
Good luck in your new home
polly

silverwhistle

As an occasional English teacher I am constantly amazed at the misuse of words in the English language.. Here though you already know that 'friend' is the word being misused. Just click the switch and say 'NO'. No ifs or buts. As everybody else has identified there is an easy solution to this particular problem. Good luck..

indsty

You only need things and people in your life that you like and enjoy. Just as you clear your cupboards of rubbish and broken things, you need to clear out those people in your life who do not give you any pleasure or enjoyment. This "friend" is a scrounger and is using you - don't let them do it any longer. Next time just say "no". No reasons need to be given, just "no".

thorsoak

He never was a friend. He never will be a friend. He has used you, and he has, at times, been useful to have around.

Just drop him - do not instigate any more communication with him, ignore any texts or messages from him - just ignore him from now on in.

DCFC79

You need to ditch him, tell him why your not happy.

He sounds like a right **** if he wont be respectful when staying at yours.

Loz01

Ditch him - no "friend" would treat you like this.

What do YOU actually get out of this weird "friendship"?

Until you face it head on, it will continue to happen!

coffeehound

Totally agree, this guy is the opposite of a friend -- he's abusing your generosity on a grand scale! Sometimes we'll put up with more than we should to maintain a social life but this is beyond the pale. If he's the type to push his way into your home when you open the door, you could instead open a window to speak to him so that he can't come in.

thorsoak

DCFC79 wrote: »

You need to ditch him, tell him why your not happy.

He sounds like a right **** if he wont be respectful when staying at yours.

Don't even tell him why you're not happy - don't waste another breath on him.

hazyjo

I find it hard to be blunt with people. I also find it hard to stand up to certain 'friends' and always keep in touch to some degree. I do appreciate it's hard to drop someone and, even if you fall out, not to reach out again.

BUT... if you do find it that hard, just a white lie won't hurt. Say you've got your niece, Aunt Ethel, cousin, mum, mate... whoever staying with you for a while. Maybe someone at Uni? That'll give you 3 years or so! Not ideal, and won't give you that boost of confidence you need, but it'll give you breathing space and I bet he won't be as bothered with you if you're not there to serve his needs anyway!

Jx

ChemistDude

Can't see any friendship here. He is even less than an acquaintance.....