From debt to freedom...

janb5

He really knows how to antagonize you.
Very provocative behaviour!

Cherryfudge

Not acceptable behaviour - which (IMO) is why he did it while you were out. Hopefully it will benefit you with extra fruit this coming season.

Well done on adding a good chunk to savings.

Spendless

Oh good grief. Thought he'd been quiet. I don't know if you are still keeping a log of behaviour but if you are I'd add this.
I mean I understand he is still legal owner and even if it was needed, but the sheer lack of respect in coming along and doing it whilst you're out, when it isn't him that lives at the property makes it unacceptable.  

Honeysucklelou2

Thank you SH, Janb5, Cherryfudge & Spendless. That’s exactly it in a nutshells Spendless, the sheer lack of respect  and  you’re right Cherryfudge, he waited until I was out. It wasn’t as if it needed a heavy prune - any branches slightly overhanging the path had been cut back last summer 😞. Still an apt reminder that I need to keep going on the legal front.

Forgot to say on the last post, thank you Janb5, for the info about Scrabble. DD4 loves Scrabble and that would be an online game she would love to play with my parents. I will investigate that today.

Seed sowing started yesterday! Just got some tomato seeds sown, these will be started indoors and then moved to the greenhouse when the weather is warmer. The variety is “Garnet”, which I haven’t tried before. It’s a cherry tomato but has more of  a bronze red colour.

Kitten868

Why can't it ever be anything helpful? I thought I'd be controlling and come to your house and do all your washing and put it away. Or I went shopping and got some food for you all? Has he made the tree look stupid? 
Hope the divorce is progressing. I know people are still having paperwork go through. 
Hope you have a lovely half term week off xxx

Sun_Addict

Why on earth did your ex chop the tree back? It seems a really random thing to do and leaving the branches for you to clear up too! Definitely one to note in the log if you’re still keeping it.

crazy_cat_lady

I know it isn't possible for me to dislike your ex more than you do, but he really does take the biscuit. I am beyond frustrated with silly little control freaks like him. Keep fighting HSL. The relief when it's all done is immense.

janb5

I forgot to warn you that Lexulous really is addictive!  Not only do I play with friends but also two people on the site who have become `regulars`  Hmm always remember not to speak to strangers!
One of my best friends has a complete personality change behind the screen...all bars are off - she is so determined to win!
All the comments re ex are so heart warming...he is exhibiting very controlling behaviour.
Forget the year of  the OX- this is the year of the EX and  divorce and enjoy your life without him snapping at your heels.  

savingholmes

What they said.... 
Hope you manage to find some light in the midst of it all but I'd pursue the divorce as quick as possible. I hope my marriage stays strong - but if it doesn't I certainly wouldn't want it to drag on. Not good for anyone.

Honeysucklelou2

Thank you Kitten868, SA, CCL, Janb5 & SH.  I’ve no idea why he deceived to cut the tree or even how he knew I wouldn’t be here unless that was by chance. Jan - I did smile at the year of the ex. I will keep on.

I think I spoke too soon about sleep, as tonight I’ve been wide awake😕.  I got out for a quick walk on Saturday afternoon. The wind has been very cold so getting DS3 round our shortest route was a challenge enough! 

Tea was homemade pizza. I’d forgotten what a great meal it is! I made the dough before going on the walk, so it was ready to use on our return. DS1 wanted a take away instead which was his choice but the others made their pizzas with choice of toppings. For the cost of a large pizza from Mr T’s, the children were able to make their own, all happy with their chosen flavours!

Last week ( a little late) I drew up a list for the 365 savings challenge. I’ve transferred about £11 to a savings account to cover the year so far. I’m still waiting to hear from the A* with the cheque mentioned in their letter to me. The letter said the cheque would take 2-3 weeks, which was up on the 11th Feb, so hoping it will come soon.