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Scared walking to work in early hours of morning

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  • Guest101
    Guest101 Posts: 15,764 Forumite
    fluffyfox wrote: »
    what makes you say that? its not a 'big' part just a description. oh i get it, because i specified that he was Eastern European that implies that I dislike Eastern Europeans, Give me a break.



    Choose your words more carefully, I didn't write it, you did.
  • TBagpuss
    TBagpuss Posts: 11,236 Forumite
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    OP, glad to hear that you have dcided to stya.

    Carrying a torch and geting a hi-vis jacket will help to rduce any risk from traffic (and need not be expensive)

    Walking briskly and confidently sends out a message that you are not vulnerable.

    6 a.m. is probably safer than if you were doing something similar later at night.

    Cycling or using a moped would probably be, and feel, safer (and faster!)

    A personal alarm will help give you confidence, And in a worst-case scenario would allow you to call for help.
    All posts are my personal opinion, not formal advice Always get proper, professional advice (particularly about anything legal!)
  • Tammykitty
    Tammykitty Posts: 1,005 Forumite
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    edited 6 December 2016 at 3:51PM
    How many people saying the OP it is safe would be happy with their own daughters doing it?
  • ciderboy2009
    ciderboy2009 Posts: 1,243 Forumite
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    I've just bought one of these for my wife wh has to walk across a park with a bad reputation each night around 11:30
    https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B01LYKKBU3/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o04_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
    It's bright enough to really dazzle somone and is made of metal so she could use it to defend herself. It fits easily in her handbag, comes with 2 rechargable batteries and only costs a tenner!
  • His nationality was relevant actually, because he thought that a woman walking alone at 6am meant she was a prostitute. Maybe women don't do that in his country unless they're working girls, or maybe he thinks that's what happens in the UK. Either way, it shows there are people around who could mistake her for a prostitute.

    It was an innocent and relevant description (far more relevant than any of your tellings off). It's disgusting that certain forum members have decided to get on their high horses, and start berating the OP over her failure to perfectly self-police her wording and appeal to the tippy-toe everything is racist brigade.


    Back on topic, it is risky for a lone woman to be walking around at 6am, I wouldn't want to do it. In addition to the suggestions of carry alarms, and a bright torch (to blind any attackers). Could you make it known at work that you would like a lift? Someone else might be able to do it.

    Have you looked up the crime statistics for this particular street? This would show how likely your fears are. Also how rough is the area you work in?

    Are there any alternative routes you can take? Do you walk on the right side of the road, so that traffic coming up behind you is the opposite side of the road?
  • bugslet
    bugslet Posts: 6,874 Forumite
    Tammykitty wrote: »
    How many people saying the OP it is safe would be happy with their own daughters doing it?

    Wouldn't bother me, at that time in the morning there's little chance of anything untoward happening.

    And I've drivne a van round Europe and the Uk and slept in it in cities and the middle of nowhere. Broken down and walked miles in places I didn't know. And opened up work at all sorts of hours in a fairly rough area.

    OP, you really have to try and stop your mind running away with you, otherwise you almost get paralysed by a fear of something that is highly unlikely to happen.
  • bugslet wrote: »
    Wouldn't bother me, at that time in the morning there's little chance of anything untoward happening.

    And I've drivne a van round Europe and the Uk and slept in it in cities and the middle of nowhere. Broken down and walked miles in places I didn't know. And opened up work at all sorts of hours in a fairly rough area.

    OP, you really have to try and stop your mind running away with you, otherwise you almost get paralysed by a fear of something that is highly unlikely to happen.

    Are you female though?
  • polgara
    polgara Posts: 500 Forumite
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    Have you checked how much a taxi would cost - regular contract might be cheaper?
  • bugslet
    bugslet Posts: 6,874 Forumite
    Are you female though?

    Yes, it wouldn't be pertinent otherwise.


    They let women drive vans and trucks and deliver stuff these days.....
  • lincroft1710
    lincroft1710 Posts: 18,873 Forumite
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    edited 6 December 2016 at 9:35PM
    bugslet wrote: »

    They let women drive vans and trucks and deliver stuff these
    days.....

    They'll be getting the vote soon!!
    If you are querying your Council Tax band would you please state whether you are in England, Scotland or Wales
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