What marital status am I?

chelseablue

fairy_lights wrote: »

But then surely a widow would need to tick the 'single' box too, as they're no longer married. And there is usually an option for 'divorced', but divorcees aren't married so they're single too. And what if you've been widowed, remarried, and then divorced and living with a new partner?
The whole thing would be easier if they just asked "who do you want your death related benefits paid to in the event you die in a gruesome industrial accident?"

Indeed it would! This was just a 'New Employee Form'


I presume when I start Id have to fill in something else with who I want the death in service benefit to go to

NYGiants

Your marital status is "single".

They're not asking you about your living arrangements.

POPPYOSCAR

Fireflyaway wrote: »

If you are not married you are single. Cohabiting is still single because you are not married.

https://en.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/single


Unmarried or not involved in a stable sexual relationship:
‘a single mother’

tea_lover

fairy_lights wrote: »

But then surely a widow would need to tick the 'single' box too, as they're no longer married. And there is usually an option for 'divorced', but divorcees aren't married so they're single too. And what if you've been widowed, remarried, and then divorced and living with a new partner?
The whole thing would be easier if they just asked "who do you want your death related benefits paid to in the event you die in a gruesome industrial accident?"

Which they do (or words to that effect ), or at least, they do at every workplace I've ever been in.

I can see that they need to ask things like that, to ensure they know who to contact in an emergency and who any payments are made to. What I cannot see is why on earth they need to know whether you live with someone, are divorced, etc. How does that have any bearing on your employment?

Tiddlywinks

chelseablue wrote: »

Now we've bought the house we're going to re-build our savings pot, then get married.

That 'old chestnut' gets trotted out every time.

Getting married is not expensive - people's choices increase the cost.

Of course, it depends on your priorities in life... I don't get why so many people have children before marriage and then blame the delay on costs. What is more expensive: a wedding or a child?

LilElvis

chelseablue wrote: »

Indeed it would! This was just a 'New Employee Form'


I presume when I start Id have to fill in something else with who I want the death in service benefit to go to

Expression of wishes form.

chelseablue

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

That 'old chestnut' gets trotted out every time.

Getting married is not expensive - people's choices increase the cost.

Of course, it depends on your priorities in life... I don't get why so many people have children before marriage and then blame the delay on costs. What is more expensive: a wedding or a child?

We wanted our son to live in a nice area with good schools so decided to buy a house first rather than get married (we live not far from London where the prices increase at an alarming rate)


We were going to get married in 2013 but his Dad was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and given 12 months to live so all our plans went out the window as his Dad went down hill quite quickly (he died in 2014)


Now we find out tomorrow if his mum's cancer is treatable or not

chelseablue

LilElvis wrote: »

Expression of wishes form.

Yes that's the one

tea_lover

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

That 'old chestnut' gets trotted out every time.

Getting married is not expensive - people's choices increase the cost.

Of course, it depends on your priorities in life... I don't get why so many people have children before marriage and then blame the delay on costs. What is more expensive: a wedding or a child?

I don't get why people are so rude about other people's choices (that have no impact on them whatsoever).... but each to their own.

onomatopoeia99

My employer has never formally asked what my marital status is in over 25 years. If they did, my answer would be "article 8". It's none of their business.