Need URGENT benefit advice after a relationship breakdown

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https://www.turn2us.org.uk/

http://www.entitledto.co.uk/benefits-calculator/startcalc.aspx?e2dwp=y

https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/benefits/benefits-introduction/what-benefits-can-i-get/

Mojisola

audioblackout wrote: »

I'm asking for financial help based around our present circumstances

As you've been together for so long, surely everything you have should be shared out, just as if you'd been married for that length of time.

Half of all your savings and half of the value of the house should be hers.

meer53

My advice - your fiance needs to find a full time job, then move out. There are jobs available for unskilled people, my 16 year old daughter got a part time job 1 week after leaving school to go to college. There were full time positions available too. We live near Leeds.

Asking for benefits advice for someone who is able to work full time is not the way to go.

Pollycat

audioblackout wrote: »

But sometimes you believe you are going to be together forever, the guy takes control (which I believe is the way most guy/gal relationships work in psycology), then the lady is in a problem. I will not see the person I've been with for my whole life in a problem.

It doesn't work like that in the relationship I've been in for the last 31 years.
My OH has never taken control - and would get short shrift if he'd ever tried.

Kaye1

Has she accrued any pension payments?

Otherwise, she will be left in dire straits in a few years......

You both sounds happy with the previous situation- so I am not judging that. However, she is now left in a situation where she doesn't have many transferable skills and up to date experience of the job world.

This may leave her in some difficulty in the future. So you while you have both benefited from the previous situation, in the open job market, she may find it tricky to move forward.

There are always jobs available- carers, catering industry, cleaners etc- there are always spaces for them but does she want to go back to 'entry' level?

You seem keen to ensure she is ok- so you will need to bear this in mind.

groovy_chick

Claiming benefits should be a last resort OP, not a lifestyle choice. No wonder our budgets are so stretched if we are supporting every couple who decides to split up.

How much equity is there in your house? I don't understand why you are rushing into a rental property when you might have enough equity for a flat or a substantial deposit on one.

fierystormcloud

Mojisola wrote: »

As you've been together for so long, surely everything you have should be shared out, just as if you'd been married for that length of time.

Half of all your savings and half of the value of the house should be hers.

Not if they're not married.

When you are just living together, you have no more rights over your partner's possessions than if he was just your flatmate. Even if you are 'engaged.' So if the house is in his name only, she is entitled to nothing.

meer53 wrote: »

My advice - your fiance needs to find a full time job, then move out. There are jobs available for unskilled people, my 16 year old daughter got a part time job 1 week after leaving school to go to college. There were full time positions available too. We live near Leeds.

Asking for benefits advice for someone who is able to work full time is not the way to go.

Agree. There seems to be no reason why this woman cannot go out to work.

groovy_chick wrote: »

Claiming benefits should be a last resort OP, not a lifestyle choice. No wonder our budgets are so stretched if we are supporting every couple who decides to split up.

How much equity is there in your house? I don't understand why you are rushing into a rental property when you might have enough equity for a flat or a substantial deposit on one.

This ^^^

maman

audioblackout wrote: »

I'm asking for financial help based around our present circumstances, not judgement over our relationship

I understand that but it really is difficult for anyone to understand why after 25 years and what sounds like an amicable situation why it's imperative that you end everything so rapidly.


Added to that, the solution you want help with is for your partner to get state support in the form of benefits. She doesn't need benefits, she needs a job and her share of your accrued assets over 25 years then she could set herself up.


It's to your credit that you are trying to help her (although if she's a willing party to this amicable spit I don't see why you're doing it all) but you shouldn't be surprised that posters comment on your relationship when the premise of your thread is to ask the taxpayer to resolve your situation.

Mojisola

fierystormcloud wrote: »

Not if they're not married.

When you are just living together, you have no more rights over your partner's possessions than if he was just your flatmate. Even if you are 'engaged.' So if the house is in his name only, she is entitled to nothing.

Legally, that's right but if they really are 'best friends' and the break-up is amicable, both should come out of the relationship as equals.

If neither of them have any savings, they may have to stay in the house until it is sold and can split the capital.

FBaby

The bottom line is there are no miracle solutions. She will become a single person without children or disability and the system doesn't allow such people to fare well on benefits. So either she will have to make do with having to count every penny to last until her next jsa payment in a grotty place having to decide between heat or food until she finds a full time job or she tries to find one in the next 4 weeks.

The only alternative is you continue to support her until she can access her capital when you sell your house.