Need URGENT benefit advice after a relationship breakdown

Bogalot

audioblackout wrote: »

Thank you so much for your post. Both of us want to move out in 4 weeks, so it's not a question of me wanting her out. It's a joint decision based upon our personal circumstances. We can't be in this house together anymore. Anyway...

So, what you're saying is find her a nice place pay the deposit and pay the rent for a month? Then apply for jsa and housing benefit? Meanwhile she might have a clearer idea of her own direction right? And then she might not need benefits. I like this solution. Thank.you.

Check the LHA rates before committing to a property. For Leeds they are either £80 or £100 a week, depending on where you are.

audioblackout

Bogalot wrote: »

NMW is £7.20 an hour

If she was only finding work for you that suggests she was an employee the whole time. Employment status is one of fact, not one of choice. If she chose to do so she could pursue you for the difference between what she has been paid and what she should have received.

So let me explain. She ran a management agency for the industry I'm involved in. She got paid as an outside agency from me for 25 years. Unfortunately she was so focused on me she never expanded it. Of course I was paying the bills.so it was never an issue. But hey, we can't change the past. I just want to make sure she's ok right now and need to know the best way to help her x

DCFC79

CuppaTea wrote: »

I thought the NMW was £7.50?

Sorry I've just checked and it is £7.20. May be I just heard talk of it going up then.

Could be wrong but I think its going up to £7.50 next year.

Yes you heard right, here we go

audioblackout

Mojisola wrote: »

This is the kind of tale that makes women realise that they have to be responsible for their own financial future even if they are in what seems like a stable relationship.

After 25 years as a couple, the woman ends up with practically no income (and very little pension unless there was a massive buy-back of the ten missing years) and is out looking for somewhere to live while she scrapes by on benefits.

I agree. Kind of. I wish I could go into our relationship but I won't. But sometimes you believe you are going to be together forever, the guy takes control (which I believe is the way most guy/gal relationships work in psycology), then the lady is in a problem. I will not see the person I've been with for my whole life in a problem. I need to fix this for her. And I will. Hence asking for help, not judgement

gycraig_2

Seeing as you are clearly well off at her expense could you not just loan her a portion of the money she will receive when you sell the house ?.

Love it finds you work builds you up then you break up and she's out on her !!!! for New Year. Why not just both live there till you sell it then make a clean break if it's amicable?.

*max*

audioblackout wrote: »

She presently has her own business finding me work. She earns 3000 pound per year, although it would be easy to switch this so I'm employing her instead for the same money. She presently chooses how many hours she works and again, this can be adapted in the short term to maximise her benefits.

audioblackout wrote: »

So let me explain. She ran a management agency for the industry I'm involved in. She got paid as an outside agency from me for 25 years. Unfortunately she was so focused on me she never expanded it. Of course I was paying the bills.so it was never an issue. But hey, we can't change the past. I just want to make sure she's ok right now and need to know the best way to help her x

I'm seriously hoping this is a joke.

You basically "fake-employed" her for 25 years, as your...recruitment agent?

I'm guessing there were never any jobs forthcoming? From your fiancee/recruitment agent? In 25 years?

And now you're all of a sudden worried about what HER income is going to come from, because I guess you were now denied some disability benefit or other, weren't you? And your benefits might not be enough to support both of you, so now you're looking into what SHE could get.



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fierystormcloud

swingaloo wrote: »

So what you really want advice on is how to fiddle her hours to get the most benefits.
You are choosing to split in such a hurry but rather than working together as 'long term partners and friends' to achieve this you want the taxpayer to take the brunt.

Perhaps she could get a full time job asap and maybe you could help her raise a bond and first months rent.

This ^^^

Mojisola wrote: »

This is the kind of tale that makes women realise that they have to be responsible for their own financial future even if they are in what seems like a stable relationship.

After 25 years as a couple, the woman ends up with practically no income (and very little pension unless there was a massive buy-back of the ten missing years) and is out looking for somewhere to live while she scrapes by on benefits.

Agree hugely with this. ^ :T

gycraig wrote: »

Seeing as you are clearly well off at her expense could you not just loan her a portion of the money she will receive when you sell the house ?.

Love it finds you work builds you up then you break up and she's out on her !!!! for New Year. Why not just both live there till you sell it then make a clean break if it's amicable?.

Agree ^ I would like to know why the OP doesn't move out and let the 'fiancee' stay?

And WHY did she only earn £3K a year?! That's only just over £50 a week. For the whole 25 years I gather?

As an aside? Fiancee? For 25 years??? Really? Why? :huh:

Why be engaged all those years and never get married?

A really bizarre original post IMO. Can't get my head around most of it.

audioblackout

gycraig wrote: »

Seeing as you are clearly well off at her expense could you not just loan her a portion of the money she will receive when you sell the house ?.

Love it finds you work builds you up then you break up and she's out on her !!!! for New Year. Why not just both live there till you sell it then make a clean break if it's amicable?.

Why am I well off at at her expense? You.know nothing about our relationship so please stop judging.

Continuing to look for advice to help us x

audioblackout

*max* wrote: »

I'm seriously hoping this is a joke.

You basically "fake-employed" her for 25 years, as your...recruitment agent?

I'm guessing there were never any jobs forthcoming? From your fiancee/recruitment agent? In 25 years?

And now you're all of a sudden worried about what HER income is going to come from, because I guess you were now denied some disability benefit or other, weren't you? And your benefits might not be enough to support both of you, so now you're looking into what SHE could get.


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Unfortunately you're talking rubbish. You don't know our relationship. As for disability benefit I have no clue what you're talking about. Please stop judging us and answer the original post. We need help!!!

audioblackout

fierystormcloud wrote: »

This ^^^



Agree hugely with this. ^ :T



Agree ^ I would like to know why the OP doesn't move out and let the 'fiancee' stay?

And WHY did she only earn £3K a year?! That's only just over £50 a week. For the whole 25 years I gather?

As an aside? Fiancee? For 25 years??? Really? Why? :huh:

Why be engaged all those years and never get married?

A really bizarre original post IMO. Can't get my head around most of it.

I'm asking for financial help based around our present circumstances, not judgement over our relationship