Paris Metro ticket - possible proof of an affair

Knightsuntold

FBaby wrote: »

What is a no good reason is a very good one for someone else. There are only three versions really, she has serious MH issues that brings on madness, or she really did have an affair believing that your husband would end up with her, so when it didn't, she decided to try to hurt him as hard as she could, or for some reason, she got very angry about being moved to the other team, blamed your husband, so again felt justified to do something to get in his way as she feels he got in hers.


I don't want to open things up again, but I don't think this proved she was lying. It proved that there was another mean for her to know the information, but that alone doesn't discredit the fact that she could also have seen it.

Still, as I've said all the way, you've made your decision 2 years ago and I strongly believe that you need to move on regardless of whether there in 95% chance she lied or 50% or 5%.

I think out of the three options, the latter is the most likely, but I'll never know for sure.

For me, it does prove that she lying about the scar. She only described the part that was shown in the photo, and not the rest of it - it is one hell of a scar. At the time, I was so shocked that she knew about it, that it didn't click that it wasn't a full description.

Yes, I'm moving on - a bit of a change to this time last week.

Knightsuntold

Robisere wrote: »

That is US!
We have been married for almost 30 years now and have almost reached an even keel. We love each other, I always say she saved my life, which was going nowhere. Second time for both of us, although my darling OH had just the one bloke before me, such a swine that he could not stop trying to get to her after we married, until I was forced to punch his lights out, much against my will. I had several relationships before meeting her, but for a long time I could not make her understand how much she meant to me. I first learned how insecure she could be, when we were dancing to an old 60's group on tour, with our married mates. I turned to a voice which called my name and saw an old gf. My OH screamed at me and walked off the floor "Don't you turn your back on me!"

I was very careful after that, to make sure she knew that I was never going to stray. I worked at it because she was worth it and I knew we were worth it. Here we are now, two great kids, four smashing grandchildren and I think she finally realises that this battered old has-been loves her enough to stay. Maybe..

I just wanted to say that you are one amazing person. The majority of people I know would have walked out on that situation, no matter how much they loved the person. Life like that is hard - it has an impact on every single day. You must be utterly devoted, and I hope your wife realises how lucky she is.

Spendless

burnoutbabe wrote: »

I don't see why you can't just say "i found this in bag x the other day" wonder how that go there?"

thats not accusing him, as you did find it and did wonder why is is there. It seems not normal to not mention it at all.

And for the same reason start a conversation up with MIL about using the metro. If she says she's never traveled on one you know it hasn't come from her.

If it's because you don't want to know, then you have your answer. It's MIL and you move on and don't dwell on it.

Knightsuntold

Spendless wrote: »

And for the same reason start a conversation up with MIL about using the metro. If she says she's never traveled on one you know it hasn't come from her.

If it's because you don't want to know, then you have your answer. It's MIL and you move on and don't dwell on it.

The whole point of not asking his mum was that I was terrified of breaking down in front of her and everything spilling it. She never knew the full story, only that my partner had some problems at work. His mum is the type of lady who will immediately wrap you in a big hug, if she detects any trace of being upset - no way could I have held it together at the time.

Knightsuntold

Well, folks... she's done it again. Only this time it's to a female boss, and, according to the nice police woman, it's much, much worse and will undoubtedly end up in court. We had a visit this morning to see if some keys would fit in our locks - they didn't - thank God.

fairy_lights

Woah, that's an unexpected twist!
I think if I were you I would change your locks anyway, just in case.

Pollycat

Knightsuntold wrote: »

Well, folks... she's done it again. Only this time it's to a female boss, and, according to the nice police woman, it's much, much worse and will undoubtedly end up in court. We had a visit this morning to see if some keys would fit in our locks - they didn't - thank God.

What exactly has she done this time?

Made out she's been having an affair with this female boss?
Or having an affair with the boss's husband?

Or something totally unrelated to sex/relationships but to do with work?

thorsoak

Knightsuntold wrote: »

Well, folks... she's done it again. Only this time it's to a female boss, and, according to the nice police woman, it's much, much worse and will undoubtedly end up in court. We had a visit this morning to see if some keys would fit in our locks - they didn't - thank God.

I'm surprised that the nice police woman has given out so much information - this could well be prejudicial to a court case.

Voyager2002

Knightsuntold: I think it is time to write that book. I for one would gladly pay a good few pennies for the chance to read all about it!

Person_one

fairy_lights wrote: »

Woah, that's an unexpected twist!

Certainly is!

Well, the 27th is a bit of a dull day often isn't it?