Thrifty friend dines for free while I pay

Andrew_Ryan_89

breaking_free wrote: »

Well I now have another update. My friend's next free evening is a Friday some weeks from now. I pointed out that Fridays are usually excluded from using discount coupons. Here's his reply.

I completely forgot about discounts not being available on Fridays. However there are exceptions. Toby Carvery has good prices also on Fridays. And I have some vouchers covering the whole table party

Let's put that together with his previous reply.

You choose the place but let me know so I can arrange my vouchers, too

It doesn't look like he's expecting me to tit for tat him does it.

I don't know whether to love or loathe this guy :rotfl:

I mean, is this serious? Does he work full time? And probably most important, is he, or has he ever, dated someone before?

breaking_free

Andrew_Ryan_89 wrote: »

I don't know whether to love or loathe this guy :rotfl:

I mean, is this serious? Does he work full time? And probably most important, is he, or has he ever, dated someone before?

Yes he works full time and out-earns me by a considerable margin (I don't know his actual salary but our job titles would suggest he is the higher earner).

Yes he has dated someone - he's married

System

He's not exactly giving much out is he? Probably because he is married.

He's a MPI
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=euPx9iieoiw

breaking_free

Judi wrote: »

He's not exactly giving much out is he? Probably because he is married.

He's a MPI
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=euPx9iieoiw

I LOVE it. Thank you for the link

hazyjo

Could his wife begrudge him seeing you and not wanting/allowing him to spend 'their money' on a meal with you?


Hmm.


Jx

breaking_free

hazyjo wrote: »

Could his wife begrudge him seeing you and not wanting/allowing him to spend 'their money' on a meal with you?
Hmm.
Jx

It's a good point HazyJo so I'll fill you in a bit more.

1. Both he and his wife are frugal, but more importantly they go through their outgoings once a month (she's an accountant) and examine every expenditure to the penny. He told me that he'd once found 5 pence on the pavement and when it came to their monthly accounting she picked up on the fact that there was 5 pence extra!

2. He only sees me when his wife is out of town. Why oh why I do not know and I've said to him in some exasperation "For goodness sake, just tell her you have a female friend whom you've known for a few years". (We met when we were both working in different jobs overseas). Here's the key point: if he spends any money on dinner he will have to explain to her where the money went, and no doubt produce the receipt.

So why doesn't he just bloody well tell his wife that he went out for dinner with me and that explains the expenditure? You know what? Writing this down has woken me up. I'm going to email him and tell him exactly what I've written above - tell your bloody wife that you want to go out for dinner with me while she's away and that it's going to cost money. If you're not prepared to do that and want to carry on hiding your outgoings by not paying your share of a stuffing restaurant bill you can jolly well do one!

I feel so much better after typing that :T

breaking_free

Latest update. I emailed him the following:

Quick question.

How are you going to explain this expenditure to your wife? I'm looking for a 2 for 1 meal deal that favours me this time so you'll probably end up paying full price mate.

I've found some nice pubs that might suit nicely but I'm going to call them to check that the deal applies to December.

He replied.

If it is reasonably low amount, cash can cover it. I'll be travelling for over a week and will need some cash with me.

> I'm looking for a 2 for 1 meal deal that favours me this time so you'll probably end up paying full price mate.

Hmm, interesting logic, why not 1/2 each? I didn't "charge" you the extra pudding or a soup in Toby's when I gave you that voucher. Unfortunately the Brewers voucher was only for one meal, so I could not share that.

Let me know where you indend to go, so I can compete finding the offers that would help both of us.

The soup (I didn't eat pudding!) he is referring to is when he had a voucher that gave both of us a freebie.

Really, if he can't see the difference between him extending a free voucher that covers us both and me having to pay full price so he can have his free meal then there is no reasoning with him. I'm mightily ticked off now.

Person_one

Why are you being coy? Why don't you just tell him you think he should have offered to share the benefit of his voucher so you both got a bit of money off, that you think that's what proper friends do?

Why not stop dancing around the issue and just be honest about what's bothered you

Pollycat

breaking_free wrote: »

Latest update. I emailed him the following:

Quick question.

How are you going to explain this expenditure to your wife? I'm looking for a 2 for 1 meal deal that favours me this time so you'll probably end up paying full price mate.

I've found some nice pubs that might suit nicely but I'm going to call them to check that the deal applies to December.

He replied.

If it is reasonably low amount, cash can cover it. I'll be travelling for over a week and will need some cash with me.

> I'm looking for a 2 for 1 meal deal that favours me this time so you'll probably end up paying full price mate.

Hmm, interesting logic, why not 1/2 each? I didn't "charge" you the extra pudding or a soup in Toby's when I gave you that voucher. Unfortunately the Brewers voucher was only for one meal, so I could not share that.

Let me know where you indend to go, so I can compete finding the offers that would help both of us.

The soup (I didn't eat pudding!) he is referring to is when he had a voucher that gave both of us a freebie.

Really, if he can't see the difference between him extending a free voucher that covers us both and me having to pay full price so he can have his free meal then there is no reasoning with him. I'm mightily ticked off now.

He'd be history.

Only meeting you when his wife is out of town?

Talking about you having an extra pudding or soup?

I'm surprised that he doesn't charge you for having a few extra drops of wine - or expecting you to pay more than half because you had 2 more chips than he had. :rotfl:

breaking_free wrote: »

Unfortunately the Brewers voucher was only for one meal, so I could not share that.

If he can't see what you find wrong and unfair with this statement, he's mean-ness personified.

tea_lover

He sounds like a complete idiot. Leave him, his vouchers and his wife to it.