Feeling my partner and his family have really inconsiderate

74jax

determined_new_ms wrote: »

We have a 2 bed hse and a toddler so have had to transfer her bed into our room and the hse isn't ours.

They all came home at nearly 2 am and woke me up and continued the party. Which meant I laid in bed in pain being kept awake by them. Until at 3 I sent a text to my partner asking them to either go to bed or find somewhere else to hang out.

Yesterday we were sneaking around the hse until 12 because they were asleep and at that point I said to my partner enough was enough

They are here until Tuesday and I'm considering going and staying somewhere else

I really think there must be more to this surely?

You didn't HAVE to put them up, you offered. You could have offered saying we've got a sofa or you can bring an air bed. But you chose too move a bed. I'm not sure that is their fault.

You chose to come home and yes they woke you which is really bad but id be annoyed at your partner for carrying on not them. They were only doing what their host was. If you waited an hour to tell them they woke you then that is hardly their fault. Maybe he wanted to spend time with his family?

Why you make crept around till mid day in your own house only you know.

Now you want to move out?

Andypandyboy

I honestly think that being in pain has made you blow this up out of proportion.

suki1964

Seriously if it was such a 'ball ache' why agree ?

I move cots and beds every other weekend to accomadate friends and family, no complaints because I want to the guests to stay. If I didn't, it would be a 'ball ache' for sure


Why did you tip toe in the morning? I keep noise down till seven, then it's life as usual. Not my problem if someone is hanging and wants a lie in. My house, I'm busy, I can't sit twiddling me thumbs


As for partying half the night, well that's down to partner to explain and perhaps apologise for. My niece stayed with us recently from Oz and my husband had the good sense to cork a bottle or two and disappear to bed. We sat half the night in the kitchen, with doors closed he didn't hear a thing, and believe me, we done a lot of gabbing, laughing and crying


End of the day,if you don't want overnight guests, say so. I had the grandkids 4 nights last week and was asked to take them this weekend as well. So I compromised, said one night, parents had to drop off and lift on their way to their night out in a posh hotel. Kids were looked after , parents had their night, I'm sane

meer53

suki1964 wrote: »

Seriously if it was such a 'ball ache' why agree ?

I move cots and beds every other weekend to accomadate friends and family, no complaints because I want to the guests to stay. If I didn't, it would be a 'ball ache' for sure


Why did you tip toe in the morning? I keep noise down till seven, then it's life as usual. Not my problem if someone is hanging and wants a lie in. My house, I'm busy, I can't sit twiddling me thumbs


As for partying half the night, well that's down to partner to explain and perhaps apologise for. My niece stayed with us recently from Oz and my husband had the good sense to cork a bottle or two and disappear to bed. We sat half the night in the kitchen, with doors closed he didn't hear a thing, and believe me, we done a lot of gabbing, laughing and crying


End of the day,if you don't want overnight guests, say so. I had the grandkids 4 nights last week and was asked to take them this weekend as well. So I compromised, said one night, parents had to drop off and lift on their way to their night out in a posh hotel. Kids were looked after , parents had their night, I'm sane

Same here ! My niece from Oz came in October to stay with me, we sat up for hours enjoying wine and food and catching up, son and daughter just accepted she was here and went on with their lives as normal, i still got up, got a shower and dried my hair each morning whilst she was still in bed. If i was worried about how her staying would affect us i would have said no, please stay somewhere else. If you agree to people staying you really have to make some allowances for a while.

theoretica

You are short of sleep and in pain - I think you are allowed to be cranky. Why not just explain the situation to them and ask for silence in the house after toddler's bed time?

Diary

Would your boyfriend be ok with you staying elsewhere? It might just let him know how annoyed you are at him having a good time with his family and think twice next time. If you let this continue like this it will get much worse. Did your boyfriend tell you to be quiet as well the day after or was that just you? I'm quite surprised he would behave like this when you're in pain and have a young child.

missbiggles1

theoretica wrote: »

You are short of sleep and in pain - I think you are allowed to be cranky. Why not just explain the situation to them and ask for silence in the house after toddler's bed time?

That's a bit extreme - how many people are silent in their own house after their young children have gone to bed?

theoretica

missbiggles1 wrote: »

That's a bit extreme - how many people are silent in their own house after their young children have gone to bed?

Fair point - reasonable quiet then!

hollydays

It seems to me this is more about your oh not putting you first

determined_new_ms

Hi thanks for all your comments. I think some things have been lost in translation. I am annoyed with my partner. It was him that continually told me and lo to be quiet while they were sleeping to the point of it being lunchtime and I said that was enough. Or lo is a very calm and quiet child as it is.

I was very hurt while I was lying in bed as I was in a lot of pain, he knew they'd woken me and I asked him not to make noise. While I was lying there in pain I was upset that he was being so inconsiderate especially given we had had to be so quiet in the middle of the day.

Nothing can be done now I just will say I don't think it's a good idea if its suggested they stay again. No they aren't young, similar ages to us (40 &35) they just have very young lifestyles