Feeling my partner and his family have really inconsiderate

Money_saving_maniac

All you can do is have it out with him about being selfish, cos it's not the guest that are the problem it's the other half.

You might have to say you are not having his family to stay any more if he continues being selfish.

hollydays

Don't take than less than 100% respect from your partner.Allowing for hormones .

TBagpuss

OK, with the update, yes, your partner is nbeing unreasonable and inconsierate and it is reasonable for you to have a conversation with him about that.

You can also bear in mind what has happened for future reference, abd perhaps manage people's expectations - for instance next time someone is planning a visit, you can say to them "You're welcome to come - we may bned to ask you to give us a hand moving LO's cot into our room so you can sleep in his/her rom, and just so you know, we're usually up by [time] even at weekends - you don't have to get up then if you don't want to but it probably won't be very quiet after that time"

It sounds as though the issue is that your OH is failing to rtreat you with the same consideration that he treats the guiests with, and that is a legitimate reason to be unhappy with him.

thorsoak

determined_new_ms wrote: »

Hi thanks for all your comments. I think some things have been lost in translation. I am annoyed with my partner. It was him that continually told me and lo to be quiet while they were sleeping to the point of it being lunchtime and I said that was enough. Or lo is a very calm and quiet child as it is.

I was very hurt while I was lying in bed as I was in a lot of pain, he knew they'd woken me and I asked him not to make noise. While I was lying there in pain I was upset that he was being so inconsiderate especially given we had had to be so quiet in the middle of the day.

Nothing can be done now I just will say I don't think it's a good idea if its suggested they stay again. No they aren't young, similar ages to us (40 &35) they just have very young lifestyles

I have to admit to being totally confused about your post - I remember your previous posts - about life is what happens and falling apart at the seams -(August or so last year) . I thought that you were older - your daughter was having mental health problems and had abandoned her daughter with you and you had adopted her ....

Or has someone else used your account name?


Or has someone else used the same name?

Ronaldo_Mconaldo

And what is a "hse"?

determined_new_ms

thorsoak wrote: »

I have to admit to being totally confused about your post - I remember your previous posts - about life is what happens and falling apart at the seams -(August or so last year) . I thought that you were older - your daughter was having mental health problems and had abandoned her daughter with you and you had adopted her ....

Or has someone else used your account name?


Or has someone else used the same name?

Wow what a long memory you have, that post was around August 2014... All of this s true. Our lo is my granddaughter. I have 2 adult children one of whom has a personality disorder. All me, all true..

thorsoak

So is it you or your OH who is 35?

determined_new_ms

I feel like I'm getting a Spanish inquisition! Not that I need to explain myself to this degree but I am 40, soon to turn 41....

determined_new_ms

I'm not lying about anything! Was just upset yesterday and venting....

thorsoak

Well, the reason I'm asking is that often a younger newer partner is more casual about how visitors behave in someone else's house - and to me, this would appear to be the case. Think you are right - next time it is suggested that they stay at yours, your respone should be "no, sorry, no room".