Issue with ex denying access to children

KxMx

He can set control over tags himself- everything would go to him for approval or otherwise. If approval is denied, no tag & no post on his timeline.

I know, I do it myself

Dill

Faelia wrote: »

I have seen messages from her saying horrendous things to him after she'd seen a Facebook status of someone in the team tagging him in a drinks after work status. She may just be bitter that he left after the relationship didn't work out and resents that he is trying to move on with his life and have a good time, even once a month. It's certainly no reason to use the kids as a weapon against him.

Hell hath no fury...

I don't applaud someone who walks out on his wife and small children, but unfortunately things get considerably messier with the current fashion for people putting their lives on the internet for others to gawp at. Wouldn't it be better if he/his friends just blocked her so that she can't see what he does? (Sorry not a facebook user, so not very au fait with the technicalities!)

KingS6

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Some do though. I know a guy whose first wife still expected him to maintain the house and garden even after she had re-married and moved someone else in. And told the children lies about him (the marriage broke up because she had three affairs and he finally had enough and left her. She told them he'd ''abandoned ' them. He, being a decent person, did not tell them about her behaviour).

I hasten to add he always supported his children financially over and above what the law required.

What does he tell his children when they ask why mum and dad split up?

Marvel1

duchy wrote: »

Is it possible that either she's not a monster or she has very good reason to be angry with him. Was he unfaithful for example.

Still not good enough reason to deny access to their children.

FBaby

I have seen messages from her saying horrendous things to him after she'd seen a Facebook status of someone in the team tagging him in a drinks after work status. She may just be bitter that he left after the relationship didn't work out and resents that he is trying to move on with his life and have a good time, even once a month.

Maybe. Or maybe he had just told her the night before that he couldn't have the kids that night as he normally would do because he wasn't feeling well, or because he had an important meeting that he had to attend.

Or maybe he said that he would be late paying maintenance this month because he only had £10 left to last him until the end of the week and he didn't even know how he was going to feed himself.

The reality is that you are choosing to believe everything he says, but even good friends can be selective with what they tell you, hence why you are better off not forming such a poor judgement of her when you don't know for sure.

seven-day-weekend

KingS6 wrote: »

What does he tell his children when they ask why mum and dad split up?

His children are grown up now, I don't actually know what he told them at the time (although I did know him then), but he never slagged her off to them. I think it was something along the lines of them not loving each other any more.

She moved another man in in no time, so it would have to be her that did the explaining.