Dilema....Would you do this?

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Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

It would have been good enough for me. Knowing he was an adept liar meant that there was never any evidence of such things - one person prepared to say something would have been enough to reassure me that I hadn't been imagining it.

And I'd certainly have told adult children that it was going to happen once plans were in place, so they knew to either stay clear or tread carefully over that following weekend/week. They are adults, after all, not six year olds; it would certainly have been more ethical than to have my own five year old announcing ten days after the 'I'm leaving next week as soon as I get paid, it's all your fault, I'm completely innocent, you're mental and don't ever speak to anybody about this or I'll tell them all how mental you are and get the kids taken away from you' speech that 'Daddy loves XXXX and they're living in a house and were holding hands and kissing all the time and I had to go and stay with Nanny while they went out'.

Wow. You'd be more than justified!

The OP doesn't mention any history of lying or deceit from her husband though.
She lists his faults as being mean and miserable, but no indication that he's previously been vindictive or untrustworthy, or that the friend was just confirming her existing suspicions.

She is very quick to accept the friends word, and reacts in a way that doesn't ring true.
A mean husband is one thing, being told he's betrayed you for five years is quite another.
I would have thought most people would struggle with this, as even if the love has gone, it's quite something to have someone tell you the last five years has been a lie.
I think most people would at least speak to their partner before rushing off gleefully celebrating the excuse for freedom, exacting revenge, and getting the step children on side.

Try as I might, I just can't get past the part about the seaside cottage secured in two days.

However, they say truths stranger than fiction.

So I'll look forward to the next instalment in which the OP meets the enigmatic artist twenty years her junior living in the cottage next door.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

.j.e.j wrote: »

Reckon they should re-name this the 'bitter ex' board.. :cool:

Only if they were actually bitter, rather than being relieved they'd finally left, but peed off with the having to put up with the day to day until that point. I didn't ever miss my ex - not once - I'm only sorry I didn't have the financial freedom to get the hell out and had to wait for him to get around to lining up the next mug because he didn't have the wherewithal, either