Becoming a full catholic

mumps

Actually I'm a bit confused, OP are you a Catholic or were you baptised into another Christian church?

onomatopoeia99

GlasweJen wrote: »

I she also learned about catholic tradition which was the sort of stuff they slipped in at school without us noticing.

We had an hour a day of RI (note I for Instruction rather than E for Education) at primary school and in the final year a special "confirmation lesson" each week. It was not slipped in without us noticing , and the sacrament was a compulsory part of the final school year before secondary school.

GlasweJen

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

We had an hour a day of RI (note I for Instruction rather than E for Education) at primary school and in the final year a special "confirmation lesson" each week. It was not slipped in without us noticing , and the sacrament was a compulsory part of the final school year before secondary school.

Our RE focused on misinformation about other religions (Muslims can't wear any colour but black, I think they were trying to teach us but the teacher didn't know about the other religions because of course they were all Catholic). The catholic stuff just seemed squeezed in elsewhere and I didn't realise I was taught it until I read some of K's notes from the class (like different coloured priests robes at different times of the religious year).

We had a communion one year and a confirmation the next so primary 3 and 4 would all make their communion and the next year 6 and 7 their confirmation. Reconciliation was in primary 2 and mostly pointless, was dragged to chapel one night to do it first time and every other time the priest would drop into the school and we'd go see him for a chat and confess if we wanted.

We didn't need to confirm but there was a lot of pressure and most of P6 for me involved going on school trips to convents, grottos and reading about saints so I could pick one for the confirmation. I went with Valentine, had to be a boy to suitably annoy my teacher and he's the patron saint of fainters which was my first ever symptom of my heart condition. I made my confirmation in 1997.

Andypandyboy

mumps wrote: »

That isn't true. My mother wasn't a Catholic, she went to some classes before the wedding, she never converted but did promise to bring her children as Catholics, getting married in a Catholic church was very important to my father. She was a Christian so I don't know what would happen to someone who is not baptised but the OP is so shouldn't be a problem.

If you wanted a full nuptial mass you used to be expected to both be confirmed Catholics but I'm not sure if that still applies. Maybe this is what the OP is thinking of, it might be that the full mass is important to the groom's parents.

If you are a (baptised) Catholic you do need to be confirmed, but only one of the parties has to be Catholic to marry in an RC church.

You can have Nuptial Mass if only one party is Catholic, but it was discouraged at one time because only one party could take communion, that is not the case now.

MagicCat

Hi OP, glad you found someone helpful at your local church, good luck with it all.

Just wanted to add, i'm a practising catholic, I got married in a catholic ceremony with nuptial mass 5 years ago in the UK. Like you, my husband was baptised catholic but had received no other sacraments. He was offered confirmation as part of the preparation we did but chose not to - so it's great if it's part of your faith journey and you want to, but not a requirement for catholic marriage in the UK in my experience.

robin_banks

I'm somewhat lapsed. But I have maintained the traditional catholic preoccupations' with sex and death.

mumps

Andypandyboy wrote: »

If you are a (baptised) Catholic you do need to be confirmed, but only one of the parties has to be Catholic to marry in an RC church.

You can have Nuptial Mass if only one party is Catholic, but it was discouraged at one time because only one party could take communion, that is not the case now.

I thought the Nuptial Mass had changed, wasn't sure. I do know Catholics who aren't confirmed who have had a Catholic wedding, some priests are happier to bend the rules than others e.g. happy with using contraception or marrying divorced people. I have lived in some very traditional, conservative parishes and some that are very modern and progressive. I feel more at home in the second.

System

I would imagine god if there is one, is rather less pinickity about the technicalities of religion, most religions share a common theme of love and being a good person, I can more so understand why that matters than whether someone prays a certain way

Mrs_Ryan

My sisters first marriage was in an RC church, her now ex wasn't Catholic.
I really want to get married in church, I do attend Mass and take Communion but OH's family are Northern Irish Protestant, mine are Southern Irish Catholic and he refuses to even set foot in a Catholic Church.

Andypandyboy

mumps wrote: »

I thought the Nuptial Mass had changed, wasn't sure. I do know Catholics who aren't confirmed who have had a Catholic wedding, some priests are happier to bend the rules than others e.g. happy with using contraception or marrying divorced people. I have lived in some very traditional, conservative parishes and some that are very modern and progressive. I feel more at home in the second.

I assume you mean after they have obtained an annulment to the previous marriage?

http://www.ehow.co.uk/how_8440973_married-catholic-church-after-divorce.html

That is quite an arduous process and annulments are not granted lightly, so I doubt that it marks any modernity or progressiveness on the part of that particular parish.