Becoming a full catholic

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missbiggles1 wrote: »

Alpha courses are ecumenical in nature so would be as suitable for a Catholic as for any other Christian.

I was just going to say that! We run Alpha in our church, which is neither C of E nor RC.

Andypandyboy

chesky wrote: »

I don't think the OP has thought this through to its logical conclusion. She becomes converted to Catholicism, takes all the teachings very seriously. Fianc! - non-practicing remember - doesn't enjoy the thought of living with someone who he sees as too religious. End of relationship.

I would assume they had discussed this....

However, I do think that converts are often more zealous than those born into a faith so it could become an issue.

Kynthia

Andypandyboy wrote: »

If you state you are RC, the subject does come up and usually you are confirmed before the wedding.

I agree, with your other points though, except, that if you marry in an RC church you are explicitly committing to bringing children up as members of the faith as it is in the vows.

I disagree as a family member had an RC wedding and was never confirmed however I would imagine the topic would come up with the priest when planning the wedding but wouldn't be a problem. Perhaps it depends on the priest? It definitely wouldn't come up and be a problem if the OP decides to attend mass which is what I think the OP was fearing.

Yes if you marry in a church then you are agreeing to bring up children in the faith, but some people say whatever to get what they want (I'm not saying that's right) or just go along with things without thinking it through. The main thing is that the OP and the fiance have discussed and agreed important topics like this between them, and not assumed things or let families decide these things. Particularly as the fiance isn't practicing so the OP shouldn't assume they'd want to, plus this applies to non-religious decisions.

hazyjo

My best mate is Hindu and decided she wanted to embrace the Catholic Church (this year).


She was previously married and divorced (and coincidentally he went on to commit suicide) - although I'm not sure she has told them. She's buried this info and rarely shares it.


She went to Catholic churches and talked to priests. They were very welcoming. She has been along to 'Rite of Christian Initiation of Adults' meetings.


I think the latest is that she's put it on hold (not to be baptised) as a priest said that if she stays with her (Indian) boyfriend, she would need to get married in a Church. She said she's still going to go to Mass, but isn't really sure where to take it now.


If I find anything else out, I'll let you know!


Jx

kingrulzuk

I'm born to catholic parents, all I know is that if you are getting married in catholic church you will need first holy communion and confirmation certificate's too.

GlasweJen

I'm "Catholic" and had a confirmation and communion but never got certificates. I imagine I'm registered as confirmed at the chapel where it was done but I definitely wouldn't be able to prove being a catholic without asking a priest to check records and write a statement for me.

I have a work mate who converted to Catholicism to marry a catholic and she attended mass and also attended a group every week to work through things like the preparing for sacraments books we did as kids but obviously aimed at adults, she also learned about catholic tradition which was the sort of stuff they slipped in at school without us noticing.

When she did convert officially it was during a mass, she wore a nice dress and it involved aspects of baptism, communion and confirmation all in one.

Andypandyboy

Kynthia wrote: »

I disagree as a family member had an RC wedding and was never confirmed however I would imagine the topic would come up with the priest when planning the wedding but wouldn't be a problem. Perhaps it depends on the priest? It definitely wouldn't come up and be a problem if the OP decides to attend mass which is what I think the OP was fearing.

Yes if you marry in a church then you are agreeing to bring up children in the faith, but some people say whatever to get what they want (I'm not saying that's right) or just go along with things without thinking it through. The main thing is that the OP and the fiance have discussed and agreed important topics like this between them, and not assumed things or let families decide these things. Particularly as the fiance isn't practicing so the OP shouldn't assume they'd want to, plus this applies to non-religious decisions.

If you are RC but have not been confirmed this is the correct information:

http://www.catholicmarriagecentre.org.uk/marriagefaq.php

I am a Catholic, but I have not been confirmed. I wish to get married, and I have been told that I must be confirmed first, is this so?

A. Yes. Catholic Canon Law states: (Canon 1065 §1) "Catholics who have not yet received the sacrament of confirmation are to receive it before being admitted to marriage, if this can be done without grave inconvenience"

Rosemary7391

If you like to ask questions, I'd try and find a church that has a good small group - bible study, house group, something like that - that has good discussions and where you feel comfortable asking questions and thinking about things.

maman

chesky wrote: »

I don't think the OP has thought this through to its logical conclusion. She becomes converted to Catholicism, takes all the teachings very seriously. Fianc! - non-practicing remember - doesn't enjoy the thought of living with someone who he sees as too religious. End of relationship.

I saw something similar happen with a Jewish friend. He was non-practising to all intents and purposes. (I remember him literally getting a fly in his soup when we were out walking in the hills but he drank it anyway hoping it was a Kosher fly!). He met his wife to be who decided to take Judaism very seriously and convert. She started insisting on the Shabbat dinner on Friday evenings when he'd have generally been down the pub. Last heard of very unhappy although we don't see him much any more.

mumps

kingrulzuk wrote: »

I'm born to catholic parents, all I know is that if you are getting married in catholic church you will need first holy communion and confirmation certificate's too.

That isn't true. My mother wasn't a Catholic, she went to some classes before the wedding, she never converted but did promise to bring her children as Catholics, getting married in a Catholic church was very important to my father. She was a Christian so I don't know what would happen to someone who is not baptised but the OP is so shouldn't be a problem.

If you wanted a full nuptial mass you used to be expected to both be confirmed Catholics but I'm not sure if that still applies. Maybe this is what the OP is thinking of, it might be that the full mass is important to the groom's parents.