OH has broken his foot. Help, this is not good for either of us!

Person_one

paddy's_mum wrote: »

If he is being that obscenely pig-headed, irresponsible and indeed criminal, I would make it absolutely clear that he either gives me the keys to the car or I shall be on the phone to the Police.

I actually think this is probably the only reasonable way to respond, otherwise you're basically complicit in him breaking the law and endangering others on the roads.

penguingirl

Aside from the driving stuff- which has already been said- do you have any projects on the computer he could do? My mum broke her foot recently and she managed to sort out some holiday photo albums, making them into photo books.

I think you're right to not get a wheelchair- we got one as we had a family city break planned for a special occasion and mum had only had her crutches a couple of days so didn't feel confident. I think we got more complaints from my dad pushing her than my mum! But in all seriousness, they are quite hard.

Hope the fracture clinic goes ok- my mum actually was able to give up her boot after only 3 weeks, but was told to wait until she felt she could put her weight fully on her foot to drive, which was around the 6 week mark

melanzana

Some pretty honest comments there, and thanks!

Today, I drove him to meet with his friends after we had visited my Mum as arranged. Result. Or so I thought....

I then went to meet my own pals in this lovely little place someone had suggested. I hadn't been there before today. Parking was very tight, but I got out of the space ok, only to hit a high kerb that was in my blindspot, don't ask.... Crunch! His car too. Huge line of scrapes at the bottom of the door, and the door itself is making a funny noise when it's opened.

So I picked him up later and to be fair, his only comment was, let's get to the garage and see what the damage is. OK, so off we went, not too bad, about 250 to fix it all up. No one was injured and so on. Have to leave the car in tomorrow early, and it will not be ready until Tuesday. Garage is walking distance away, so no worries about getting back or anything. We are not using the insurance, so no replacement hire car will be on the cards either.

So there will be no driving for him. And at the fracture clinic on Monday, I will make sure the consultant knows he was driving. You are all correct about that. So we will see how it goes, although after the rollicking I gave him this morning, I think he has calmed down a bit and is suitably chastened for now.

He will not have access to my car either! I have things to do and places to see. Hope I don't hit any more kerbs though!

splishsplash

Oof, that's one way to stop him driving - wreck his car :rotfl:.
I hope all goes well for him on Monday.

teddysmum

The attitude that driving for years makes you immune is stupid.


I have driven, accident free for over 30 years, but was rammed from the behind , two months ago. It was absolutely not my fault, as I was stationary at a junction, when the other car appeared, but driving for so long didn't save me.

melanzana

splishsplash wrote: »

Oof, that's one way to stop him driving - wreck his car :rotfl:.
I hope all goes well for him on Monday.

I LOL'd at that one, and it does look like that doesn't it? But honestly I got that awful sick feeling when I heard the crunch. :eek:

Thanks for good wishes for the clinic on Monday.

melanzana

teddysmum wrote: »

The attitude that driving for years makes you immune is stupid.


I have driven, accident free for over 30 years, but was rammed from the behind , two months ago. It was absolutely not my fault, as I was stationary at a junction, when the other car appeared, but driving for so long didn't save me.

I know this believe me.

I hope you didn't have any injury after the rear ending incident.That is the main thing.

As I discovered after my Crunching incident today.

hazyjo

Sometimes fate has a habit of intervening


Jx

DigForVictory

Hide the car keys. Drop them down a grate if necessary. By the time the GP has shrieked "No!" it may have been too late. Or hear a nasty rattle, get the car off to the garage (agree a parking rate by phone) & remove temptation.) [Ah. You've already taken steps - *nail* that car out of his reach.]

Now, sit him, foot up at MSE & ask him to do the money makeover. You may as well get some financial good out of this!

Get a taxi to the gym - and make sure his mates see he has a boot on & that he's to find exercises he enjoys that Do Not Compromise Healing. Or he'll be awry & limping for the rest of his life or something dire.

Call the usual supermarkets & ask if they have motorised scooters. (Book a nice hot Jacuzzi session for yourself afterwards, as you will get bumped, rammed & clobbered initially.)

If he likes the wretched thing, hurrah. You can borrow them, hire them, & do not have to shove your suddenly lead-backsided spouse anywhere.

Did you grab the magazine with free garden entry offer? Are you currently members of English Heritage or National Trust? As both often have scooters for loan & you can get out of the house & see new things without having to push him or restrain him!

Computer sounds handy, so challenge him to learn a new language. (Duel - you Both learn.) So you can both go somewhere different on holiday when he's better & you've saved up.

Keep him away from Nintendo go for a while! Try the free jigsaw programs?

Get him to eBay things? Table top photography is a useful skill & although likely you'll get landed with packing & posting, at least he can see things through from box of things to credit in paypal.

When did he last visit the library? As a good book is a splendid escape. A good librarian can suggest a few ideas, and if a few are met with even mostly positive responses, then there are loads more authors. Plus library books are free, quiet, don't need mains & cooperate nicely with pain meds.

Arrange times for folk to come in & spouse-sit so you can get out (Away from the blunt instruments), so you can swim, sing, sew, dance, eat out - do whatever you need to restore yourself. Caring for the bad patient is wearing.

Very Best of luck!

hazyjo

Rediscover a love for board games


My mum has taken up 'Rummikub' (tile game). She's made new friends through another friend as they have monthly tournaments round each other's houses. She's really rather good at it


Jx