OH has broken his foot. Help, this is not good for either of us!

melanzana

GlasweJen wrote: »

He's not in invincible he's an idiot! If he's in an accident it would be clear from any medical records that the cracked heel happened well before the accident. Even if he got another leg fracture the X-ray would clearly show that the heel wound is older than the new wounds.

Yes of course that's true, we know that. But I am dealing with someone who was never a day sick in his life, and this issue is NOT GOOD! So denial is the order of the day.

As I said, I will back off for now. Will just go with the flow.

Have decided to just go out by myself the next few days and see what happens!

I cannot hide his car keys, I wouldn't do that. He is an adult, albeit a very silly one at the moment, which is way out of character!

Anyway.....

missbiggles1

melanzana wrote: »

Well, he is ok thankfully. Fell off the ladder whilst cutting the hedge. Hospital confirmed a crack in the heel bone.

No surgery, but a massive big boot to be worn and no putting weight on the heel. Well now, that is not being observed! This man has taken the boot off to drive!!!

So this man who is in sixties is a fitness fanatic. Not like me! So goes to the gym every day. We also go for walks three or four times a week (retired now) with a lovely lunch after the exertions.

Everything is curtailed now and he is so bored and fed up, naturally, he is imprisoned by the BOOT! Sorry if I am being insensitive, but the man hit his head aswell and it could all be so much worse.

Anyway, the point of this thread is what do I do with him? We don't have a Blue Badge or anything, so finding places to go where the distance from car to venue is short is a problem.

This man also said he was going swimming to keep his mobility up, now am I with a nutter or what :T

Trying to be lighthearted, but any suggestions?

Taxi I suppose lol.

Just a bit of a rant here. Sorry if offended anyone with bad injuries after a fall.

I am losing it. He is here around me all day and doing my little head in!

Even without this accident, the time will come when one (or both) of you can't get out and about as often as you used to. Can't you find things you both like doing that don't involve being active but you can enjoy doing in each others' company?

You could find this accident is a blessing in disguise for both your futures.

melanzana

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Even without this accident, the time will come when one (or both) of you can't get out and about as often as you used to. Can't you find things you both like doing that don't involve being active but you can enjoy doing in each others' company?

You could find this accident is a blessing in disguise for both your futures.

That is a good wake up call, thanks! What would you suggest?

We are very active thankfully, and go walking a lot, but that is out for the moment.

At home in the evening we have our own spaces. Works for us. Each to their own and all that.

I could not see us doing a jigsaw or anything like that together!

I don't like TV, OH does and watches it in the evening. I write a bit for the local paper and other things then. I dunno, don't want it to sound like we are chalk and cheese, but it works somehow

He sat in the garden this afternoon, with the BOOT elevated.... and fed the birds, and read, and snoozed. Not his style at all to be sitting down during the day. So it was frustrating for him to say the least of it!

Anyway. It's only going to be a few weeks I reckon, so one day at a time!

It's the driving I'm concerned about now. But what can I do, when someone is determined to do it, and says they are absolutely fine.

At the end of the day, he is not my child! But sometimes it feels like that at the moment

missbiggles1

melanzana wrote: »

That is a good wake up call, thanks! What would you suggest?

We are very active thankfully, and go walking a lot, but that is out for the moment.

At home in the evening we have our own spaces. Works for us. Each to their own and all that.

I could not see us doing a jigsaw or anything like that together!

I don't like TV, OH does and watches it in the evening. I write a bit for the local paper and other things then. I dunno, don't want it to sound like we are chalk and cheese, but it works somehow

He sat in the garden this afternoon, with the BOOT elevated.... and fed the birds, and read, and snoozed. Not his style at all to be sitting down during the day. So it was frustrating for him to say the least of it!

Anyway. It's only going to be a few weeks I reckon, so one day at a time!

It's the driving I'm concerned about now. But what can I do, when someone is determined to do it, and says they are absolutely fine.

At the end of the day, he is not my child! But sometimes it feels like that at the moment

I suppose I was thinking of just enjoying each others' company, whether in convivial silence, talking together, making plans, sharing memories etc.

Re the driving - can't you drive him or would an automatic help?

Grumpelstiltskin

melanzana wrote: »

Men sometimes! I doubt he ever thought of that. And when I tentatively mentioned it earlier, I got excuses. Like.... how would anyone know I had a cracked heel anyway? That could have happened in the "accident".

Honestly, men!

But much as I love the man, I am backing off for now.

Nothing I say makes a difference. He is invincible!

Err Explain to him the insurance company would get his medical records and what would they show?

melanzana

missbiggles1 wrote: »

I suppose I was thinking of just enjoying each others' company, whether in convivial silence, talking together, making plans, sharing memories etc.

Re the driving - can't you drive him or would an automatic help?

Yes I can. But he insists on driving himself Maybe he is trying to prove he is ok or something!

I will wait until tomorrow to mention the insurance issues again. Pain relief drugs mean a sleepy OH at the moment, which isn't a bad thing really all things considered!

I just have to accept that this is the first time either of us have had to deal with incapacitiation, and that is a lucky thing at our age, so it is a learning curve I suppose.

Person_one

melanzana wrote: »

Yes I can. But he insists on driving himself Maybe he is trying to prove he is ok or something!

If he doesn't care about himself, what about the possibility that he could cause an accident and kill or injure someone else?

What if he has a sudden burst of pain because he's using his foot in a way he's not supposed to until it heals and hits the brake or the accelerator too hard? Unlikely but not impossible. If he's on pain relief drugs that are making him drowsy he's probably breaking the law by driving while under their influence too and could cause an accident that way easily.

melanzana

Person_one wrote: »

If he doesn't care about himself, what about the possibility that he could cause an accident and kill or injure someone else?

What if he has a sudden burst of pain because he's using his foot in a way he's not supposed to until it heals and hits the brake or the accelerator too hard? Unlikely but not impossible. If he's on pain relief drugs that are making him drowsy he's probably breaking the law by driving while under their influence too and could cause an accident that way easily.

I know all this. I am surprised he is so insistent that everything is ok. Very out of character for him to be so silly about this. Especially when I can drop and fetch him anywhere he wants to go. It is the left foot, so only affects the clutch, as if that is any excuse! Is it a man thing or is he losing it?

He only needs the heavy pain relief going to sleep. During the day a couple of paracetemol work because (when he is not in the car, grrr) he is wearing the BOOT which really helps.

Anyway, back to the fracture clinic on Monday next. See what happens then.

Detroit

Would he use a wheelchair temporarily? That way you could continue to get out and about on your 'walks' and other activities.

As he likes the gym, maybe advise him to go and have a chat with the coaches there to see what exercises they could recommend so he continue his fitness regime without making his foot worse.

Person_one

melanzana wrote: »

I know all this. I am surprised he is so insistent that everything is ok. Very out of character for him to be so silly about this. Especially when I can drop and fetch him anywhere he wants to go. It is the left foot, so only affects the clutch, as if that is any excuse! Is it a man thing or is he losing it?

The second one I'd say. Most people aren't this stupid and irresponsible, men or women.