OH has broken his foot. Help, this is not good for either of us!

hazyjo

If he bangs on about never having a car accident and he's fine... just say 'Oh, so you meant to fall of that ladder then? Party trick, was it?' Accidents are exactly that - accidental. Out of the blue. Unexpected. Unpredicted.


To say you're never going to have one is like saying you're never going to get another paper cut, or drop another mug, or trip over, or fall off a ladder(!), or slip on a stair. We've all been there. The risks when driving are even worse as you're not only relying on your own 'safe/reliable' driving, but how other people on the road drive - in my 30 years behind the wheel, I'd quite happily label most of them as absolute numpties lol


Most people think they won't enjoy a jigsaw until they try. I love them lol. Maybe he could catalogue his CD/music/film collection, or upload tunes if he has an iPod or whatever - just do the things he's always put off as it's boring or a PITA. I sat in one Saturday night and rearranged/organised my tool box LOL


He could print of some walking routes, do a bit of research - family tree even! Or do a 2 week course in something online.


Good luck!


Jx

itsanne

melanzana wrote: »

the man hit his head aswell

melanzana wrote: »

I cannot hide his car keys, I wouldn't do that. He is an adult, albeit a very silly one at the moment, which is way out of character!

melanzana wrote: »

It is so out of character to be so silly about it all.

I am insisting that tomorrow I will drive him to visit my Mum. Our usual Wednesday lunch/afternoon. Wonder how that will go down!

What will I do if he insists on driving?

You all have me terrified now. But what can I do?

If his stupidity - not just "being silly" - is so out of character, perhaps the knock on his head has had an effect after all? That would be all the more reason for not driving.

I wonder if your light-hearted complaints about your OH's behaviour have had the knock-on effect of him not taking your concern about him driving seriously. You didn't seem to be taking it seriously yourself until the insurance situaton was pointed out, so he may have had the message it's just another thing for you to wryly sigh over.

As for what to do about it, you need him to see that it is a serious issue. His insurance is invalid under the circumstances and it's illegal to drve without insurance. Perhaps he could be persuaded to phone his GP? If not, you could because of concern about his behaviour being out of character after the knock on the head. If all else fails, he's had a head injury and is acting out of character - adult or not, I would remove the car keys (and be ready for the ensuing row). I wouldn't make the same suggestion had it not been for the knock on the head.

sheramber

So he has driven nearly 50 years without an accident. How many years has he climbed a ladder without an accident? But it happened.

Someone else could cause the accident but he might not be fully capable of avoiding the accident.

Tiddlywinks

Sorry OP but you sound like an indulgent parent rather than a frustrated wife.

He is taking medication that makes him drowsy. He has been told to wear a medical aid to restrict his movement - both are very relevant to his ability / competence to drive.

You have an obligation to prevent him from taking chances with the safety of other road users.

Would you just let him drive if he'd had too much alcohol? Why is this any different?

It's not a joke or anything to chuckle about - your husband is an ignorant and careless individual - not a spoilt brat... you need to start changing your mind set and deal with him accordingly.

If he won't listen then that doesn't reflect well on your relationship, does it?

gingercordial

Tell him that if he continues to do things without the boot he is at risk of the fracture not healing correctly, which could result in lifelong pain or arthritis which would curtail his gym and driving permanently.

d70cw6

he sounds like a t*at to me.

warehouse

d70cw6 wrote: »

he sounds like a t*at to me.

Nice of you to be so gracious about someone who doesn't have the right to reply.

74jax

The more I read of your replies the more I don't believe this. You are saying in an open forum you do not mind your husband driving with no insurance and its not your problem as he is an adult? Wind up.

d70cw6

warehouse wrote: »

Nice of you to be so gracious about someone who doesn't have the right to reply.

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they have every right to reply.....

jjj1980

I have some experience where this is concerned. I broke my right leg in three places just over a year ago. My treatment was a metal frame pinned through my leg for 6.5 months. It was incredibly frustrating not being able to drive until I had the ok from the consultant. Even then, I had to wait for written confirmation from both the DVLA and my insurers.

Whilstever your husband should be wearing the boot, his heel is not strong enough to withstand the force needed to do an emergency stop.

As others have said he is coming across as being ignorant of the risks he is posing to others and you are indulging his attitude.

In your position, I would have no qualms about hiding the car keys and would have also rung the DVLA and insurers to inform them of the situation. If he were to be in a car accident, no matter whose fault, there is a very high chance of them requesting medical records and once the broken heel comes to light, they could go so far as to cancel the whole policy.

I understand all the sitting around gets boring but the consultants etc do not advise such just to be difficult. With certain injuries, not allowing proper recovery time can cause endless complications.