OH has broken his foot. Help, this is not good for either of us!

melanzana

Detroit wrote: »

Would he use a wheelchair temporarily? That way you could continue to get out and about on your 'walks' and other activities.

As he likes the gym, maybe advise him to go and have a chat with the coaches there to see what exercises they could recommend so he continue his fitness regime without making his foot worse.

Don't think he would consider a wheelchair.

I'll get him to do as you say and speak to someone at the gym. He is self conscious as the foot is still swollen, and he does wear the big boot when walking to try keep the weight off the injury. Even if he went to the gym he could meet his fitness buddies for a coffee I suppose!

Will try and encourage him to do this.

melanzana

Person_one wrote: »

The second one I'd say. Most people aren't this stupid and irresponsible, men or women.

I know. And it that is what is surprising me. Totally.

As I said, next Monday will be interesting at the fracture clinic. I will be there!

Hopefully it will all be ok, I don't wish any further injury on him, but I hope I may be able to convince him in the doctor's presence that "doing" certain things may not be for the best!

Let's hope the doctor says the same thing!

All they said when it happened first was "keep the weight off the foot and use the boot when walking around the house" said nothing about driving, nor did either of us think to ask, so I think the man thinks he got a free pass or something!

It's mad, and I am shaking my head in wonder. But onwards and upwards.

Georgiegirl256

melanzana wrote: »

. It is the left foot, so only affects the clutch, as if that is any excuse!.

It's no excuse whatsoever. The clutch is the one where you have to out down the most pressure on it.

Tell him he is being idiotic, to stop being so selfish and that if he doesn't care about himself , what about other people? Because if you can't exert full pressure down properly because of pain in your foot, well who knows what could happen. What if he has to do an emergency stop for example?

I wouldn't be surprised if by disobeying medical advice, he could also be extending the period of recovery too by not allowing it to heal correctly.

melanzana

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

It's no excuse whatsoever. The clutch is the one where you have to out down the most pressure on it.

Tell him he is being idiotic, to stop being so selfish and that if he doesn't care about himself , what about other people? Because if you can't exert full pressure down properly because of pain in your foot, well who knows what could happen. What if he has to do an emergency stop for example?

I wouldn't be surprised if by disobeying medical advice, he could also be extending the period of recovery too by not allowing it to heal correctly.

I have said all this. To no avail.

I think he is actually having a bit of a crisis or something. It is so out of character to be so silly about it all.

Losing his ability to go to the gym, go walking, all that kind of thing has really had an effect on his confidence I think. Even though he won't admit it.

So driving himself around is kind of saying I am OK.

I am insisting that tomorrow I will drive him to visit my Mum. Our usual Wednesday lunch/afternoon. Wonder how that will go down!

What will I do if he insists on driving?

You all have me terrified now. But what can I do?

Detroit

melanzana wrote: »

Don't think he would consider a wheelchair.

I'll get him to do as you say and speak to someone at the gym. He is self conscious as the foot is still swollen, and he does wear the big boot when walking to try keep the weight off the injury. Even if he went to the gym he could meet his fitness buddies for a coffee I suppose!

Will try and encourage him to do this.

There's often quite a few people with injuries at the gym so he shouldn't feel self conscious. Always straining or twisting something these sporty people, and in castes and bandages!
Personally I put safety first and stay home with my feet up.:)

Georgiegirl256

Give him the silent treatment, make your annoyance known! I do that with my husband, because tbh, when he's being an idiot, I can't even face talking to him!

He sounds like my uncle, fitness fanatic, always on the go and doesn't like sitting around, but even he had to settle himself when he got a knee replacement. Not for long granted, but he still realised he had to give it a chance to let it heal.

You'll just have to try and stress again how important it is re invalidating his insurance, and what if he cause an accident? Refuse to get in the car with him.

melanzana

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Give him the silent treatment, make your annoyance known! I do that with my husband, because tbh, when he's being an idiot, I can't even face talking to him!

He sounds like my uncle, fitness fanatic, always on the go and doesn't like sitting around, but even he had to settle himself when he got a knee replacement. Not for long granted, but he still realised he had to give it a chance to let it heal.

You'll just have to try and stress again how important it is re invalidating his insurance, and what if he cause an accident? Refuse to get in the car with him.

Got it in one there!

Always on the go and does NOT like being confined anywhere.

I have not been in the car with him driving. And I won't!

It's either me driving now, or he does his silly b"ggers and goes by himself.

Silent treatment doesn't work I'm afraid, he just always engineers to make me laugh out loud when I try that, no matter how angry I am. No wins there. But that's not the worst thing I suppose. I always think ten minutes is a good silent treatment, then it all goes South because he makes me snort at how silly it is.

This is different though, so I will have to try harder.

I will try again tomorrow about the insurance. I have done that already, but I just cannot seem to get it through to him. It's unreal.

For a man who is so sensible, it is like a veil has come down or something. Weird.

74jax

I've broken my foot a few times.... don't ask....

I love the gym. My doctor recommended spinning for me, using my good foot as the main power. I found also use the rowing machine with one foot and all the weight machines.

I wasnt allowed to drive as it invidated my insurance. People should not be allowed to drive without insurance and if your OH insists if take his keys off him.

paddy's_mum

If he is being that obscenely pig-headed, irresponsible and indeed criminal, I would make it absolutely clear that he either gives me the keys to the car or I shall be on the phone to the Police.

He may not care that he kills someone but you can and should!

My nephew is still having surgery on his pelvis and spine because of the actions of a careless driver. He is self-employed and has been unable to work since Easter. He may never work again so yes, you can say I feel very strongly indeed about idiots in cars.

Perhaps my joking suggestion about a rope wasn't so far off the mark after all. Good luck.

splishsplash

Could he rent an automatic for the month or two he'll be out of action? That should sort it?

BTW, he's not alone. Over the years, I've seen many, many people who drive while in plaster casts, slings, etc. I think a lot of it is due to people hating the feeling of helplessness and dependence on others. I always tell them about insurance etc, but I don't believe it has any effect.