For the female workers.

xapprenticex

ill keep it short and sweet, there is lady at my place of work that i think is absolutely stunning. she is very high up like bosses bosses boss and she has complimented me on my looks and i'd like to do the same in return when the situation arises.

Just something light heated.. not sure what though.

Anyway, what I DONT want to do is give the impression that i think she (or ANY female at work) is JUST a pretty face. So how would you (ladies) feel if someone complimented you at work?

What is acceptable and what is not?

I know some feminists would have me tar and feathered but lets not be extreme please.

Thanks

*~Zephyr~*

Don't. Just don't. It's unprofessional and out of place in the workplace.

In a social situation it would be different. But not at work. Ever.

xapprenticex

awww, ok thank you. i see what you mean.

korvskrot

I too think it's inappropriate, and inappropriate that she commented on your appearance to begin with. Next time, consider politely telling her that you'd rather get compliments on your work.

xapprenticex

korvskrot wrote: »

I too think it's inappropriate, and inappropriate that she commented on your appearance to begin with. Next time, consider politely telling her that you'd rather get compliments on your work.

I could drop something in like "i look forward to hearing you compliment my work the same way you compliment me". Something like that. I wouldnt ask her to stop complimenting me though

shortcrust

I'm male and I often get compliments from women including my boss about my clothes and hair etc. They're just being nice. I return the compliments because I also like to be nice. These compliments don't have any more meaning than the compliments exchanged between people of the same gender. "I'd rather get compliments on my work" would feel like a very rude thing to say in my workplace.

fairy_lights

When would a situation ever arise where it would be suitable to complement a very senior member of staff on their appearance?
Just don't.

xapprenticex

fairy_lights wrote: »

When would a situation ever arise where it would be suitable to complement a very senior member of staff on their appearance?
Just don't.

I really dont know but if it did... but yeah i think ill stick to showing my golden smile (no reference to teeth) :beer:

Nicki

Depends how hierarchical the office is really. I've been complimented on my appearance at work by both male and female colleagues at all kinds of levels and likewise if someone had a nice new haircut or was wearing something striking I would compliment them whether they were senior to me or not. These aren't come ons or in any way flirty just a pleasant thing to say, and showing that you notice someone as a person too not just a producer of work!

Tiddlywinks

Don't actively seek an opportunity to compliment her - it could be misinterpreted by her or others who overhear the conversation.

What would be gained from this flirting anyway?

A one night stand? Relationship? What?

She is in a position of power over you - if anything negative results from your actions, who do you think will suffer at work?

xapprenticex

yeah thats how i mean it, sure, she is stunning but i wouldn't say anything in a flirting kind of way. tbh i compliment a few ladies at work but they are not above me in authority or too far above, but again, with tact.