Did life change much after marriage?

june89

Nothing changed within our relationship, it was all in how we were seen by others. As one example, my boyfriend had been turned down for a promotion at work. A few weeks later, my husband was the right man for the job - only thing that had changed was our marriage! I believe they saw him as too young and not in it for the long haul, where being married shifted their perception.

Oh and we didn't have a wedding. I don't like attending them, so saw no reason to spend thousands hosting one for other people to attend. Registry with witnesses, then a quiet dinner out was enough for us.

Pollycat

june89 wrote: »

Nothing changed within our relationship, it was all in how we were seen by others. As one example, my boyfriend had been turned down for a promotion at work. A few weeks later, my husband was the right man for the job - only thing that had changed was our marriage! I believe they saw him as too young and not in it for the long haul, where being married shifted their perception.

Oh and we didn't have a wedding. I don't like attending them, so saw no reason to spend thousands hosting one for other people to attend. Registry with witnesses, then a quiet dinner out was enough for us.

Isn't this still a wedding?

We did the same but I believe I did have a wedding.
It just happened to be a small 'do'.

june89

Pollycat wrote: »

Isn't this still a wedding?

We did the same but I believe I did have a wedding.
It just happened to be a small 'do'.

Technically yes, we had the legal minimum required for a wedding to get to the end result of being married. Wouldn't have even had the ceremony if it wasn't necessary, just signing the forms would have been enough.

But not a "wedding" as the current society norm would consider it to be with the fancy dress, big party, etc etc. Haven't regretted it for a second. Friends/family who have had the big 'do' definitely can't say the same. Some of them were even divorced before it was paid off.

Gloomendoom

june89 wrote: »

But not a "wedding" as the current society norm would consider it to be with the fancy dress, big party, etc etc. Haven't regretted it for a second. Friends/family who have had the big 'do' definitely can't say the same. Some of them were even divorced before it was paid off.

I've done both. One small wedding with me, the bride and two witnesses off the street, and one big wedding with both extended families, friends and neighbours present.

The small wedding marriage didn't last a year. The big wedding marriage has lasted and the whole wedding experience was definitely the better of the two.

System

We drove past a sign to Gretna Green on Friday....

I had my big wedding in my late teens.

Small intimate wedding in my 20s.

Gretna Green sounds good to me now.:)

psychopathbabble

I've said no it hasn't changed life since getting married in January. However, DH says we both seem much happier in ourselves and he feels more secure and positive about our relationship. That's bound to change when LO arrives and I'm permenantly sleep deprived (I get majorly hangry and sl-angry!)

AylesburyDuck

I've been married 33 years next week.
I can honestly say marriage doesnt change you, life does. So life will be the same wether you marry or not.