Did life change much after marriage?

Andrew_Ryan_89

Exciting times, getting married in a few months. Been very stressful but the bride is worth every penny and headache. Though I will probably still be moaning about the cost up to the day.
I am not a religious person but my partner is so I don't feel anything will feel different once we are married, especially as we already have an house together.

What about you guys? Did you, your partner or your relationship change much once married?

pigpen

not a single bit.. it was just harder to get rid of him 15 years later.

sorry.

whitewing

We had lived together beforehand and were committed to each other anyway, but I felt much more settled, happier, and grateful for the relationship. I still love saying 'my husband' and it is still more special waking up in the morning with him.

However, for a while after having our daughter (and bad post natal depression) we both - at different times - went through a stage of 'is this it?'

I know my husband feels that he isn't earning enough and finding that hard to come to terms with.

Bouncybubbles

Not at all to be honest. We were together for 9 years and had lived together for 7 prior to our marriage and now looking back at the enormous cost and subsequent debt was it worth it? not really no.

When questioned our guests mentioned either one of two things the speeches and the food. that was all.

They did not notice the thousands spent on little touches that were discarded the next day, they did not notice the hours spent meticulously planning every detail.

My £1800 dress??? in the attic in a bin bag awaiting the day I can afford to get it dry cleaned. That was 10 months ago.

I am not bitter and I truly love my husband however I genuinely wish we had not spent so much and ended up in debt

Gloomendoom

Life definitely changed for me. Mrs G moved in and rearranged all the cupboards. I've not been able find anything ever since.

No debt or regrets following our wedding.

pigpen

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Life definitely changed for me. Mrs G moved in and rearranged all the cupboards. I've not been able find anything ever since.

No debt or regrets following our wedding.

you should have moved it all back to confuse her lol.

sweetilemon

Don't think I feel our relationship is any different however I think it's taken a bit more seriously when your married. I've noticed people ask how long you've been married not how long you have been together. I prefer saying "husband" rather than "boyfriend or partner". I got asked the other day what job I did before I got married - haha, I wish that was the way! I think my husband wouldn't have been that fussed on getting married if I hadn't been so keen but I just felt it was a sign of commitment. Also I love it that my daughter shares both our surname.

sweetilemon

Bouncybubbles wrote: »

My £1800 dress??? in the attic in a bin bag awaiting the day I can afford to get it dry cleaned.

I spent £350 on dry cleaning and a special box to fit it, petrol back and fourth to the shop about and hour away, parking charges for it to sit in my mother's cupboard for the last 4 years. Seemed so worth it at the time lol.

whitewing

My DH was very keen for me to take his name. I was not so keen. But I am very glad I did and I did feel I was starting afresh.

I love being married, although he still irritates me a lot occasionally and vice versa. Even that is less though as we have common goals. We do have certain subjects that are just ongoing rumbles. We won't agree to disagree even. Daily life carries on and then we forget about it for a while.

Happytravelling

Subtley, yes, I felt more secure and content. Not that I noticed an absence of security or contentedness beforehand.

Oh, and we didn't have to plan a wedding anymore, that was a bonus! (We were married 3 months after our engagement because I thought the longer we waited, the more 'things' I'd decide we "needed" and the more the cost would inflate. Even then, it felt like a long time planning.)

Also, we had much nicer wine glasses

LilElvis

Been together 16 years, bought a house together 12 years ago and married for 10. Nothing changed at all - including my name - it was just a fantastic week (drawn out, alcohol fuelled fun time in Vegas). What changed everything was having our psycho-toddler!