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FBaby

Izzy8484 wrote: »

You do not sound like a very good boyfriend.

I don't know about being a poor boyfriend, but not sure you are right for each other. You don't seem to think very highly of her girlfriend as there are many references in your post about you being right and her being wrong.

Either you need to be more appreciative to the fact that it's not because she doesn't things differently to you that it is forcibly wrong, or you need to consider that if you are so different in the way you perceive things that the relationship is only doomed to fail in the long run when your frustration grows to the point of potential abuse and her self-esteem is shattered to the point of thinking she is worthless.

Andrew_Ryan_89

FBaby wrote: »

I don't know about being a poor boyfriend, but not sure you are right for each other. You don't seem to think very highly of her girlfriend as there are many references in your post about you being right and her being wrong.

Either you need to be more appreciative to the fact that it's not because she doesn't things differently to you that it is forcibly wrong, or you need to consider that if you are so different in the way you perceive things that the relationship is only doomed to fail in the long run when your frustration grows to the point of potential abuse and her self-esteem is shattered to the point of thinking she is worthless.

Wow, definitely not that far. Vast majority of the time we are laughing and playing with each other, nothing is tremendously wrong with our relationship. Whatever I have posted in this forum is ALL the struggles we have and they tend to be one off moments.

I know I can talk to people in a better tone. I get frustrated with my mother and I know I can be rude to her at times. My girlfriend warned me it may drive people away and you know what, I listened to her and take on that feedback. With that said, since giving my girlfriend the hard truth about job searching etc. she has been invited to 3 interviews.

It's just finding that middle ground. I am not constantly abusive or anything like that. I worship the ground she works on and treat her like a princess.

thorsoak

Really? Does she know that? I hope you tell her so!

At 73 years of age, one would expect that I should know that I am a confident, competent woman ...but I still have the feeling that I am "winging it" and one day,someone will find me out!