Is it just me??

miss_independent

spadoosh wrote: »

Try xbox live!

Im in that middle of that age bracket and the single people my age seem to all be at a gym according to their facebook status.

I know a few single people who have taken the opportunity to go travelling, seems to have worked well for most either finding someone and staying abroad or bringing them back. Certainly forces you to meet people.

Lol, my friends have tried to get me into gaming and I just....suck! I'm good at dance games but awful at anything else - I doubt there are any men looking for someone who is fantastic at Just Dance :rotfl:.


Yes...the one my best friend and I keep coming up with is the gym... It's just a time factor thing with me. I'm currently working 3 jobs and in my spare time I volunteer with two charities, am involved with local church ministry, play 3 musical instruments, i'm studying for a dance teaching qualification, in a choir and have hardly anytime to see my good friends and family. I'm exhausted as it is, adding the gym in seems like a recipe for disaster!

I did a lot of travelling last year, mainly around North America and never met anyone unfortunately. I do know lots of people who have met people that way though...including my ex .


There is definitely something in the, "it will happen when you aren't looking" thing though, although I never believed that until recently. I decided to take some time out after my last relationship ended and focus on myself, what I enjoy etc. I got asked out more in the past year than in the rest of my life combined! Unfortunately it was by total strangers (as in approaching me on the street) and all, bar one were old enough to be my Dad. But I must have been giving off a different energy than in the years I was previously single because it never used to happen.

I definitely believe in doing the things you enjoy and hoping you will meet someone that way...just don't be like me and pick a) a career and b) hobbies that are either heavily dominated by women or gay men. Unless you are a man or lesbian!

Once life calms down a bit I'm considering trying online dating and also asking friends if they've anyone they can introduce me to.

loveabargain13

I signed up with match, you had to write soooooo much about you, that I lost interest and cancelled my account before it even went live, i'm creative and I found that I typing out a profile is really not me!

loveabargain13

miss_independent wrote: »

Lol, my friends have tried to get me into gaming and I just....suck! I'm good at dance games but awful at anything else - I doubt there are any men looking for someone who is fantastic at Just Dance :rotfl:.


Yes...the one my best friend and I keep coming up with is the gym... It's just a time factor thing with me. I'm currently working 3 jobs and in my spare time I volunteer with two charities, am involved with local church ministry, play 3 musical instruments, i'm studying for a dance teaching qualification, in a choir and have hardly anytime to see my good friends and family. I'm exhausted as it is, adding the gym in seems like a recipe for disaster!

I did a lot of travelling last year, mainly around North America and never met anyone unfortunately. I do know lots of people who have met people that way though...including my ex .


There is definitely something in the, "it will happen when you aren't looking" thing though, although I never believed that until recently. I decided to take some time out after my last relationship ended and focus on myself, what I enjoy etc. I got asked out more in the past year than in the rest of my life combined! Unfortunately it was by total strangers (as in approaching me on the street) and all, bar one were old enough to be my Dad. But I must have been giving off a different energy than in the years I was previously single because it never used to happen.

I definitely believe in doing the things you enjoy and hoping you will meet someone that way...just don't be like me and pick a) a career and b) hobbies that are either heavily dominated by women or gay men. Unless you are a man or lesbian!

Once life calms down a bit I'm considering trying online dating and also asking friends if they've anyone they can introduce me to.

makingplans4nigel wrote: »

There is just the small matter of the annual fee and finders fee.

I accept paypal.

ahehehehe welll will have to wait and see :T

Person_one

miss_independent wrote: »

Yes, it was definitely a problem with eye contact on his behalf. He was fine the first few times we met (even came and sat beside me for our Christmas meal and party) and seemed really lovely. Then all of a sudden he just stopped making ANY eye contact with me at all. So given that we were working together (as cover SEN teachers), it was quite awkward.

I'd ask him a question (work related usually) and he'd answer the person next to me - as in look at them and answer the question I'd asked. The first time it happened I thought he'd just not realised it was me that had asked but then it was happening repeatedly. A couple of times it made the person he answered instead of me feel quite uncomfortable! If it was just the two of us alone he would talk to the table, floor or the palm of his hands rather than look at me.

Now obviously, being an SEN teacher, I am sensitive to "needs". So if someone is uncomfortable with eye contact in general, that is fine and I can work around it. But with him, he was fine with everyone else, it was just me he wouldn't look at me.

He'd also pop his head round the door into the office in the morning or evening and say "Hi/Bye John and Jane!" and everytime I was the only person he didn't acknowledge. And again, colleagues would say something like "Miss I is here, she's just sat there, perhaps you didn't see her?" and he'd just mumble, "Oh, yes. Hi."

In the end I just felt like there was something about me that either he didn't like or that made him uncomfortable and I just started keeping out of his way, not saying anything directly to him etc. And, to keep on topic, obviously any attraction I'd felt when we first met completely vanished quite quickly!

Some men think single women over 30 are predators desperate to frogmarch them down an aisle and start making babies. He probably just realised you were interested but didn't reciprocate and then handled it really really badly.

If I were you, I'd just get online. You want to meet someone, definitely not in some vague 'it might be nice' way, so go and do it. Its upfront, cards on the table, none of this silly b*ggers with eye contact and pretending to enjoy the gym. You will meet someone, it might take a while before its a someone you want to stay with, but its the simplest and most straightforward way to make it happen.

euronorris

One of my closest friends found herself single again at around 30/31. She met her other half through online dating. Something she never thought she would do, but actually found it to be a fun experience and she met a great guy through it. They are both very happy together.


Her previous relationship she met through a local 'Meetup' group aimed at new people in the area (she had recently moved). She'd only gone there to make new friends, but met a new fella instead.

onomatopoeia99

loveabargain13 wrote: »

I am taking Spanish classes, I am 32, but all the men are married and much older than me.

I get the feeling that a lot of adult learners tend to be a bit (or more) older than you. I started Italian with the council adult learning service when I was 41 (46 now) and from memory of 12 people in the class there were three men. The other two were there with their wives and almost everyone in the class was my age or older, except one of the couples who were perhaps early 30s. At the half-time tea break where all the students from different sibjects ended up in the same room for tea and biscuits, it was evident that there were far more women than men, and the age range was biased much closer to retirement age than your age.

burlington6

When it comes to dating a man won't want to take you on an afternoon coffee date. That's what friends do.

If he agrees to this, he's easily going to be friendzoned by you.

loveabargain13

burlington6 wrote: »

When it comes to dating a man won't want to take you on an afternoon coffee date. That's what friends do.

If he agrees to this, he's easily going to be friendzoned by you.

Who said anything about a coffee date?? I want prosecco!! or peroni :beer:

pollyanna24

I do online dating and I just take it all with a pinch of salt. I don't take it too seriously and just go with the flow.

Have met a few men off there and although, some have been really weird, some are nice and there's one at the moment that I will see where it takes us.

I'm just using it as a way to get out more, go more places. If I meet the man of my dreams, then yay! If I don't, then at least I got to eat out more than I would just sat on my sofa at home.

missbiggles1

pollyanna24 wrote: »

I do online dating and I just take it all with a pinch of salt. I don't take it too seriously and just go with the flow.

Have met a few men off there and although, some have been really weird, some are nice and there's one at the moment that I will see where it takes us.

I'm just using it as a way to get out more, go more places. If I meet the man of my dreams, then yay! If I don't, then at least I got to eat out more than I would just sat on my sofa at home.

Attagirl!:)