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Is it just me??

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  • anna_1977
    anna_1977 Posts: 862 Forumite
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    I'm 39 and am online/dating.

    I'm looking at men up to 47ish, purely because a lot of profiles of guys my age are looking for younger women or children and that is a total no no for me (been there, done it).

    I think you just need to not set brackets or expectations, it's meant to be fun.

    I've got 2 dates this week with 2 different guys, just drinks/dinner and plan on having a good time.

    Until I end up in the bedroom with someone I would not expect to stop dating other guys and vice versa (if that makes sense? )
  • missbiggles1
    missbiggles1 Posts: 17,481 Forumite
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    anna_1977 wrote: »
    I'm 39 and am online/dating.

    I'm looking at men up to 47ish, purely because a lot of profiles of guys my age are looking for younger women or children and that is a total no no for me (been there, done it).

    I think you just need to not set brackets or expectations, it's meant to be fun.

    I've got 2 dates this week with 2 different guys, just drinks/dinner and plan on having a good time.

    Until I end up in the bedroom with someone I would not expect to stop dating other guys and vice versa (if that makes sense? )

    I hope you've reported them!:rotfl:
  • Do you really expect someone you've been on one date with to not date anyone else? That would rather narrow the field, wouldn't it?

    He asked me out, we hadn't even gone out and he text to say he'd taken someone else out. I'm not narrowing the field, I just think why tell me!
  • ChicaBonita
    ChicaBonita Posts: 673 Forumite
    edited 23 May 2016 at 11:18AM
    I'm 25, and have been with my bf for 2 and a half years.

    I'd had a bf in Uni, we were on and off for a few years but when I came home after uni we were completely over. I used online dating apps for a while (not tinder!) and had a few dates, and had a 6 month relationship with a guy that made me feel like sh** We broke up, and I was just in that stage of s*d it I'm gonna go out and enjoy being single. That night I was invited out by a guy friend who'd been down the pub with some of his mates that I'd not met before. I went down there, my friend went to the back of the pub for a while and I was left with his friends. Incidentally, one of his friends was in the same friendship group as me (knew my female friends etc) but we'd never met in person. I'd seen him around on FB and liked him. He felt sorry for me as I'd been left on my own, got me a drink, we got chatting, ended up snogging in the local club and that was it from there! :rotfl:

    He told me he'd seen me out a few years before but he was so super shy that he couldn't find the confidence to approach me. To be honest, we probably only got together that first night because he'd been day drinking and felt good. But, it has developed into something where he is my absolute best friend and I can't imagine life without him.

    I suppose my point is, I'd actually given up on finding anyone and then that night I found someone. It's so cliche but it happens when you least expect it. And so often it's someone that you already know, whether directly or indirectly.
  • There's a guy in MSE Arms who's moaning about the same thing.

    https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/5467211

    Can I play matchmaker? MSE Lonely Hearts.
    Come on sucker lick my battery
  • go go go!! Yes please :T
  • missbiggles1
    missbiggles1 Posts: 17,481 Forumite
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    go go go!! Yes please :T

    I wouldn't - he sounds well dodgy!:rotfl:
  • I wouldn't - he sounds well dodgy!:rotfl:

    Realllyyyyy....maybe I should of spent time reading his post :eek:
  • go go go!! Yes please :T

    There is just the small matter of the annual fee and finders fee.

    I accept paypal.
    Come on sucker lick my battery
  • spadoosh
    spadoosh Posts: 8,732 Forumite
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    My Best Friend and I have been having this conversation tonight! I've been single for a year and a half after a heartbreak and I'm finally in the place where I feel I want a relationship again but I've no idea where to find one. Where are all the 25-35 year old single men hiding?

    Try xbox live!

    Im in that middle of that age bracket and the single people my age seem to all be at a gym according to their facebook status.

    I know a few single people who have taken the opportunity to go travelling, seems to have worked well for most either finding someone and staying abroad or bringing them back. Certainly forces you to meet people.
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