Is it just me??

loveabargain13

Hi everyone,

I don't want this to be a poor me thread, as I am quite happily single (looking for love) but I just must seem to have 'take me for a mug' secretly tattooed on my forehead!

I am at an age where I am the only single one, friends who I do meet up with would rather lunch / coffee meet than an evening drink. I am a temp but all the girls in the office are in relationships. I do evening classes to socialise but the average age is my age + 20 years.

I got asked out this week, only to be told if I see photos online it's because he's already dating someone. I don't want to be anyone's second choice.

Sooooo....Where are any decent men hiding? :rotfl:

meritaten

No idea! but I have seen several threads on here in the past few years of men bemoaning that they cant meet single available women! you must all be like ships that pass in the night!

is it the times we are in? because the traditional ways of meeting the opposite sex seem to be out of fashion!

I think you must be taking the wrong evening classes! Men in your age bracket, would I think, be taking classes that furthered their careers. so IT, Finance and Management courses could be where they would be found?
apart from that - Adults Martial Arts classes ALWAYS have a good mix of ages, with mid twenties being usually the majority of the students. and I firmly believe every woman should attend some form of defence class.

Good luck!

edited to say - its far easier to walk away after (or during) the first date if you REALLY don't click. never feel obliged to see the date through or to arrange another one. That way you cannot be taken for a 'Mug'.

Homeownertobe

Do you really expect someone you've been on one date with to not date anyone else? That would rather narrow the field, wouldn't it?

DomRavioli

You need to get out more, and not just "of an evening for a drink". Get some hobbies, meet some people (my OH is a son of a friend of a friend and we met through this mutuality), and stop worrying about finding a partner, concentrate on being the best you and the right one turns up.

I'm 30, female, and currently work 2 jobs and study at uni, so I don't have time to socially drink, plus I would rather spend the time with my OH than a friend who is out on the pull. Maybe see if there are some local singles clubs, or singles nights?

onomatopoeia99

meritaten wrote: »

I think you must be taking the wrong evening classes! Men in your age bracket, would I think, be taking classes that furthered their careers. so IT, Finance and Management courses could be where they would be found?

I don't know what the age bracket is, but I would be found in an Italian evening class, which is nothing to do with my job and everything to do with the fact I love Italy.

Whether I qualify as a "decent man" per the OP's question is another question entirely! :rotfl:

SandC

I do group circuit training and loads of relationships have come about in the various places I have trained. Also made lots of friends and increased my social circle.

I met my bloke, funnily enough, by doing the exact thing friends said I'd never meet anyone doing.... 'sitting around at home'.

Although it just happened to be me and him having worked together some years ago reconnecting on Facebook. ��

So I say think hobbies rather than pubs and bars.

melanzana

Everyone I know met their OH down the pub. LOL.

The alcohol loosens people up, and the men (sorry for being sexist here) feel ok about chatting the ladies up when they've had a few.

That's the reality.

Night classes are great for meeting people, but lads can be shy.

Hillwalking groups is a good one. Out all day, wrecked at the end of it, and off for a meal and a few DRINKS at the end for the reward. Great stuff. Our group was based on public transport links so that everyone could go whether they had a car or not, and thus everyone could have a drink aswell, if they wanted to at the end of the day!

That's how I met my OH anyway. And we still walk and have a drink now and then too.

Just saying.

Brighton_belle

melanzana wrote: »

Night classes are great for meeting people, but lads can be shy.

True - and the advantage of evening classes is that you go back week after week which creates repeated opportunities to over come that shyness
Worked for us, in our case mutual shyness Though we were lucky because our class had some very social people in it who kept organising social events as well.

duchy

No one I know met theirs down the pub .....some of them don't even drink arguably better choices are made when the beer goggles are off too lol

melanzana wrote: »

Everyone I know met their OH down the pub. LOL.

The alcohol loosens people up, and the men (sorry for being sexist here) feel ok about chatting the ladies up when they've had a few.

That's the reality.

Night classes are great for meeting people, but lads can be shy.

Hillwalking groups is a good one. Out all day, wrecked at the end of it, and off for a meal and a few DRINKS at the end for the reward. Great stuff. Our group was based on public transport links so that everyone could go whether they had a car or not, and thus everyone could have a drink aswell, if they wanted to at the end of the day!

That's how I met my OH anyway. And we still walk and have a drink now and then too.

Just saying.

Ilona

I've had that many boyfriends in the past, I'm glad of the rest now. :rotfl: I really can't be bothered to start all that again. I am embracing my singleness, and enjoying myself.

OP, can you borrow a dog and go walkies, everyone talks to doggy people.
Ilona

Person_one

In my experience, people who coupled up before 25 did so on nights out or at uni. People who coupled up after the age of 25 did so through work or online.

If you don't like any of the men you work with, and you don't want to be single, better get online I reckon.

I'm afraid I don't understand your sentence about 'if I see photos online it's because he's already dating someone', what does that mean?