Separating- can husband walk in house whenever he likes?

Guest101

justme111 wrote: »

You somehow missed him saying he will come into her home as and when he pleases.

No I didn't miss that at all.


that is perfectly acceptable, it's his property.


If she wants privacy she is welcome to move out and get her own place (either rent or buy).


I'd say it's just as unreasonable to demand that he leaves and gives her full control. - They both have EQUAL rights.

justme111

Guest101 wrote: »

There's literally nothing stopping the OP moving out and renting her own, secure place, if it's that important.


There's a certain amount of 'helping yourself' in bad situations, this is one of those.

Her having an option of selling or moving out is irrelevant. If she stays there by either agreement or court order she has the right to not have unwanted presence with no notice and no reason at her home.

Guest101

justme111 wrote: »

Seeing children has nothing to do with being in ex's home. Can be and usually is done either at his or in a third place.
And yes non resident parent does it by agreeing time with resident parent or if not by court order , ie by appointment.

And if that's what the OP wants, move out and get HER, not THEIR, own property

maman

Person_one wrote: »

I agree with most of your post, but as to the last line, it only seems that way to some because we get an awful lot of women posting on here trying to deal with problems caused by men behaving badly.

The odd time there is a male poster in the same boat with a woman behaving badly towards them they get plenty of support too (and an inevitable few posts warning them that they won't because the board is run by man haters!)

You're right that most posters appear to be women and I have seen the odd 'warning' posts for men asking advice.


I've also read many posts/threads from women who seem to want it all ways. Many continue to be SAHMs when they could easily work. It's not often posters tell them to get a grip. Or you get the posts that start 'I work full time......' because almost always the excuses follow for why they can't do x, y or z. They seem to forget that their partners often work full time too as do thousands of other women.


Sorry a bit off topic:o but it does seem unfair.

Person_one

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Actually, he didn't.

The OP said " He keeps saying he can come and go as he pleases " which is why I said it could be a statement of fact as much as a threat. He didn't say he was actually going to - you just misread or assumed that.

She also said this:

dobs wrote: »

He says he will turn up whenever he wants to

Guest101

justme111 wrote: »

Her having an option of selling or moving out is irrelevant. If she stays there by either agreement or court order she has the right to not have unwanted presence with no notice and no reason at her home.

It's not 'irrelevant' at all. - she can choose to move, or stay and accept that he privacy is not as private as she'd like.


There is no court order, and clearly no agreement.


So " If she stays there by either agreement or court order she has the right to not have unwanted presence with no notice and no reason at her home" - is irrelevant if anything.

missbiggles1

Guest101 wrote: »

And if that's what the OP wants, move out and get HER, not THEIR, own property

She does say she'll be selling up in a while (however long that is).

missbiggles1

Person_one wrote: »

She also said this:

Should've read further.:o

justme111

Guest101 wrote: »

No I didn't miss that at all.


that is perfectly acceptable, it's his property.


If she wants privacy she is welcome to move out and get her own place (either rent or buy).


I'd say it's just as unreasonable to demand that he leaves and gives her full control. - They both have EQUAL rights.

Indeed. But if he moves out as the conversation implies it will it will stop being his home. By the sound of it he knows all too well if push comes to shove (court action) it will be she who stays there. We all know that , you know that, he knows that. So in his frustration he tries to exercise power he thinks he got - right of entry.

Person_one

maman wrote: »

I've also read many posts/threads from women who seem to want it all ways. Many continue to be SAHMs when they could easily work. It's not often posters tell them to get a grip.

Well, as far as I'm aware its not universally agreed that anybody who could work should work. Loads of men and women think its better for mothers to stay at home, its considered a valid choice in this county. Surely you don't think that posters should be telling all SAHMs to get a job or 'get a grip' if that's what they've agreed with their childrens' other parent?