Pet hate - being asked for a title

TBagpuss

gettingtheresometime wrote: »

I very often get calls in work from customers which are not for my dept.

On giving their name I do ask if it's Mrs or Miss only because if I have to speak to them again, for what ever reason, I can address them as Mrs X or Miss Y. For equality purposes I address men as Mr Z.

I find it more polite to address people in these circumstances in this way or is that old fashioned?

It's old fashioned as you are only offering women a choice of totals which define them by their marital status. It would be more polite to ask 'is it Ms, Mrs or Miss'.
Or for equality purposes you could address men as 'Mr' and Women as 'Ms' and allow them to tell you if they prefer a different form of address.
Or you simply ask "who would you prefer me to address you?"

System

I like being a Mrs...

Person_one

Judi wrote: »

I like being a Mrs...

Which is fine, you can tell people that and they should then use it once they know your preference.

missbiggles1

toffeentom wrote: »

I've been asked twice today. Making an appointment for an eye test and to view a house.

If they don't ask for your title that means that they have to use your first name which many of us dislike.

barbarawright

missbiggles1 wrote: »

If they don't ask for your title that means that they have to use your first name which many of us dislike.

And many of us dislike using a title and are perfectly happy with first names for everyone

pigpen

why does anyone have to use your name at all??

I can get along quite merrily discussing relevant info without using anyones name, address, gender, title or blood group! Usually anywhere that asks for your name etc has a reference number that is all they need to identify you and beyond that why do they need to call you anything at all?

missbiggles1

barbarawright wrote: »

And many of us dislike using a title and are perfectly happy with first names for everyone

You have to have someone's title if you're gong to write a formal letter to them.

gettingtheresometime

barbarawright wrote: »

And many of us dislike using a title and are perfectly happy with first names for everyone

Now that gets my goat

gettingtheresometime

pigpen wrote: »

why does anyone have to use your name at all??

I can get along quite merrily discussing relevant info without using anyones name, address, gender, title or blood group! Usually anywhere that asks for your name etc has a reference number that is all they need to identify you and beyond that why do they need to call you anything at all?

I am not a number lol

Gloomendoom

Rosemary7391 wrote: »

I don't mind at all provided my title is there. I once had to choose from a list of 'Mr, Mrs, Dr, Prof'... edit: I think they had Ms on there too - it was awhile ago. I'm definitely a Miss though!

You sound like my wife before we got married. She would get annoyed if there was no Miss option and would correct people if they addressed her as Ms.