Advice please on son buying my council house

[Deleted User]

Very sorry this is happening to you. It must feel terrible.

Totally agree with what people are saying.., don't let your son get involved in buying your place.

I also agree that this son needs a wake up call and I'd be chucking his stuff out and changing the locks. Tell him he can go into B&B and the council's waiting list and get a place that way. There's something very wrong with him. I'm sorry, I can guess how that makes you feel.

If houses are selling for say £20k (cheap anyway), why can't he afford one? Surely that's affordable for anyone whose working (and if he expects to get his hands on £6k, surely he's working?) If not, is the gf's father loaning the money? Very very bad for you.

I assume that knowing your son can propose this is a huge shock for you. But the good thing is, you know now. Its always better to have the truth.., even if the truth is unpleasant so you can now decide what to do about the situation. If he leaves or you chuck him out, perhaps you can rent out the room. Make sure you are getting all the benefits as a carer you can.., the £13 should hopefully be manageable.

Sending hugs x x x

ManuelG

Usually I reckon this board gives an overly hard time to people taking advantage of right to buy.

In this instance, they've been far too lenient on the OP's son.

Can't be a real thread though, surely? Nobody would have such a family with such a callous !!!!!!! seeking to take profiteering advantage, surely? Nobody would be so amoral, duplicitous, and devious?

If it is real then OP, embrace your friends and appreciate them so much more!

Mollie90132

Horrible situation!
We helped mum buy her council home. At outset we were clear and honest most of the financial benefits were for us, as mum would eventually leave the house to us in her will. But it also enabled us to adapt the home giving her a better kitchen etc.
From the start we made mum seek a solicitors advice and no one was to question this advice in anyway. The house is mum's and she stays there for the rest of her life. Also, there is an advocacy service for older people http://opaal.org.uk/ Mum had some dealings with the equivalent of this in Scotland.
We are lucky. Mum is elderly, but sharp as a button and could weigh up the pros and cons ie having a property without income and relying on family to maintain it. There have been a few problems here but pretty minor. But we are under no illusions, mum may get a nicer renovated home but the financial benefits are ours not mums.

You do have to stay in the house for a certain number of years before selling it on. Council houses are difficult to come by and as previous posts state morally, it doesn't seem right to give a council house away and expect another one. I have seen it happen though but they didn't get rehoused for about 3yrs, and we are in an area where there is a low demand.
To recap. I would be very wary of someone asking me to let them buy the house and tell me to look for another. They should not expect you to look for a new home just because they want to pay less for one.
Seek advice, independent from an advocacy service or a solicitor.

ethank

We don't have enough housing in this country and I really object that any child buys their parents social housing property at a discount so that they can have a future windfill benefit. All taxpayers and house purchasers are paying towards the development of new social housing - which can be sold off at a discount - compunding the social housing problem. I think it is disgraceful.

Mojisola

dizzybee wrote: »

sorry that should be £60 thousand.

deannatrois wrote: »

If houses are selling for say £20k (cheap anyway), why can't he afford one? Surely that's affordable for anyone whose working (and if he expects to get his hands on £6k, surely he's working?)

The discounted price is £60k so I expect a mortgage would be needed.

DavidF

There really should be a "law" against this. It's one thing you buying the place and leaving it in a will ect. But its another thing entirely that another wants to buy using your discount and then count down the days until your no longer hear. I wonder if there has ever been any murders over the elderly resident living too long....The mind boggles but many kids have killed for their inheritance thankfully rare though.
OP I think you should invest all your efforts in finding your son and his partner alternative accommodation. I hope you have other family and friends that you could speak to for moral support and backup. Remember this is YOUR HOME - If they are intimidating you or causing an atmosphere then it may be time to ask them to leave anyway, You have enough to cope with and deserve quiet enjoyment of your home. If the arguments get too bad or god forbid physical then call the police and get them out.

LadyDee

Phew - this must be one of the very few threads on this forum where absolutely everybody agrees, (except the one poster who hadn't actually read the thread).
In your position OP I wouldn't be having a talk with your son/dil - I'd be giving them their marching orders. Let them go an live with her parents and save up a deposit at her parents expense!

goodwithsaving

Dan-Dan wrote: »

Arguments?
About YOUR home?
outrageous

Not really the OP's home though is it. It's the councils. Just saying, because sometimes tenants act like it's thir home, when frankly, it isn't

jimbog

goodwithsaving wrote: »

Not really the OP's home though is it. It's the councils. Just saying, because sometimes tenants act like it's thir home, when frankly, it isn't

Yes it is her home.

The council own the house

LadyDee

goodwithsaving wrote: »

Not really the OP's home though is it. It's the councils. Just saying, because sometimes tenants act like it's thir home, when frankly, it isn't

There's always one!