Advice please on son buying my council house

stonehedge

You have to look after yourself here and say NO.

And don't feel guilty about it. You have every right to look after yourself and expect your son to take steps to secure his own housing needs without your help.

Parent's help their children with property all the time but not at the cost of their own housing security and stability.

tlc678910

dizzybee wrote: »

Thanks for all your help, the things that you have all said i put to them that the council wouldn't re home me because i would be making myself homeless and secondley i would find it hard to get a private tenancy has i am ex bankrupt and the rents are way over my budget,there idea was to buy this at rock bottom price renovate it [her dads a builder] and then sell it in 10 years for a profit and buy a house in the area that they want.
Ive have had loads of arguments over this with them.but i am going to be firm and tell him straight i won't budge.

....right so in 10 years they have good equity in a nice house....and you (if you are lucky) have expensive rent and no security in a private rental. One thing to be grateful for at least they have been honest right from the start that they will be turfing you out and not building you an annexe so you can make your decision in the full and certain knowledge of what selfish brats they are!

I'm sorry if you feel hurt by their selfishness but I expect they are blinded by their own wants.

Tlc

somethingcorporate

Ouch, this has got horrible family split written all over it.

Your son wants to buy and sell your family home of 17 years for a profit so he can buy his own place where he wants and to turf you out to fend for yourself??

Ouch, for a number of reasons.

Don't even discuss it. It must be hurtful that your son is even thinking this way about you and your property.

dizzybee

Yes this is very hurtful i haven't slept for a week, my boss has also noticed that i am not my self, have just spoken to my housing officer about bedroom tax and at the moment it works out at £13 per week so not to bad,I may get a discount has i have a daughter with special needs.i have rang my son at work and told him i will need to speak to them when i get home,i just want to get this off my mind.

fairy_lights

dizzybee wrote: »

I may get a discount has i have a daughter with special needs.

This just gets worse and worse
So your son and his wife want you to give up YOUR home so that THEY can make a profit, potentially leaving you and your disabled daughter homeless?
Frankly I would not only tell them where to shove their plans, but also ask them to move out asap as why on earth would you want to continue to live with such selfish people?

Mojisola

fairy_lights wrote: »

This just gets worse and worse
So your son and his wife want you to give up YOUR home so that THEY can make a profit, potentially leaving you and your disabled daughter homeless?

Frankly I would not only tell them where to shove their plans, but also ask them to move out asap as why on earth would you want to continue to live with such selfish people?

As long as he isn't also a tenant, I'd do this as well.

Dan-Dan

Sorry OP but this is normally the sort of post a new poster posts as a wind up, but you have been around ages so likely a true story

Disgusting behaviour, from the outside it comes across as the son is very much in the DIL familys pockets?

[Deleted User]

Get your son to come on here for advice on his situation:

My fiance and I would like to buy a cheap house, and do it up (her dad is a builder). In ten years or so, we'd hopefully sell at a profit, and built up enough equity to buy in the area that we really like. Although I live in a council house and have a right to buy, I can't exercise this as it could risk leaving my mum and disabled sister homeless.

Any ideas?

MerrilyA

You shouldn't be put in an inconvenient position for the sake of your son who is very capable of finding his own place.

Taking the easy way at the expense of others, particularly your family is not the way forward.

It's great helping family but within reason and in this case your son seems to be very capable of helping himself. In fact he should be looking to help you out as well.

If he's ready enough to be getting married, then he should be ready enough to look for his own place. That's fair and reasonable!

DigForVictory

Please do not sell your house. To anyone. Your disabled daughter deserves a safe place, you need a home to come back to & what I think of your son's suggestion is unfit for public viewing.

Many years ago, a friend of ours was helped buy her council house by her son & his business. The solicitor drew up a paper ensuring she had occupancy guaranteed til death.
Two years later, the business needed money, evicted my friend (who couldn't find the paperwork, remember who the solicitor was & seemed to have no legal recourse nor the will to fight given the shock of finding her beloved son was a [insert insult], & sold the house at a handsome profit.
She got a place in sheltered accomodation for the very old but the mess broke her.

Please, just do not do it. If nothing else, it isn't fair on your daughter as you couldn't do the same for her.