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If you have money to do the house up you can dog proof it at the same time. Have hard wearing moppable floors instead of carpet and buy some washable throws for the sofa. Your house doesn't have to smell. I know loads of people with dogs who don't have smelly houses.
You haven't had him long, give it more time before you abandon the poor thing.0 -
If you really don't want the dog and can't see yourself warming to it in time, I don't think you have much choice about keeping it. Could you restrict it to certain parts of the house - e.g. not allow it in the living room, or upstairs or not on the furniture. Perhaps that would help, but if not and it has to go, sooner rather than later would be my suggestion.
What's it going to do all day, sit in the kitchen?0 -
missbiggles1 wrote: »What's it going to do all day, sit in the kitchen?
Kitchen, dining room, utility room, garden,,,,?(AKA HRH_MUngo)
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I think some people are being unfairly harsh to the OP. She has came her for advice, not to be berated for making a decision which she probably made against her gut feeling but was made with the best intention. My husband and family want a dog. I like dogs but I don't really want one to look after. My husband works away for a month at a time. It's very hard to keep saying no when you are the only one who isn't on board.
Sorry but I don't agree. A dog is a big commitment and should have been thought about and discussed before getting. No pet is a disposable item to be got rid of because they shed some hair. People don't get rid of their children because they make a mess.dirty_magic wrote: »If you have money to do the house up you can dog proof it at the same time. Have hard wearing moppable floors instead of carpet and buy some washable throws for the sofa. Your house doesn't have to smell. I know loads of people with dogs who don't have smelly houses.
You haven't had him long, give it more time before you abandon the poor thing.
My dog is not allowed upstairs so there is a baby gate across the stairs. He is allowed on the settees but they are leather so I give them a clean at least once a week. My house definitely does not smell of dog. I know that because if it did my mother in law would tell me with glee.The world is over 4 billion years old and yet you somehow managed to exist at the same time as David Bowie0 -
You say you don't want advice. Why not?
Possibly because they have made 2 posts in three years, and have not returned to either thread.Huskyrunner wrote: »I have 5 siberian huskies that live in my home, they are part of our family, Siberian Huskies can be very destructive as a result our five live in 3 huge crates in our dining room.
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It's a sad fact of life that many people will get a dog for reasons other than they just love dogs. They're bought as "guard" dogs, as a substitute for a sibling, as Christmas presents for the spoilt kids who have everything else, as a fashion accessory, etc etc etc.
One of my friends had a dog, a lovely beagle, who was purchased simply because my friend was scared of dogs as a small child. It did nothing to cure her fear, she was (and still is) very wary of all dogs. As a consequence, the dog was locked in the kitchen, behind a child gate, all day long. She had the use of the garden but not when the kids were out there. She was so lovely but was never taken out for a walk, nor was given any fuss or attention. I asked to go into the kitchen once to give her a stroke and she was so excited, she jumped at me, knocked me over and licked my face forever! (I was around 7 at the time.) She died quite young, she was overweight from lack of exercise and had a sad life in my opinion.
My DS and OH have always wanted a dog. But I know full well that wanting a dog is not quite the same as wanting to walk a dog in the rain, picking poop in a plastic bag and brushing, bathing, vet trips and hoovering up dog hair. All of which would be left to me. If I didn't work full-time, then yes, we could have a dog. But at the moment...no.
OP's big mistake was giving in to her family. People simply can't have everything that they want. It's hard being the "bad guy" in the family sometimes, but that's just the way it has to be. If I wasn't the bad guy in our family, we'd have cats, dogs, hamsters and a 50" telly. And an ancient Jag parked outside.
OP, if it's making your life miserable then the dog will have to go. But get your family on board, tell them that the dog is theirs, not yours, and set some ground rules. You could learn to live with it and one day, you may even fall in love with him/her. You could always try reading some stories on the web of dogs who have saved the lives of their owners, if that doesn't melt your heart, nothing will!"I may be many things but not being indiscreet isn't one of them"0 -
seven-day-weekend wrote: »Kitchen, dining room, utility room, garden,,,,?
If there's an enclosed garden and the weather's fine that would be ok but, if not, that's hardly a life for a family pet.0 -
Huskyrunner wrote: »i totally have too totally agree here. You cant just bin dogs into rescue its not right, the breed we own there are 1000's in rescue and its sickening
I have 5 siberian huskies that live in my home, they are part of our family, Siberian Huskies can be very destructive as a result our five live in 3 huge crates in our dining room. I think the op needs too look at things, if your dog is destroying furniture why is it destroying furniture, if the dog skinks the house out why??..
Wash the dog, cleans its bed, if there destructive crate it, if there destructive its usually boredom lack of exercise etc
:eek::eek::eek: WHAT??!! You keep FIVE Siberian huskies in your home that live in 3 crates?!!! You have got to be kidding!
I also find it incredibly astounding that the OP has been jumped on, called cruel and unfeeling and cold, and all manner of insults, like 'maybe your family can get rid of you' and suchlike, purely for saying she is struggling to warm to the family dog. But no-one has bashed the above poster for saying they have five huskies kept in crates in the house!!! If I knew someone who did this, I would report them to the RSPCA.
Why on earth people have these massive outdoor mountain dogs from the North Pole in a small residential property just baffles me, and makes me angry! It's about time this was outlawed. They have no business being in a place like this, and as for keeping them in crates, 'so they don't mess up the house!' Well words fail me......You agreed to having the dog and you say your husband and children love it, that it's a good dog. But you now want to do up the house but don't want the dog in the house.
It's a home, surely you want it to be exactly that rather than a show home?
If you do the house up, you will be constantly cleaning anyway. Set some ground rules, don't let the dog on the furniture. If you got rid of the dog, what would the effect be on the rest of the family? My one big regret is not getting a dog when the children were small. Something they all say they missed.
Why did your children 'miss' having a dog? If they never had a dog, then how on earth could they have missed having one?! :huh:seven-day-weekend wrote: »I have sympathy for the op. It seems she made the decision against her better judgement (being the only one in the family who didn't want a dog, maybe she was trying not to be a party pooper), and now finds that it's not as easy to live with as she thought.
But the OP doesn't love the dog and didn't really want it, so to her these chores are just going to seem bigger than ever, and having the dog will not outweigh the hair and destruction.
I think she and her family need to sit down and have a good talk. Maybe the family members who DO love the dog could look after it, and maybe there could be one or two rooms the dog is not allowed into so that the OP can have a dog-free sanctuary.
I hope they manage to sort it out.
Well said. She and her family need to talk it out.Unfortunately it inevitably comes back to people not thinking ahead of what having a dog implies. OH and I would love a dog, really really would, but no so much to make the sacrifices we would have to do so. We talk about getting one when we retire, but the reality is that we also talk a lot about travelling the world, so my gut feeling is that we never will.
I am with you here. We have thought in the past, that we would like a dog, but we know that we would not be able to give the dog the time and attention he/she deserves. So we have never had one. The OP should really have thought this through more, but she didn't, so now she needs to deal with it. If that means rehoming the dog, then so be it. Far better than having a a dog she doesn't want. Some people on here are saying it's cruel to give him up, but it's no worse than keeping a dog that's unwanted. Far better for him to be rehomed with a family that truly wants him...
As I said earlier, I am willing to bet that the OP will be the one looking after the dog, cleaning up after it, and walking it anyway. I have known many a family where the kids whine and moan for a dog, then can't be bothered with it after a couple of months, when they become 'work' or an inconvenience, and it ends up with the wife/mother being lumbered with all the work.
She seriously needs to discuss it with her family.You didn't, did you? :rotfl::rotfl:0 -
:eek::eek::eek: WHAT??!! You keep FIVE Siberian huskies in your home that live in 5 crates?!!! You have got to be kidding!
I also find it incredibly astounding that the OP has been jumped on, called cruel and unfeeling and cold, and all manner of insults, like 'maybe your family can get rid of you' and suchlike, purely for saying she is struggling to warm to the family dog. But no-one has bashed the above poster for saying they have five huskies kept in crates in the house!!! If I knew someone who did this, I would report them to the RSPCA.
Why on earth people have these massive outdoor mountain dogs from the North Pole in a small residential property just baffles me, and makes me angry! It's about time this was outlawed. They have no business being in a place like this, and as for keeping them in crates, 'so they don't mess up the house!' Well words fail me......
Why did your children 'miss' having a dog? If they never had a dog, then how on earth could they have missed having one?! :huh:
Well said. She and her family need to talk it out.
I am with you here. We have thought in the past, that we would like a dog, but we know that we would not be able to give the dog the time and attention he/she deserves. So we have never had one. The OP should really have thought this through more, but she didn't, so now she needs to deal with it. If that means rehoming the dog, then so be it. Far better than having a a dog she doesn't want. Some people on here are saying it's cruel to give him up, but it's no worse than keeping a dog that's unwanted. Far better for him to be rehomed with a family that truly wants him...
As I said earlier, I am willing to bet that the OP will be the one looking after the dog, cleaning up after it, and walking it anyway. I have known many a family where the kids whine and moan for a dog, then can't be bothered with it after a couple of months, when they become 'work' or an inconvenience, and it ends up with the wife/mother being lumbered with all the work.
She seriously needs to discuss it with her family.
Three crates.
People are saying that it will be hard to rehome the dog as there are so many unwanted dogs already - it isn't an easy solution or a quick fix to the problem unless she's planning to just drop it off at the refuge.:(0 -
:eek::eek::eek: WHAT??!! You keep FIVE Siberian huskies in your home that live in 5 crates. You have got to be kidding!
Three large crates..I also find it incredibly astounding that the OP has been jumped on, called cruel and unfeeling and cold, and all manner of insults, like 'maybe your family can get rid of you' and suchlike, purely for saying she is struggling to warm to the family dog. But no-one has bashed the above poster for saying they have five huskies kept in crates in the house!!! If I knew someone who did this, I would report them to the RSPCA.
Why on earth people have these massive outdoor mountain dogs from the North Pole in a small residential property just baffles me, and makes me angry! It's about time this was outlawed. They have no business being in a place like this, and as for keeping them in crates, 'so they don't mess up the house!' Well words fail me......
To be fair we don't know what sort of property they live in, but it would have to be a huge place to house 5 huskies comfortably! These dogs are around 3 foot tall and weigh 20 kilos. They are also athletic and energetic, and can be very destructive when bored, left alone too much, or not exercised.
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