Vendor - not accepted an offer you didn't like the buyer?

Tygermoth

Did I judge her? maybe - i said nothing negative (apart from the wooden signs thing) - my comments were mostly in response to her reaction to me and she made no attempt to hide the fact she was horrified.

I was just wondering if, as the vendor having a muddy scruffy buyer turn up would put you off accepting an offer.

(to be fair - i would kill to pull off the look she had going on! she looked fab! however as the shape of a telly tubby - girly girl would look ridiculous on me)

Davesnave

k3lvc wrote: »

You're worried about being judged but the majority of your post is judging the seller :rotfl:

We all judge, otherwise we'd never make sense of the world, but surely the most important thing is having a willingness to admit that we'll often be wrong to some degree.

lush_walrus

People of course do judge and vendors are people. However, the judgement most will make or try to is will this person be easy to deal with or will this person mess me around.

EAs make the same judgement, however as they are experienced their judgement more often than not will be more accurate.

In saying that, neither will judge whether you are or are not suitable to purchase if you merely arrive scruffy. If you are late, ill prepared, rude, misinformed or shifty and someone who is warm and open in an equal position offers the same money, the choice of whom to go with is easy.

DRP

k3lvc wrote: »

You're worried about being judged but the majority of your post is judging the seller :rotfl:

Tygermoth wrote: »

Did I judge her?

If you're not judging her, then it certainly sounds like you're *pre-judging* her!

Tygermoth wrote:

I genuinely believe that even if we made an offer I don’t think she would want me in her house!

Brightspark87

We were told recently a seller did not want to sell to us as she didn't like how many questions we were asking and we annoyed her.

Luckily the house down the road seller didn't mind a jot all the questions we asked and liked us and accepted our offer.

It was £40k cheaper and I am so glad she rejected us!

But it did make us feel judged and like we were asking the wrong questions or too many. However, agent on our house we are proceeding with said none of our questions were too much and if anything she would be worried we were not serious if we didn't ask them.

All I would say is that she may judge you and may not want to sell her 'home' to you but at the end of the day it is often meant to be I feel.

fed_up_and_stressed

There was definately a type of buyer I wanted for the house I just sold. You would have been it OP. I adored the neighbours and we were mutual dog lovers.

We did a get girly girl viewer and I breathed a sigh of relief that she didn't put an offer in because I think she'd probably have been a bit of a nuisance to my poor retired neighbours (they had a yappy yorkshire terrier who although was the sweetest thing and could probably annoy little Miss hyper stress head with the dog's shrill squeaking when she went in the garden).

As it turned out we sold to a retired chap who loves dogs ..result.

pleasedelete

You judged her- there is no indication at all that she judged you.

I once refused to sell a house to a man that I didn't like. Not on his appearance but he was rude, negative about everything and very unpleasant to his wife during the viewing. We had plenty of offers and so his wasn't even considered.

Gigervamp

Davesnave wrote: »

Having met many purchasers, I can see the sense in staging a house, although it can be overdone too, especially if the dining table is set out for a formal dinner of at least 3 courses at 10 in the morning etc.

Actually....
Many years ago, I went round to the house of a friend of a friend. He was living with his parents still.
Their hallway was a decent size and quite square, so they had a dining table there.
The dining table was fully laid out complete with glasses, napkins, cutlery etc.
Apparently, it was always like that!

ScorpiondeRooftrouser

You had already told the estate agent you didn't think you would look acceptable for a viewing.

Your perception of her reaction was almost certainly shaped by your own belief that your appearance was somehow lacking.

So essentially you are criticising her judging you (in your belief; she may well not have) according to the values you had already judged yourself by.

glasgowdan

If their money is green...

People with real money often don't feel the need to show it, so that buyer with a tatty tshirt and unfashionable shoes may well have 7 figures stacked ready to spend.