Save the dates

snowscreamer

I am getting married in September and can have up to 150 day guests + 30 evening guests. We only sent out Save The Dates for the top 150 who will definitely get an invitation for the day. I plan to do two batches of invitations - one 4 months before the wedding (actually - ought to get cracking!!) which will be the top 150 day guests and a second 3 months before. Any declines that are received from the first batch will get re-issued to our favourite people currently on the "evening only" list and then we will send out "evening only" invitations to those who haven't been bumped up.

One thing I am not sure about is whether to include gift list details in the "evening only" invitations...

JuneAB

Ah yes the gift list dilemma!!

My Family only got an evening invite to my cousins wedding and was sent a cute little poem saying something along the lines of 'come and see us get married and give us money' (obviously a lot more poetic) which was a bit off as we didn't get to see them get married!

As we live together (like most people these days) we probably won't have a gift list, but at the same time I can't bring myself to out and out ask for money.

I hadn't even thought of a gift list for evening people - the way I see it, if you had a birthday party you wouldn't send the invite with a gift list, or would you?

xx

Beckyy

I wouldn't bother. If they want to come they'll make it, as long as they have reasonable notice.

Personally, I wouldn't even send them out to people coming to the actual wedding. I think an actual invite should be enough, there are very few reasons to stop people coming if they genuinely want to and have enough notice to ensure they're available. At the end of the day it's about you, not who can or can't attend.